Right - i don't know where to post this, because i dont want to have to repeat all the fecking background which is the reason my patience is running out.
After a horrible weekend last week, i really want this weekend to be nice. Anyway, my mother is driving me mad again - its a total trigger. She is convinced that her sister has damaged stuff in her house, it is beyond ridiculous. She has spent WEEKs cleaning destroying her cooker hob (its a halogen jobby) the cooker is about 30 years old! She is insistant that her sister (who lives in australia!) put chewing gum on the hob, wait for it, 7 years ago, but my mum didnt notice until recently 
This is on top of the whole record of the sister stealing stuff from my mums house (some of tht will be true) and it was a whole horrible saga that resulted in them not speaking for years then her DS husband died and they made it up, my mum has just dredged it all out again. Even after the argument with DP on friday when i begged my mum to come and sit with DD (she was in bed) so i could go and find DP (i had an idea where he would go) she wouldn't. The next morning she summoned DP round to hers on the pretence of him lifting something (it turned out there was nothing to lift, i thought she was wanting to talk about me because i was in such a state, but no, it was the fucking cooker, she wanted him to look at, nothing to do with me ) So today i get a phone call, will i go round - she tells me that she is going to go to australia to do the same to her sisters stuff, that she will fly out one day, come back the next, "only i need someone to organise the flight for me" i said, i wouldn't that i dont want to be involved, she ssaid she knows someone who will do it for her - i haven't a clue who, but there you are. She is determined. At this point my toothache started up, i am getting jolting pains from an exposed nerve and it really knocks me - so i managed to make an excuse and leave.
She has already called her nephew and told him that if his mum comes over to england again, which is her intention, she will send her home in a box (and she MEANS it). He was naturally really upset about it, sent me a message on facebook, i apologised but haven't heard back. He suggested dementia and i bet all of you think this too, my mother is 75, aunt is 83!!! But its not out of character and this is why i don't know what to do, my mother has always been jealous and vindictive and selfish and this is something that has been going on for years. Christ i have lost count of how many good hidings i got for stealing because she couldnt find something straight away - i have never EVER stolen from her! So its not like he has suddenly gone mad
I know that if i mentioned this to DP (sadly i dont feel i can talk to him about anything just now as i just want things to be nice) he would just say, oh welll you know what she is like, she wont go - but really, is it the point? The only thing that will stop her is she wont be able to organise it, but then she has surprised me with that she can organise recently so you never know, she has only got to go to the travel agents and they will do it all. It will take all her money, and im not sure she has enough but also if she goes via travel agent she will end up with expensive flight etc etc. But tough, i don't want any part of this.
I am thinking i should go to see her doctor - who is my doctor, but that has a whole saga behind it too and ive only just persuaded my mum to trust the doctor again. Also, whilst i am concerned for her MH i genuinely don't think its dementia. There are no other signs, no memory loss and cognition is good. My dad had alzheimers and this is nothing like that, it is just that she is bored out of her head, wont engage with anyone and I am at a loss as to what to do.
Sorry this is stupidly long but only really you guys understand where i am coming from when i say i just can't deal with this - i feel like a selfish, useless daughter but I just can't be doing with it - what will happen if i speak to her doctor?