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This is our Village, People! Need support? - Move In Here....

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ThatVikRinA22 · 07/06/2013 19:19

My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

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LEMisdisappointed · 03/07/2013 10:35

Really need the village today - wish i could move in for real

Aww Vicar I hope your pet is OK, or at least you have managed to get it to the vets now. Its horrible when an animal gets sick - they can't tell us, look im ok actually but if i could just sleep it off for a few hours, or actually mum i really need the doctors vets

Have you seen the CPN snowy? She sounds really helpful Hmm Why not tell her you consider her abrasive and intrusive, she might soften up a bit. Those sleeve things look really good, i quite like that idea as i don't like showing my bingo wings. I have self harm scars from when i was younger but fortunately they are not too bad, i actually have worse scars from working as a vet nurse Grin

CiQ you were very brave with the play date! im not quite able for those!! I can't be doing when other kids are being rude and you feel like you just have to grin and bear it.

mouses, i find i can't take neurofen - makes me feel sick as a pig, maybe you could try a migraine medication instead? help with the nausea? Sorry you aren't feeling great.

I'm feeling bad - its all stemming from the argument with DP and im angry with him about it. I felt really good on friday after seeing my counseller and made a real effort. Am now feeling pretty rubbish. My mother isn't speaking to me - i don't actually care, so why do i feel guilty?? I called her to tell her about DD2's concert tonight and she wasn't interested. I don't think she will go - hopefully DD wont be too disappointed. I am feeling quite lonely actually - i really don't have any friends. I have people who i talk and joke with at the school gates but that is as far as it goes. No one wants to spend time with me. I had a panic attack last night and i don't know whether it was because of the way i am feeling or because of the medication i have been given for my hayfever Confused Am feeling pretty abandonned just now :( I want to talk with DP about how im feeling but am worried because he will just think im "going on" about friday and it will turn into a row. I feel i have no-one THERE for me just now, DDs are great but of course i have to be there for them, not the other way around and right now - they are the only things that are keeping me here and im even resenting that.

LEMisdisappointed · 03/07/2013 10:36

Maybe a walk instead Vicar? Glad ratty has been seen, hopefully he will perk up soon

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 10:42

Unfortunately I get keloid scarring, I only SH'd for 6 months as a teenager.

(((( LEM )))) for feeling bad.

EdwiniasRevenge · 03/07/2013 10:45

Hugs all round.

Me and LEM (and I'm sure everyone else on this thread) will come to your birthday party *vicar.

I am very shakey today...but having a day where I am out of bed wwhich is good. I have sports day at 1.30. So will be level 3 plus bonuses for that. Then I will rush home and take my make-up off and 'down do' myself before seeing my tutor at 4.30.

In the meantime....I need to take my meds and tackle some housework. So what room are we starting on then vicar?

LEMisdisappointed · 03/07/2013 10:52

Its good you have sports day Ed, take your mind of seeing the tutor. Do you have an idea what you want from the meeting?

EdwiniasRevenge · 03/07/2013 11:07

Erm. Nope.

I haven't spoken to anyone at uni since october.

What I want to do changes depending on how 'well' I am feeling.

At the moment I think I want to conplete. But I know I am not ready to do so yet (but will be at least sept now).

I want to go to a new school even if it means I have to do a longer placement.

I want aomeone to tell me what to do.

I do have a uni friend going with me.

LEMisdisappointed · 03/07/2013 11:19

Thats good about your friend. A plan, with options, sounds like a positive way forward so fingers crossed that the meeting goes well. September is a while away and hopefully we will have SOME summer to help lift your spirits. xx

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 11:55

Good idea to take someone with you.

EdwiniasRevenge · 03/07/2013 12:28

I think it is more of a case that friend is taking me with her...

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 12:30

(((( Ed )))) Will she take notes for you?

ColouringInQueen · 03/07/2013 12:42

Hi all,

(((Hugs))) all round but esp for mouses and snowy.
mouses sorry you were feeling so bad last night. Hope today is a bit better. How long have you been taking the fluox now?

snowy well done for surviving the cpn visit. Nap sounds like a v good idea.

vicar v glad your ratty is on meds - hope he picks up soon. Any luck with the house tackling?

