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Still Autumn days in the village with lots of support for all kinds of MH problems - depression, anxiety, OCD, psychosis etc thread 2

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MySpideySenseTickles · 10/10/2014 15:34

The thread filled up!
I made a new one hope no one minds.

OP posts:
Pulledapart · 25/10/2014 16:44

Well done on cooking orchard sounds yummy Smile
DH cooking tonight not sure what yet Hmm as long as it's edible Grin

Living room looks like a bomb site even though it was spotless this morning but I think I'll wait till DD is asleep then help DH tidy up.

Victrix · 25/10/2014 16:58

My mum has brought me a gluten free food mag to read. I'm really just making myself hungry now Grin

Thinking of all of you x

Pulledapart · 25/10/2014 17:03

victrix that would make me write out a shopping list for DH Grin hope ur having a good weekend x

Collardove · 25/10/2014 17:10

Victrix - how are you today? What have they said at the hospital re your gallstones?

Has everyone else had a fairly ok day?

I have had a nice day in the sunshine out in the garden. Cutting the lawn and tidying everything up. Put a few winter pansies in my window box. I like them as they look like smiley faces.

Looking forward to strictly and xfactor. Pizza tonight yum!

TheOrchardKeeper · 25/10/2014 17:51

Pulled - People forget sometimes, you just get ill. It doesn't always have an obvious cause and that also falls under guilt tripping, which is counter productive in itself Grin Hmm Bit scary to think he could've said that to someone feeling even worse etc...some people.

Also looking foward to X-factor cheese. Gardening is always nice once you get into it Smile

CaulkheadUpNorth · 25/10/2014 17:56

Could I join in? Have just come out f hospital following an overdose and mn seems the only place where other people "get" that depression happens etc.

I can offer fresh bread from the farmers market and knitted woollen blankets when needed. I've also got a pretty good line in cheese jokes.

TheOrchardKeeper · 25/10/2014 18:03

Hey caulk

Can I hear a cheese joke?

(P.S just posted on your thread) Smile

Pulledapart · 25/10/2014 18:12

Lucky you collar for getting some sunshine it's been a dull day here or maybe I've just not paid much attention to the outside world today!
Glad ur day has been nice and pizza sounds the way to go after you gardening efforts.

DH has made a vegetable curry with naan bread - looks n smells yummy lets hope it tastes good.

Yes orchard it is scary but it does happen a lot. When I fell ill some MH worker in the home treatment team made a similar comment to me which included my DD as an example. That made me see Red and i went mad and ripped into her. She tried to justify it by saying I'm only trying to help Hmm what by telling me my DD is likely to commit suicide too because of me Shock i swear to God I could have punched her and till date I've never been that angry ever. I just can't believe how these kind of people who clearly have no empathy get jobs in MH services. Surely empathy is one skill you need. Gosh I'm feeling angry even typing about it.

CaulkheadUpNorth · 25/10/2014 18:17

Orchard- this is one of my best ones...

What did the cheese say when he looked into the mirror?

Halloumi!

Pulledapart · 25/10/2014 18:21

Welcome caulk Flowers

TheOrchardKeeper · 25/10/2014 18:24

Ha! So bad it's good Grin

Pulled - I also had some very un-proffessional night staff on the ward tell me I'd give DS problems if I was still ill when he's older etc. Errrr wtaf Hmm Grin did complain and of course most of the staff were lovely

Mentalpsychiatrist · 25/10/2014 18:56

Hi orchard and caulk.

I've had a good day. Horse riding this morning and then a trip to waitrose in the afternoon. I'm now going to make my special prawn curry for dinner and have opened a nice bottle of wine.

TheOrchardKeeper · 25/10/2014 18:59

Oo sounds lovely Smile

CaulkheadUpNorth · 25/10/2014 19:01

Ooh that sounds nice. I stroked some horses and they were lovely, so I can imagine riding was fun. Enjoy the curry.

ScreamerMaanAndGoryOn · 25/10/2014 19:25

I keep thinking I've posted in here and then keep being surprised when I haven't. I'm permanently cold and tired at the moment, probably from all the running around I've been doing lately getting me run down.

The house is finally on the market! I won't link on here as I don't want to out myself, but it's actually happening and I'm going to go and look at some houses next week.

My cheese joke: what do you call cheese that doesn't belong to you?

