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ThatVikRinA22 · 07/06/2013 19:19

My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

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mouses · 27/06/2013 10:29

hi lem, thanks x

ColouringInQueen · 27/06/2013 13:16

Hi mouses and Geraldine welcome to this lovely thread. Hope your mornings have been manageable.

Hello everyone else.

I went for a walk with a friend that I haven't see since last Sep (have been ill with anx/dep since Jan) and it was lovely. I knew she would be sympathetic but just couldn't do it til now. So that was good. She agreed I need to go back to Doc re: anxiety (which is no better at all). Told me she's on she's on 50mg for anxiety and it has made the world of difference.

SnowyMouse · 27/06/2013 13:17

Welcome mouses and Geraldine Smile

mouses · 27/06/2013 13:46

hi

im feeling little shakey, had phone assessment. need to call fresh start for CBT and will be having a home visit in aug?!

not sure if im glad or sad about it, i want the help to get better but it just brings it home that i have this horrid illness.

ColouringInQueen · 27/06/2013 14:15

Hi mouses well done on getting through your assessment. I know lots of people have really benefited from cbt so hope you find it helpful too.

Anything you can do now to be kind to yourself and calm down?

hoochymama1 · 27/06/2013 14:43

Hello you lovely village people, especially new residents such as mouses and geraldine.

to old time residents Grin

Much love to you snowy Smile

I think we should have a Tennis court too- with lots of cool drinks with ice and fruit, strawberries and cream!

mouses I've been on sertraline for about 10 weeks now, as vicar said, it took me about six weeks for the side effects to simmer down, but most days now I feel quite good. Keep going, also the talking therapies such as CBT are good alongside the meds. Don't be down, you will feel better. I thought it was the end of the world when this illness came back, and I couldn't manage without meds. This place really helped. Relax now, do something you enjoy.

I went for a job interview last Friday, didn't get it, but it wasn't a bad experience and the feedback they gave me was positive. I didn't want to do it , but I just took a deep breath and did it Shock

Glad i didn't get this one (too far) but will be applying again Wink

Have a lovely rest of the day, it's raining here.

bobblypop · 27/06/2013 16:46

helo all
Hi mouses and geraldine
hoochy well done on job interview - sounds as if it was positive.
lem Sports days are hated in this house too! hope you survived it.Our school have booked a sports venue for theirs this year...BUT they now tell us that parents need to drop dc off their and collect them at 2.30. Slight problem as I also have to drop ds2 at school ( he is in reception and they arent doing it) and Im then meant to be working till 3.....I am going to just deposit them all at school at 9 at let the stupid school sort it out.grrr
ciq walk sounds nice, and visit to gp sounds a good plan.

I am struggling this week. Probably have been dipping for a while but have noticed more this week. Have started waking early again and finding it really hard to get up. Also noticing feelings of dread and despair and hopelesness creeping back in. Am going to try increasing my citalopram to 30mg and see if that helps....
Trying to be kind to myself though and make life easy. Have bought ready made lasagna (normally cook from scratch) for kids tea and bought them a new dvd that they are now watching to give me 5 mins peace. house is a total tip but I don't even really care today.
Have got a busy day at work tomorrow, but actually usually find that helpful. Dreading weekend though as they are always hard for me - which I find really frustrating because I feel as if I SHOULD be enjoying family time, so when I don't I beat myself up about it which makes me feel worse etc...
anyway...how's everyone else today? Hope you're all doing well.
Waves to anyone I forgot...sorry concentration a bit rubbish too just now.

ThatVikRinA22 · 27/06/2013 18:07

welcome geraldine and mouses....im rushing about but wanted to log in to say "hi".....hope everyone is having a good day.

ive spent most of it in bed but am on nights so its allowed! my hands and wrist hurt from where i fell, but my face looks marginally better i think....
i am SO glad no one saw....id never live it down.

see you all tomorrow....

OP posts:
SnowyMouse · 27/06/2013 18:26

Good luck for work vicar

Sorry you're struggling bobbly, do be kind to yourself.

Congrats about the interview hoochy

ColouringInQueen · 27/06/2013 19:06

Hi hoochy nice to hear from you. That's great re: the interview - good for you! Yes raining here too now Hmm

bobbly sorry to hear you're not doing so good recently, tho sounds like you're being v sensible re: dinner and DVD - good for you. I know what you mean about weekends! My counsellor grimaces every time I use the "should" word - which does make me take stock...

vicar and trying not to smile imagining to falling arse over tit! So glad there were no witnesses! Hope you're not too sore!

snowy how's things this evening?

DD had twin school friends round for tea and they all had a lovely play. The girls asked if they could come again which made me feel really chuffed as I had been making an effort to be a bit more upbeat with them here Grin. Tired now, but OK.

My DM went back to docs today cos exhaustion and coeliac symptoms so extreme, also Doc said she needed an ECG cos she had some funny "turns" at the weekend. From what my dad said it just sounds like anxiety symptoms - lets hope so. Doesn't help with the guilt I feel about being distant from her (for my own self-preservation at the mo). Hey ho.

SnowyMouse · 27/06/2013 19:14

I'm not so good. Hoping I get a better night.

ColouringInQueen · 27/06/2013 19:28

(((hugs)))) snowy what are you up to now?

LEMisdisappointed · 27/06/2013 19:32

snowy - maybe an early night with a book? do you read, are you able to concentrate? I struggle to read when im not doing so great which is a shame because it does make me feel better.

