"Summer is Coming, the Village is warm and safe - support for depression, anxiety and other MH issues"

[LollipopViolet]

New thread, everyone :) First attempt at a thread title for us.

I've just posted on the old one, am really struggling today. Was feeling numb, still do, to be honest. Need to get myself through today.

I hope your GP is helpful, collardove. You need to take baby steps and be kind to yourself.

I hope you get a decent night's sleep and feel better, nethunsreject

Love and sleep to all!

Hi all

collar I feel better for a restful morning, and also for seeing my counsellor and having a friend round this evening. I feel mostly OK in myself which I think is really good going given what's going on. I think I am getting my head round the idea of some sort of couples counselling. Thanks Nana yes I think men and women living together is a big challenge!!!

nethuns hope you get some peace this evening!

snowy cross for you! But hope the tv was good I am about to watch Welcome to Rio...

Wow lem busy day! But you're soooo right about aiming to be a good person and how that feels.

silvery lovely to hear from you, hope tomorrow's less treacly.

hi twosacrowd how are you doing now?

collar hope GP is helpful tomorrow. Just be honest about how you are...

Hi and thanks all for your supportive words :)

Nethuns - glad your migraine has passed by now. Hope DH takes a hint and gives you a little time to yourself! Pesky men..... :)

CIQ - I did couples counselling with DH when we were going through the last rites of marriage stage 4years ago.

We only did 3 sessions, and found it helpful in that it proved we could sit down and talk. Albeit we had a referee!! In the end it proved to be a bit expensive. Some say you can't put a price on these things, but I am afraid we had too (a £500+ bill from the garage for DH's car) and sorted out the rest of our issues between us.

Snowy - hope you also get a good night sleep :) x

Hope all are ok today. I'm surrounded by boxes here. I think my leg is probably due to my knee. I suggested to DH I went to the doctor and he said he didn't see any need. He asked where it feels weird (still does) and started pressing around my knee and one part was really painful, but I only feel it when I put pressure on it. I doubt there is anything the doctor can do and we really don't have any spare money at the moment. I shall wait until my next prescription is running out and ask then if it still feels weird.

We are surrounded by packing boxes! We can only get into the cellar for the moment, so DH in a fit of ummmm practicality has started emptying the bookshelves to pack the boxes up. I did point out that we now have boxes of books that are very heavy that we can't do anything with and wouldn't it make a little more sense to pack the stuff that will go into the cellar so at least we can move the boxes out and not fall over them for the next month. He has now gone out to the new place to set up the shelving in the cellar so we can start to move stuff a little more intelligently! I'm having difficulty throwing things away :(

That's rubbish snowy I hope someone came to visit you in the end.
Lem how are you doing, I can't remember if I answered your last PM. Sorry.
Hope your meds are settling down TSP and your's NN
Sorry your time away wasn't as restful as it could have been CIQ. I must admit I'm finding it hard having DH around for 3 weeks :P I can't laze around with the kids as much as I usually do! No lie-ins for me whilst they watch a film next to me.

Must go and pack a few boxes... and try and reconcile how it's all going to fit into the new place (we are losing two rooms in the main flat but gaining a cellar). Doesn't help that we had some wine at lunch time. Very nice wine I might add

Hello all.

TUL, hope the house move is going ok. There's nothing more stressful as far as I'm concerned. My last one triggered a particularly entertaining manic episode.

All ok-ish here. Still working which is good. Feeling low and was stood up by my CPN this afternoon which was less good. Going to see if a load of paperwork that I didn't get done today will cheer me up.

Good luck with the packing, (((( TUL )))) It all sounds very stressful

Sorry your CPN cancelled, mp, maybe they're related to mine?

I hope the paperwork does cheer you up!

phew paperwork mp good luck!

hang in there tul you sound like you're doing really well.

How's everyone else doing?

I am feeling very sick tonight with the whole dh thing fortunately he's out this evening. Life is feeling rather surreal.

Hmm - seem to be on a bit of a low - finding it hard to decide things, and to clean house. Could be because Quetiapine was reduced last week, cos of drowsiness I suppose. Am keeping a mood diary and seeing CPN next week, and the psych sometime soon after that.

Part of me is feeling low because of self-stigma about being hospitalised with mania, I think. But also because it has brought back all the crap that Ex claimed about our marriage - he was booted out of his business shortly after my first manic episode, but says he gave up work because I was unable to care for the children! Actually, it was doing the housework single handedly I couldn't cope with - and by the end of our marriage he was refusing any simple request for help with just a No. He claimed he had to stay at home and do nothing, while I managed to find employment twice (not easy with a mh record) - and got depressed both times (on top of depression about living with a cocklodger). Now I can't say anything to our grown kids, at least till DD is no longer his lodger.

I actually thought my depression was the cause of our relationship problems, mostly, until discovering MN and finally divorcing him. I had got past all the ranting till recently (he finally went just under 2 years ago) but sorry folks, it seems to have returned.

((( CIQ ))) ((( silvery )))

Hi all. Gosh, moving is hard going, hope it goes ok leech. Hi again mp, paperwork, what fun ; ). Seriously though, if you're in a calm place sometimes it's strangely distracting in a good way, for me anyway. I dare say the paperwork you're contending with is more than a little more challenging than mine!! ; ).
Evening ciq, snowy collardove fluffy, et all.
I'm still in a venting mood but mainly knackered and not coping with work. Or poor dh. He is my rock but he is crumbling himself just now . Feel very alone and helpless/ hopeless. Had a bath and aiming for early night. Ds 1 kept us awake last night with his cough. Ffs!! Need sleep!!

silvery, hi, on borrowed tablet so can't remember all names at once!