Nacho cheese - You may need to say it out loud to get it,

TheOrchardKeeper · 25/10/2014 19:47

Congrats your house is finally on the market. Nice name change Grin Wine

MySpideySenseTickles · 25/10/2014 20:52

Had a pretty good day today, bought ds some massively expensive olaf slippers and dropped plenty of not so subtle hints about what Dh can get me from Santa, light up Christmas jumper anyone?
He's finally got a new car which is getting delivered on Monday, Mercedes Benz a class (sounds posh but it's quite an old one)
Sil's came round tonight to play computer games and they're really excited to have ds for a full day one day next week while he's off school, we're even planning towards him sleeping over there, he's never spent a night away from me and no one else has ever put him to bed so it's a big step for me.

I looked really good today too, I never look in the mirror and like what I see but I did today, my outfit looked nice and was flattering my hair looked good and a looked quite slim.
Dh said I looked like one of those models in the plus size catalogue, good job I know what he meant, he meant curvy whereas before I looked like a cross between an tramp and a football.

But still seeing things, A bird flew in front of the car this afternoon except it didn't, there was no bird, I just saw a black streak go past the window.

I'm going to bring it up with the Dr on Monday when I go. And also try and fond out what's happening with the cmht as its been almost a month and no word from them, I just feel like I have no where to turn.

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ScreamerMaanAndGoryOn · 25/10/2014 21:34

I've developed this strange twitch where I keep going onto right move and look at my house.

Why am I doing this? I'm sat in it FFS.

NanaNina · 25/10/2014 22:49

LOVE your new name keema! So glad you've sorted the house out and hope you find somewhere nice to live in the same area. I've been saying "nacho cheese" out loud a few times before I got it. DP is giving me strange looks. To the emerald isle tomorrow to see son dil and most importantly my grandchildren, just hoping the evil headmonster falls into a deep sleep - would prefer a coma, but no such luck I fear. He needs a rest he's been very active lately.

Arse to the crass comments made by MH "professionals" - I was told to "pull myself together" by a NA when an IP - and to "cheer up" by another one. Mind the worst was one sunny Saturday morning when I was outside and the nurses were too and they were all talking about BBQs and I felt I was not "of the human race" and very scared. A male staff nurse came and asked me "you ok NN" (which was their usual comment) I said "No" and he said "what's your forward plan" - Me: "do you really want to know" Him: "Yes" Me: "To get rid of myself" and guess what....... he just walked away without another word. Great eh!

Collardove · 25/10/2014 22:49

Ha! Screamer I do that and my house isn't even for sale!! I just like to look at it on street view or zoopla.

Collardove · 25/10/2014 22:51

Nana - we posted at the same time!
Have a lovely time seeing your family. Yes hope your headmonster keeps itself to itself :) safe trip xx

DizzyKipper · 25/10/2014 22:52

God that is awful NN. You have to wonder why they even bother if they're just going to be like that.

TheOrchardKeeper · 26/10/2014 08:30

Nana Some people just forget that people are so, so different. One person's hell is another person's heaven etc. They might be able to pull themselves up from lows, rather than get lower and lower etc but that doesn't mean it's the same for everyone else. But it's like they've decided the world just works that way because it seems so for them. My mum said 'well I wish I understood, but I've always been strong and just never gotten sick because of that etc'. Hmm

I think dusting yourself off 8 times when you've fallen down 7 (or however many times you've had to) makes you stronger than most! Grin

Spidey - Hope it doesn't start really getting in the way of things. Sounds like a pain in the bum, as well as disconcerting! Brew

Taking DS to the zoo with a friend today so hope that picks me up a bit. Nervous about crowds though so we're going early

Hope everyone else has a good sunday Smile

CaulkheadUpNorth · 26/10/2014 09:00

One of the most helpful things I found was someone saying to me "I don't understand depression, but I do know it's very real and difficult". Given that everyone else had been giving me advice along the lines of put it behind you/new day today/etc it made a big difference.

TheOrchardKeeper · 26/10/2014 09:20

That's more the kind of thing you need to hear at the time Caulk Smile

One of the things that made me the saddest/angriest, was that it's invisible. You can feel like you're going through hell and yet if someone just took you at face value, they'd think you were fine. That's another reason it can be very isolating. You can't see it to understand it, like a fracture or the flu.

It used to make me tearful if people were actually understanding/kind, as so many people aren't Blush Grin