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Pare · 16/07/2014 19:14

Hi, thought I might try another thread as I've missed having somewhere to offload. Thanks for all the support on the other one, I have saved it and removed certain posts so that I can look at it when I need something to focus on.

I went to the meeting with the manager of the Crisis Team tonight and it was really difficult even though he accepted that they had got things wrong. He said I have to keep attending or they will have me assessed under the Mental Health Act. I don't really trust them though and it is going to be really hard. He suggested meeting with the nurse who I saw on Monday, and with him, to try and talk it through and come to an understanding. I don't know if that will be too much.

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SilverStars · 02/08/2014 00:00

Hi, sorry things have been difficult.
Especially that you feel unhappy with the lack of help. If you feel you need to be in a psychiatric hospital do take yourself to an A&E and ask for assessment.

It sounds like you not happy with MH staff and the lack of support. Sadly that is how it is in the NHS. You may not feel it but you got crisis team support for a period of time, medication and suggested referral to counselling with a date already for assessment. The daily, weekly, compassionate help with long term commitment of support from a good and reliable worker is not the provision the NHS makes realistically - which may be what you hope for? Crisis team deal with people only for short term and discharge people when they are still ill. It is partly about taking responsibility for own recovery - such as a holiday, compassionate self care and waiting for referrals. Yes it is horrid to have to wait. Just as it is with horribly painful physical illnesses. What can you do in the short term to help you?

Everyone accessing services are triaged and depending on diagnosis are given treatment options. Where I live the CMHT treats onky those with diagnosis of bipolar, schizophrenia, those who have been under a section and a few others. It may be the case where you live.

Why not look for charities and private options to get what you want? Whilst waiting for NHS appointment? may be worth a few sessions? Private therapists do long term work. Some people offer reduced fees if money is a problem. Some charities offer sessions - have you looked into what is in your area?

If you are a danger to yourself or others then 111 or A&E are the best bet for immediate help. It will not jump you up the queue for talking treatment but can get you through immediate dangerous situations.

alittlebitmeh · 02/08/2014 00:28

I hope you will Pare. Thinking of you Thanks

alittlebitmeh · 02/08/2014 00:28

I hope you will be back I mean x

chockbic · 02/08/2014 00:43

Can you give yourself another day and see how you feel?

Its tiny steps really and being kind to yourself.

bluebell345 · 02/08/2014 08:22

Pare, how long have you been having suicidal thoughts? maybe the ad causing it or making you more fixate with it.
you have many positives in your life, you have to see them.
can you think for example today as new day of your new life and forget about past, see it as a new starting point, look to the future, what good things you can do.
we value you so much and I am sure the people in your RL value you very much, too.
best wishes.

temporaryusername · 03/08/2014 19:47

Pare, please keep going like your thread title says. I hope you are ok, you can always come and post here remember.

alittlebitmeh · 03/08/2014 20:41

Please do let us know how you're doing - for us if not for yourself x

Dutchoma · 03/08/2014 22:43

Thinking of you at bed time Pare

chockbic · 04/08/2014 14:33

Pare do you need to talk?

susiedaisy · 04/08/2014 21:55

Thinking of you pareThanksBrew

bluebell345 · 04/08/2014 23:47

me too, I am thinking of you, too.
please update us :(

andsmile · 05/08/2014 10:49

Hello Pare I have just read your whole thread.

I think you sound incredibly articulate about how you feel.
I was particulalry annoyed with them MHT referring to you being able to do your job - this is called being functional with an illness. and being bloody resilient. I think this shows how strong you are.
You have a very demanding job and homelike, looking after your mum - it must be very difficult to find time for yourself.

Re your PTSD, it is clear from yoour posts how scared you are and I get a sense of it suffocating you to the point you dont know what is you and 'that' anymore. On top of this you have the unwelcome visitors of depression and anxiety. These are not who you are I think you have shoed a lot of self care by going to GP and MHT. I noted how you go out for walks, care for other and your cats when you are poorly.

I would be inclind to consider going private as someone up thread said, take a lot of time to shop around for a therapist that specialises in PTSD - but one which relates to you area too.

I also felt the use of an analogy may help, I suggest one below but you may come up with your own a better one:

Lets say you have five boxes inside your brain. That one box is full of dirty stinking rotton rubbish. This box wont stay shut and spills its contents. This makes the other boxes smelly and you are constantly tidying up after this box. The box sits there all the time - making more mess. You are so tired of tidying up this boxes mess. It's spoiling the others.

I thought pare as you find it so painful and are scared to talk that using such an analogy when you speak to a professional may help you to find words.

Opening that box - that box should never have been put there, it is not your fault but that box needs to be opened. The box has lots of small and big items in it. Some more or less painful maybe - you can sort you your box.

I sincerely hope this helps. I hope you are still taking steps for self care.

andsmile · 06/08/2014 00:48

Ive checked a couple of times back here.

I so do hope you are ok pare

YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 06/08/2014 17:22

Pare, you've said you are no longer going to post here. I think it was pretty clear what you meant to do, but i do hope you changed your mind and didnt make it final. If you do post here again, then that will be great. Meanwhile I am going to hold out hope that you just decided on a name change, or a break from Mumsnet, and send you hugs and love and prayers for some practical and lasting help.

andsmile · 07/08/2014 10:42

I hope so to YeGods

temporaryusername · 07/08/2014 21:41

Me too. Thinking of you Pare, and hoping you're able to come back and post if you want to at any time.

Dutchoma · 11/08/2014 18:07

Still looking out for you, Pare.

alittlebitmeh · 11/08/2014 18:17

Yes, me to x

susiedaisy · 11/08/2014 20:03

Me to PareThanks

adviceforme · 11/08/2014 20:18

Was hoping to see a hello when I saw thread up near top of TIO.

Grin Pare

Dutchoma · 21/08/2014 19:31

I do hope you are ok, I am still looking, let us know how you are if you can. PM me if you'd rather.

YesitismePare · 28/08/2014 16:30

Hello, it is Pare. I deleted the old account and with it the name back when I stopped posting.

I've been in hospital but was discharged on Tuesday.

Hope everyone is well.

alittlebitmeh · 28/08/2014 16:55

Hi Pare. So glad to see you back. How are you doing if that's not a silly question? X

YesitismePare · 28/08/2014 16:59

I'm okay. Starting some private therapy next week and now on 200 mg of sertraline. Have a call from NHS counselling tomorrow to assess me. Still feel that everything is pointless and that I would like to go to sleep and never wake up but I have no plans to hurt myself.

alittlebitmeh · 29/08/2014 00:11

I really hope the counselling is helpful to you. Do you have to go back to work next week? It does sound like you have made some progress, I really hope that continues for you.