Hello everyone - haven't had a very good day - new meds making me feel odd (can't really explain) may be side effects - only on day 3 so early days.

I am going to be a selfish sod tonight and just say I am really upset because some bloody MNetter who always disagrees with me and "preaches" to me on the Adoption thread (and is one of the reasons I stay away from that thread) has popped up on another thread I was on totally unrelated to adoption and has once again "put me in my place" - I'm annoyed that it's bothering me so much but it is.......aaaaaaargh. Oh god I hope she doesn't find me here!!

Oh nethun just seen you are feeling so crap tonight and wonder if you went back to work too soon. Do you mind saying what you do. Is DH "crumbling" in a MH way - I really hope not. Hope you get good sleep.

snowy hope that damn CPN shows up this week as I suspect you are struggling a bit.

Silvery I will PM you tomorrow.

I must get to bed as I've promised myself an early night. I get on here and suddenly it's 1.00 a.m.

Sending warm wishes to everyone

Trying out a new name as lem told me to change :p and I didn't like the one I tried a couple of days ago.

Hope you're feeling better soon nn and the mess settle down. I'm assuming you don't mean odd in a good way. Ignore the other mnetter, you can't always agree with everyone so just put it down to being polar opposites! And is s/he is disagreeing just because it's you then they're not worth the time of day anyway. At least its no one you know in real life! Did you get that early night?

Hugs ciq I've noting sensible to say I'm afraid. How are you snowy. And lem. And everyone else? I hope you're move is going ok dd.

I'm in shock, I suggested to DH that he took DS out for a bit and....he has! I was expecting my head to be bitten off, but he has agreed to take him on a day trip and he will go off on his bike tomorrow. I have groups to take Dd to today and DS is really a bit old for them now. So, they left at 730 and DD are about to go out. He told DS that mummy and DS were staying at home to hit the shops. I'm very tempted to do that now! I painted my nails this morning, which I have t done for a couple of years and DD asked for some too. So I did her toes. Is that bad? She is a bit young, but it's clear stuff and not proper nail varnish, a seaweed extract one. It's the only make-up type stuff I ever use so the only 'girly' thing I can do with her!

Right, I'm off out. I might even be able to Hoover whilst she has her nap. Wow! Have a nice day everyone.

Hi, like your new name pyrrh, that sounds nice, doing nail polish with your dd . Hope you got some zzzs, nana.

I'm struggling. Can't be bothered moving today. DH not in a good way either (MH, plus he's really knackered too). I need him to get me some cash out on the way home because I need to go out tomorrow and taxi is the only option, but he'll make a fuss about cash (even though we have enough!). Can't be arsed really with anything. Ho hum

Hi everyone.

Yes Nethuns I second that Pyrrh is a good name :)

Nethuns - sorry that both you and DH are both struggling today.

My GP did sign me off work again yesterday, also gave me Zopiclone so that I can get some sleep. Had hardly any sleep other then cat naps in the past few weeks.

Went to bed for a lie down late after noon yesterday. Decided at 5pm to take a tablet. Slept through until 7.30 am!

NanaNina - sorry to read you have been upset by another MNetter on another thread :( Did you get to bed earlier as promised?

I am going now to see my neighbours new puppy, I would really love to have a dog again.

Hugs to you sell :) x

Or rather hugs to you 'all' !! X

CPN has cancelled again Until next Thursday.

(((( all ))))

collar , wow, glad you got some sleep!!
snowy , that's dreadful of cpn : ( xxx

Trying to make dinner, but one of those days where it's difficult.

It has been a valid reason each time, just one of those things

I hope you get some progress on dinner nethunsreject. What are you having?

Ah, that's fair enough, just hard on you though . Dinner was horrible - I couldn't be bothered so it was chips and beans, not what we usually have!!

Went to my 2nd support group meeting today - now I'm used to the format a bit more, I found it really good. It was a very emotional group, several members dealing with personal tragedies :( but it was nice, I was able to share experiences and talk about my granddad, which really helped.

I will keep going whenever I'm volunteering on a Thursday morning, but probably won't during the summer holidays - I think I can go the 4/5 weeks volunteering isn't on without support.

Snowy - Sorry you were let down once again :( How have you been today aside from that?

Nethuns - I fried whatever veg I had lurking in the fridge onions,peppers, mushrooms and bacon in a pan. Threw in some leftover Jersey royal potatoes, and added around 6 eggs. Grated cheese on top and under the grill and that was dinner done!! An omelette/frittata has saved me many a time when don't have a clue what to make :)

I saw my neighbours new puppy. I only intended to pop in quickly, but ended up staying for 2 hours! It fell asleep on my lap and I just didn't want to put her down!

Lovely little golden cocker spaniel :) I did read in last months Psychologies magazine an article - the secret to happy living 'give more, care less and get a dog'.

We always had dogs in my side of the family. DH is keen, but each time I mention in he just worries of the expense. Now DC are older, DS at uni and in a year DD will follow suit and I have the time....

Hope everyone has had an ok day? At least the sun made an appearance today :)

Oh that's good to hear Lollipop :)

I am going along next week for the first time to a support group meeting organised by my local MIND counsellor, and I am looking forward to that x