Please or to access all these features

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Autumn days in the village with lots of support for all kinds of MH problems - depression, anxiety, OCD, psychosis etc

999 replies

fluffydressinggown · 14/09/2014 22:50

Shiny new thread. xx

OP posts:
thornbird123 · 17/09/2014 17:35

Just take the meds! I take antipsychotics and have my connection anyway :)

Pyrr: I have special connection to aliens. I have seen them too. But that was a while ago.

MySpideySenseTickles · 17/09/2014 17:38

Take the meds fluffy, even if you don't think they'll help at least it will keep the drs happy and you might not need to go to picu.

Ds is three, at school they just put him in a five min time out, they don't seem to do anything else.
I've got a reward chart, he's got no tokens at all, I've taken nearly all his toys away, I don't think he'll ever get pudding again and he's spending a lot of time in his room. It's hard because by the time I pick him up its often 1-2 hours since it happened so the moment to punish has passed really.
Dh wants me to discuss with the teacher whether we need to take him out of school to keep the other kids safe. I don't really want to but the alternative is he keeps hurting children, when we got to school today ds ran across the playground to play with a little boy who said "no ds name, I don't want to play with you I don't like you you're horrible" it broke my heart, ds barely reacted like he's heard the same a hundred times he just walked away.

It's breaking my heart I don't know what to do to help him.

LEMmingaround · 17/09/2014 18:33

Spidey - i wonder if you should reinstate the puddings! I agree with you. The time for punishment is at the time not a few hours later. I don't think the nursery are handling this very well. I think talk to him about it rather than punish. Tell him it makes you feel sad and give him a big cuddle and be positive and say - but lets not be sad. You are a good boy really and we wont do it again. Then lots of praise etc etc. All easy for me to say of course. Thanks

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 18:41

Spidey - there's some interesting advice on this page here - www.zerotothree.org/child-development/challenging-behavior/chew-on-this-resources-on-biting.html

I don't know if that's any help x

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 19:19

Fluffy, this is said with much love. Take the meds.

If hospital sucks arse, the PICU as you know sucks sweaty fetid balls.

Take a little leap of faith in what the people around you are telling you, that you're poorly. It's doesn't make what you're feeling any less real, it's just means that you need to give a tiny bit of headspace to wondering if they're right and taking the meds.

Reality is a funny thing I know and your destiny is very real to you. but the other reality, the one where you're living a happy life out with your family and friends, starting a family, socialising and having fun, sounds a much better prospect than the PICU and regular injections.

SnowyMouse · 17/09/2014 19:29

Please take the meds, fluffy, hugs.

LEMmingaround · 17/09/2014 19:37

Fantastic post keema! Fluffy please take the meds x

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:04

I agree with Lem :) Well said post Keema- please take your meds fluffy

Have had a day with my friend helping me completely redo my cv, and help me with another job application. Fit to drop now after all that!

Sorry Nana, Nethuns and Spidey that it's not been a good day ((hugs))

Pulled - how is your dad?

Am going to wind down now and watch Great British Bake a Off - yay!!

SnowyMouse · 17/09/2014 20:07

I'm watching GBBO too, makes me want to eat though ;)

Pyrrhagena · 17/09/2014 20:16

At the risk of sounding like a parrot: Take the meds fluffy! I'm afraid I don't know what PICU or section 3 is, but taking them yourself, even if you don't think they are worth anything, has got to be better than an injection!

spidey stop with the punishments! As you say, the time to punish him for biting is right after it happens. A simple no, we don't bite. Stick in time out. Then at the end explain what he did was wrong, it hurts, makes the person sad and finish. There is just no point you punishing him once he gets home. Is there anything he sees/does at home that could be influencing his behaviour. We let DS watch tom and jerry. Huge mistake. I noticed a distinct improvement in his behaviour when I said he wasn't allowed to watch it anymore. Same with the iPad, I banned it for a week because he threw it on the floor when I asked him to stop and come to tea. His change in his behaviour was dramatic, he has barely had it the past month and he no longer asks for it. He is less violent. What also helped us was a glow In the dark star chart. At first it was for small things, doing as asked, getting shoes on when asked etc. When he goes to bed we lie and look at the stars and see how many he has and say how nice it was he did x and thank him, or how proud of what he has done. When he gets a certain number (started simple, with 5) he took them off and in exchange he got a present. Then gradually increased the number if stars and expectations. Now he gets a star if I have a good report at the end of the day from school, he's kind to someone or helps with something. He loves it. And it is such a change from last year (when he was 3!) no more hitting, kicking etc. If he's had a bad report (like yesterday when he destroyed another child's creation) then I say how disappointed I am to hear what he did, tell him it wasn't kind to upset the other child and that today he won't be getting a star. And then say nothing more. It's far more effective for us than confiscating toys etc.

We made a conscious decision not to punish/reward with food because we didn't want them to associate sweet things as being a reward, rather that it's something that we sometimes eat in small amounts after a meal. So unless one makes a mess at the table then they still get a pudding.

Three is really, really little. Give him time. He is still learning.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 20:16

I'm watching GBBO too.

I could now murder pasty.

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:17

I'm with you on that snowy!
I am having a nice mini snack pack of Jaffa cakes with a Nescafé latte :)

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 20:18

Pyrr, PICU is psych intensive care and a section 3 means they can detain you for up to 6 months.

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:33

Do you have a favourite on bake off snowy and keema? I do like Martha, she is a clever young lady!

I always chuckle at Mary berry. On channel 4 googlebox they said she is a dead ringer for skeletore the baddie from the cartoon 'he man' - and it is quite true!! :P

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 20:42

I like Martha too.

I can't remember any of the other names though Grin

SnowyMouse · 17/09/2014 20:43

I like Martha too (and also can't remember the others).

SnowyMouse · 17/09/2014 20:44

Uh oh, Martha's going wrong with creme pate.

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:46

Oh I love eclairs - yum. Not sure about all the extravagant fillings. Bog standard cream inside and choc on the top will do me just fine and dandy :)

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 20:48

Im very partial to confectioners custard (creme pate?)

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:50

Ooh yea keema I would eat it by the bucket it's yum! M&s do a Choux bun with creme pate inside, with Belgian choc on the top - it's the best :)

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 17/09/2014 20:54
SnowyMouse · 17/09/2014 20:56

That sounds yummy, collardove, I love confectioners custard too.

thornbird123 · 17/09/2014 20:59

I don't like cakes, you can have them. I feel muddled because somehow aliens feel comforting but on the other hand they make me feel angry.

Collardove · 17/09/2014 20:59

It is snowy. The best thing is it comes as a pack of 2!! :)

That was a nice hour spent winding down watching good telly.

I am off for a nice bath and earlyish night.

Nite and catch you all tomorrow ;)

Pulledapart · 17/09/2014 21:11

Ohhhh all this yummy food talk is making me hungry for cakes Smile

Dad is doing well thanks for asking collar

Just popped by to wish u all a good night. I'm shattered so going to bed early! X