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Moving forward day by day [crisis team part two ]

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bassetfeet · 26/11/2013 21:01

Hi Fluffy Flowers just calling in to wish you a lovely peaceful sleep x

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fluffydressinggown · 03/02/2014 21:44

Sorry to hear that snowy I am glad your CPN is supporting you though.

DBT 1:1 tomorrow and I don't know what to say. Feeling very disconnected from things.

fluffydressinggown · 06/02/2014 19:30

I am still finding DBT very boring but it is ok, just, don't feel like I am getting as much out of it as I should be.

I have felt really good this week, in control and calm which is good :)

SnowyMouse · 06/02/2014 19:36

That's good fluffy Smile I hope the DBT improves.

fluffydressinggown · 08/02/2014 18:41

I have had such a good week and now it seems to be going down the pan.

I have this horrible horrible urge to cut, and to do it properly.

So frustrating!

SnowyMouse · 08/02/2014 18:43

Oh no fluffy resist and distract? Hugs

larahusky · 08/02/2014 19:28

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fluffydressinggown · 08/02/2014 21:25

The DBT has two parts.

I have an hour 1:1 with a (very nice) nurse (not my CPN) and we look at the diary card I have to complete and then talk about how I could have used DBT skills to deal with my feelings around self harm. While I still feel like self harming we have to talk about it, only when I don't feel like it can we talk about other things. I don't mind the 1:1.

Then I have 2.5 hours of group work. We review the skills we learned last week, do some mindfullness exercises then they teach us a DBT skill (interpersonal skills, emotional regulation and distress tolerance). It just feels like they are stating the obvious at the moment which is why I find it boring, but I do try to engage and take it on board because knowing something and doing it are two different things!

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ItsSoooFluffy · 09/02/2014 14:26

Hi Fluffy, I have been following your story since your previous thread, I am glad to see you are doing much better than this time last year but sad to see that you still struggle at times. I can relate to you in a lot of ways and I hope the dbt helps you Smile

SnowyMouse · 09/02/2014 16:05

It does sound a lot of work. Worth it if it helps Smile

fluffydressinggown · 09/02/2014 17:08

Lara i agree that engaging with therapy is really hard work. You can't just turn up and talk, I have found it difficult talking about some stuff, some of it just feels so personal.

fluffydressinggown · 12/02/2014 17:38

I am starting to look for work again and it is really hard. I have only applied for one job and didn't hear anything. Trying not to catastrophise but I am worried about managing to get back to work with a 2 year gap in my CV. I am also trying to get into a different area (admin) and feel so sad that I am leaving teaching behind.

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fluffydressinggown · 13/02/2014 20:39

Thanks Lara I am working with a team that help people with MH issues go back to work and she rang me today and gave me a little pep talk.

I feel like my mood has really dipped these past few days.

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fluffydressinggown · 14/02/2014 18:44

Yes, maybe it is the pressure.

I am looking into volunteering as well to help boost my CV. I have a lot of difficult feelings tied into work which doesn't help really.

Anyway, something positive, this time last year I had spent part of the day in seclusion (a locked room) and then spent the evening on constant observations and seen DH in a room in the hospital. This year I am at home, I went to weight watchers, had lunch out with DH and now we are having a M&S dine in for two meal for dinner. Such a huge difference in where my life is now.

Messupmum · 14/02/2014 18:47

I want to 'like' your previous post fluffy. Enjoy your evening

SnowyMouse · 14/02/2014 18:51

That's great fluffy Smile

fluffydressinggown · 18/02/2014 12:05

I really really want to self harm, but I can't this week, which makes things hard.

SnowyMouse · 18/02/2014 12:23

Hugs fluffy hang on in there.

fluffydressinggown · 18/02/2014 17:29

Thanks.

I applied for a job today, I don't know how I will feel if I actually get a job but I have to start somewhere I guess.

Everyone keeps saying how well I am doing and I am turning their positive thoughts into lots of negative feeling pressure, which is so frustrating. Why can't I just allow myself to get better?

Messupmum · 18/02/2014 17:43

Because it's not what you're used to. You're not used to things getting better or going ok, and the negative thoughts keep creeping back. Whatever job comes along, it may not be the first one you apply for, I hope you feel an achievement and proud of yourself after your first day. Good luck. Keep fighting.

Can I just ask, did your stay as an inpatient help you at all? Did it scare/shock you into trying to fight it more? I guess friends and families concern must have been hard for you too, and more determined to stay safe? Sorry if I'm wrong, and you don't have to answer x

Sijeunessesavait · 18/02/2014 18:04

Dear Fluffydressinggown

I've been lurking on your thread for ages, and am so impressed with how far you've come in the past year.

I hope this quote from Louise Hay might help you just a little bit:

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”

Please be kind to yourself - you have climbed a mountain and you're still going!

fluffydressinggown · 18/02/2014 19:08

Thanks for that thoughtful quote Sijeunessesavait

My most recent admission, which was four months last year was very much around me having bizarre thoughts and being actively suicidal rather than SI so I don't think it had much impact on that. My admissions in 2012 were about SI, the biggest trigger for me being admitted was concerns that I would accidentally kill myself with my SI, I can escalate quite quickly when I am unwell.

I think what surprised me most the first time I was admitted was that if you were really focused on hurting yourself you still could. I think I thought that being in hospital would magically make me safe and it didn't. I thought I would have scheduled time to talk about things and actually unless you ask for 1:1 time you don't get it.

By my second admission I was a lot more focused on recovery and used my time to let myself heal and put some distance between my last SI.

Seeing some of the things I saw in hospital made me determined not to let my life be taken over with MH problems. I saw women who were older than me blaming everyone around them for their disrupted life and not taking any ownership of it, and I realised that I had to make the choice to recover. I didn't want to look back on the next ten years and have another decade of MH problems.

It has not been easy and I still feel frustrated when I talk to a MH professional and say I am thinking/going to hurt myself and they say Ok and it's your choice. I still wish they would step in sometimes but I know that it has to be me that does it.

I think hospital did help me but I had to be quite assertive to make the most of it. I did feel like people with psychosis were treated differently to people with a personality disorder.

LovelyBath · 20/02/2014 12:02

That is interesting (sorry another lurker here). How did they treat people different who had psychosis and personality disorders?