Hoochy - well done for the interview, Im glad it boosted your confidence. I really need to get back on that horse, not just yet though, im just about adjusting to being at home actually.

Sorry you hurt yourself Vicar - i recommenda g&t at the pub, i can't remember who the landlady is again? Does the pub have a name?

Bobbly, DVD and lasagne sounds perfect, hopefully you will get some rest this evening, how old are your many children? I am in awe, i barely manage one!

I'm missing Ed (well she is my next door neighbour after all!) hope you are ok! I took my dogs out today, was a bit of an effort to get out but im trying a "fake it til you make it" approach, its working in as much as i don't feel terrible but i don't think ive quite made it just yet!

I think the anti-histamines are not great for me, make me tired beyond belief but i can't do without them, hayfever is really bad this week. Fortunately i dont tend to get bad allergies in june but when its bad its bad.

mouses you are bound to feel shakey after the telephone assesment but thats a positive move. I also think a home visit is good as you will feel more at ease.

geraldine would you like to tell us a little about yourself? its ok if you dont want to just yet.

Hugs to everyone

LEMisdisappointed · 27/06/2013 19:34

i only get allergies in june, not dont!

Lonelybunny · 27/06/2013 20:31

I feel like rubbish :( I'm sat here watching my lovely kids and just said in my head "I wish the baby was ill with something bad then i would be worrying for a proper reason" how f**d up is that !? Now I'm terrified something will happen to her and its all my fault . I'm a freak and my kids deserve better. I'm so sorry for them :(

LEMisdisappointed · 27/06/2013 20:38

It is properly fucked up lonely, but it is just because your thought processes are all over the place just now lonely. Its called an unwanted negative thought and very common in people in people who suffer from anxiety. You are NOT a freak! if you are, then so am i - ive pictured so many bad things, its like a form of self harm. Its not what you really want, we know that, i can relate. Its horrible for you. Hang in here, the meds will start working soon x

bobblypop · 27/06/2013 20:55

ciq glad friends round went well. I always end up mega stressed when dc have friends round
lem meant to ask what dogs you've got. My dogs help me a lot - make me have to go out for a walk even when I dont want to. I have 6dc. aged 15,13,11,almost9,7 and 5. My hayfever is shocking too at the moment, like you June is the worst for me. it is a tricky balance between antihistamine induced exhaustion and horrid hayfever symptoms.
vicar hope work is ok tonight
snowy really hope you get a good nights sleep
ed how are you doing?

dvd worked well....almost peace for a good hour!!
Then took dogs out and have dropped ds1 to fencing club...
hayfever has flared up again though and Im sneezing/wheezing with streaming eyes!! and Im shattered...will head to bed v soon...am trying not to stress over state of house....
see you all tomorrow

bobblypop · 27/06/2013 21:20

lonely , I agree with lem. it is just your thought processes that are still over the place and that is down to the illness.hang in there send don't beat yourself up over it. you can get through this.x

LEMisdisappointed · 27/06/2013 21:31

bobbly, i have two jack russels - one is a border terrier/patterdale and i have had him since a pup. The other is a total x breed, rescue, ive had him since he was about 6m. He has such a character and "talks" to us all night which can be a bit waring! and sleeps in our bed.

Lonelybunny · 27/06/2013 21:39

Thanks guys. I'm fine for ages then this ! I didn't take meds yesterday cause couldbt take the sickness , but have taken them today , hope I don't feel sick :(

EdwiniasRevenge · 27/06/2013 22:31

Just a quickie cos I know I worry when regulars go awol.

Tues (at mums) actually went ok. I actually felt quite good about just 'doing' it driving home. I then qent straight out to a guide event and got in about 10. I was absolutely shattered. I had spent over 4hrs driving that day and was incapable of functioning when I got in. Fell over...again...so have a new bruise to add to my collection.

Weds I slept until 10am and then was out all day with 'friend'. Started new meds. Was very spaced out and woo all day. Not sure if exhaustion or new meds but I was very out of it.

Today. Spent the morning with dtd2 at the walk in centre with a neck injury. Spinal boards and a&e were discussed at one point, but she got the all clear and I packed her off to school. Spent the afternoon asleep. Think I deserved it after last few days. Don't think I have napped since last friday? Feel a bit more motivated. Dunno if new meds, positive day tues, placebo effect or what but definitely have lifted spirits. Appointment with tutor is booked for next weds...

Sorry I have only skimmed the thread. Welcome to the village mouse and geralidine. Waves, hugs to everyone else. Having an early night after an exhausting few days.

mouses · 28/06/2013 10:08

yesterday i was told that i will have a home assessment in aug - does any one know what it is about? they asked 101 questions over the phone so just sitting here over thinking. if any one can help?

they wont think of taking my DC's will they?

LEMisdisappointed · 28/06/2013 10:58

I had a home assessment with my hv when I had pnd . Every other assessment been at centres one thing I do know is that they WON'T even be thinking of taking your kids

LEMisdisappointed · 28/06/2013 10:59

The assessment will be to find out what sort of the therapy will suit you. Even to match you with the right therapist

mouses · 28/06/2013 11:06

thanks lem, its put my mind at rest a little. although im not mum of the year and find it hard to kiss or hug them - id feel lost with out them. they probably would have happier lives else where,

i try my best for them, they get away with so much!

i will be phoning the cbt people later.