Ed all the best for college today.

lem sorry to hear the fallout from the argument is still haunting you. Sounds like you've got stuff you want to say to dh, but completely get your reluctance. When I've felt like that I've written dh a letter, no holding back. Put it in an envelope and put it in a drawer. Seems to help diffuse things. Anything else you can do to get some of the anger out?

Yes playdates are stressful. Haven't really done much before June, so trying to make them more regular esp as dcs are quiet at school and one to one time with classmates really seems to help them Dev their friendships. But yest was tough.

Still feeling pretty bleurh today. Have just sat down and tried to work out what I'm worrying about and did ways of looking at it which has helped a bit. Dad over shortly for walk and lunch which I hope will help.

Take care everyone x

LEMisdisappointed · 03/07/2013 12:47

Thanks CiQ i am reluctant because he will just get defensive, wonder why i am bringing it up now etc. I wanted to make him understand that i do trust him 100% but my insecurity about other women isn't about him, its about me.

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 12:56

You take care too, CIQ

ColouringInQueen · 03/07/2013 15:01

lem yes, write it but don't give it to him - still therapeutic x

hoochymama1 · 03/07/2013 15:59

Lots of love and hugs to everyone, great to read the posts, they give me such warm huggy feelings Smile

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Ed just go with the flow, it will become clear what is best for you to do.

Feel so shattered today! I just want to go to bed and I'm trying not to Sad I just cried when my tutor asked me how I was today Blush

Is citalopram better that sertraline? Spoke to someone today who said I'd be better off on cit, but i don't know. Has anyone had experience of both?
Or am I just being influenced unnecessarily- this woman is a MH social worker, but has no experience of A/D herself Hmm

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 16:04

I think different meds help different people, hoochymama1 I'd quite like to go back to bed too, my parcel just arrived.

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 16:06

I'm not sure whether I should see a doctor or not. My CPN suggested it today, but I'd rather not really.

hoochymama1 · 03/07/2013 16:18

Well, go along, follow suggestions...She must have had a reason for saying it, and it would show her that you are willing to go along with what she thinksWink

Always nice to have a parcel Grin

Just having a nice Brew feel so hungry at the moment, trying not to have a Biscuit

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 16:32

I think CPN wants my meds checked/increased, I'd rather decrease - I promised to give the clozapine 2 months, and that's up this week. I also don't want to see psych as she can tell what I'm thinking. I have to try to resist telling CPN I'd rather not see her on Friday, as she will just come back saying no/not my decision to make. E.G. this morning when I saw her she wanted daily contact, I wanted weekly, guess who's decision counts.

The parcel was tights for arms, saw them on S&B, good for cover up.

hoochymama1 · 03/07/2013 16:57

I clicked the link, they look lush Grin Might be good with my bingo wings Blush

I know it's so hard for you.. but co-operate with them. They are box ticking, but also they are doing what they think is best for you. What do you have to lose? Your a tough girl, you'll come through this.

Much love and hugs to you Flowers

SnowyMouse · 03/07/2013 17:27

Thanks hoochymama1 I think I have to cooperate or things could get more intrusive, I wouldn't want the crisis team input or day hospital. Here is a good outlet/vent Wink Hmm

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ThatVikRinA22 · 03/07/2013 22:35

how you doing ed?

hope meeting was productive and put your mind at rest.

ive just found out whats entailed with my surgery....i know i said i wanted to lose weight but really....cant eat for 2 weeks post surgery and then have to have puree for 4 weeks - so for 6 weeks i will be on a liquid diet.

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SnowyMouse · 04/07/2013 10:08

That sounds quite extrem vicar Do you know when it will be?

LEMisdisappointed · 04/07/2013 10:46

ooh, that sound like a nightmare vicar - hopefully they will give you some sort of nutrition liquid or such like? You'll waste away!! But at least once it is over and done with you will be able to build up again.

Ed how was it yesterday?

EdwiniasRevenge · 04/07/2013 11:39

Yesterday was ok. Nice casual conversation.

Scheduled to go back in sept.
Expect to go back to the same school, which I am less happy about.

Checked my bank statement before bed though. 900 has been taken out of my account by (I think) my car insurers.
This is not good.
I know my insurance is due for renewal.
My renewal invitation will be in the pile of mail I haven't dealt with.
I paid as a lump sum last year, as I had the cash. I was going to change to direct debit.
I am also not happy as thats nearly double what I paid last year. And now I haven't given myself the option of searching for a better quote cos I am too lame to open a few blinking letters :(