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[ThatVikRinA22]

My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

"I try my best for them they get away with so much" that makes you a brtter mum than many then xx

Hi everyone,

mouses lem is spot on re: assessment. Hopefully it'll mean some good support for you.

lonely hope you managed to take your meds today and sickness is manageable.

bobbly thanks. I am trying to have kids friends round a bit more often as my DC are quite quiet - plus it also shows them that other parents have rules like us too! Hope your hayfever's not so bad today

Hi Ed great to hear you're feeling a bit more motivated - hope that continues.

lem hope your day's going ok.

Not doing too bad, just very tired I think. Had a thing at DC school this morning which I went to, but mine were the only two in the school crying (DD) or on the verge of tears (DS) at the end when it was time for the parents to go. Really hard to take both emotionally and in a trying-not-to-be-paranoid-about-my-parenting way. Went out for lunch with DH which was OK. School run shortly and we're all invited round to a friends which I'm hoping I'll wake up for!

Take care all x

Hi CiQ sounds like a pretty good day x

Today my counsellor told me that i shoud stop comparing myself to other people and that some people would consider that I am living a charmed life! That knocked me a bit, i was like then why am i sitting here? Because i have an illness, that is why, one that skews the way i see things and percieve myself. I do tend to have a very low opinion of myself and downplay my achievements - i think we all have a tendancy to do that with this illness. But you know what, its ok to say, I'm an OK person, in fact im bloody nice I hope that all the villagers can feel that in some small way. Its hard to convince myself but , i do make the mistake of comparing myself to others and its a recipe for a disaster, they are not me and I am not them. I am different, i like being different, not totally off the wall whacky and stereotypically different. I have forgotten that person a bit. So after my counselling i brought myself a really quite sexy top and some nail varnish - it feels good.

Agitated waiting for DP to come home, he is doing a private job today, for himself and i don't like it. It makes me anxious - i think i prefer him working for a firm. Tough though,its his life if this is what he chooses.

I hope everyone has had a good friday and does have something nice happen over the weekend. Even if that nice is a cup of tea and bit of cake.

One of my friends has nagged me into contacting cpn, I don't need her to come and see me.

are you OK snowy?

I'm okish. My friend disagrees and it seems the CPN agrees with her. CPN says the reason I don't want to see her is because I may be unwell. I hate people acting that what I think doesn't count.

Why does your friend disagree?

My friend disagrees because of the voices. People say that voices don't always need treating.

I have never had voices, i imagine it can be pretty distressing at times. However if they are not bothering you at the moment and are part of who you are, and of course they are not telling you to go and "fly" or shoplift ect then if they are not bothering you, I don't see why you would suddenly need to report this to your cpn. Again, if its a new side effect to a drug i guess it would need reporting but if you feel in control of it then you are right, YOU are the one who knows how you feel about them!

They are pressurising me to do things, I don't like it but I am arguing with them.

I will tell them to fuck off to the far side of fuck for you as well!

Do be careful though snowy, is there someone you can call if they get too much? You sound like you are in control, but you don't want to have to spend your whole weekend locked in battle with those feckers!

Thanks LEM

I wish i could help more snowy xx

Hi all old and new. thinking of you all a lot .
The village is such a lovely image in my mind. Kind and wise ......comforting with friends,wee ones and dogs around our feet . Family friendly pub of course

I am ok . Ok is fine by me . Son coming back to UK tomorrow from Far East for holiday so got the fridge full of pork pies and cheese and hula hoops in the cupboard . Lovely to see him and check behind his ears and all that stuff mums do no matter what age they are.

Love to you all and keep on one step at a time . I seem to always being going backwards in my head .......but the truth is we are not .

See you all in the village pub and my back door is always open for tea and cake [maybe Mr Kipling though ] xxx

I actually love that Manor house cake that Mr Kipling does! Oh and jamaica cake too

Hi snowy if the voices start hassling you or encouraging you to do anything harmful what's your plan of action? Really hope they calm down and you can have a peaceful weekend.

Lem sounds like your counsellor went to the same college as mine... I found it feels weird to look at my situation like that but sometimes its possible and I can believe it a bit - I think you're right, we all have a tendency to downplay achievements/low self-esteem. Top and nail varnish - great

Took DCs round to a friend's this pm, they played and we had a really nice chat. I had them round a few weeks ago and she was very open about the challenges she was having with one of her DC. So I felt OK to tell her a bit about what's been going on with me - and we had a nice chat. Came home feeling good . If I can make a bit more headway with the anxiety then the light at the end of the tunnel seems less distant tonight. Fingers crossed.

(((hugs))) to all x

Hi Basset lovely to hear from you. Glad you are OK.
Can I request a Mr Kiplings Viennese Whirl please? - a guilty pleasure . Lovely to hear your DS is coming to visit - hope you have a lovely time together.

For now my plan is to disagree. Sounds like a nice afternoon!

With custard ladies and whipped cream. eyes up bedroom scales

hug Snowy .x

Stay strong snowy x

snowy I know it sounds nuts (!) but could you thank the voices, as they may be trying to do their best for you, however they are going about it the wrong way. Then politely disagree with them, and ask them to be quiet.

This is from my NLP training. Warm wishes, and take care [hug]

Ooh cake, I have Tesco's bestest coffee and walnut if anyone wants some...

ive been reading alot on the thread about voices. on my journey of understanding normal behaviour from depression, anxiety etc. ( i thought everyone felt like shite,cries alot and sits at home feeling worthless!!! )

so when you say voices how do you mean? im just trying to understand if what i do is normal or something to talk to gp about?

hard to explain but i will do my best. for yrs i can remember having what i think is a converation with myself. i will be sitting down or crying in the bedroom say - when i hear 'mouses...mouses... (but my real name) i cant remember word for word what i say to myself or who? but i know its normally disagreeing to what ever im upset about at the time. i dont even know if this reads any sense? but if it does - is it normal or sound right?

mouses, hearing voices isn't generally associated with general anxiety and depression. If you are hearing voices that are "independent" of your throught processes then you absolutely must mention this to your GP. This is not the same as having a conversation with yourself or telling yourself to pull yourself together etc, I think we all do that, i can "hear" myself, i think, when i do this, that is normal and when we are upset maybe we are more sensitive to our own inner voices. What snowy experiences is different to that.

sorry if im making assumptions there snowy, but just trying to explain to mouses.

I would mention it to your GP though mouses if it becomes distressing in any way or you are worried about it.