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ThatVikRinA22 · 07/06/2013 19:19

My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

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Lonelybunny · 25/06/2013 22:07

It's been 3 weeks now , I think I'm also over tired and stressed out , hope it passes soon. I will try the above thank you .

ColouringInQueen · 25/06/2013 22:36

Hope you get a good sleep tonight.
Night x

ThatVikRinA22 · 26/06/2013 00:31

hugs to lem and ed

snowy im glad you managed your cpn visit - its hard when you dont want to engage, but keep trying. Just tell them you cant manage a lot.

lonely - im on sertraline but the first 6 weeks were pretty awful - nausea, loss of appetite, jaw clenching and teeth chattering, feeling spaced out and drunk, and the fatigue was indescribable - im not sure whether the fatigue was the illness or the meds....

i dreaded it when the gp said she was upping the dose thinking id have to experience all that again - but i didnt. it was fine. Give it 6 weeks - if hte side effects have not subsided by then do go back. But give it a chance....the side effects do settle. I found varying the time of day i took my meds helped - and i took them with food. I found it easier to take mine at night with evening meal, then i could go to bed if the nausea or the fatigue got the better of me.

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Lonelybunny · 26/06/2013 08:26

I will try and vary the times. I was up all night trying not to be sick so now I'm super tired . I will take today's one with my dinner .

LEMisdisappointed · 26/06/2013 10:08

lonely do stick with it - i can't help but wonder if you are experiencing "side effects" for an extended period (it is citalopram you are taking isn't it?) because you are breast feeding. Citalopram works on the seratonin in your brain, as do most of the ADs being discussed here. Seratonin is involved in the let down reflex of breast feeding. I remember a very "sad" feeling coming over me during let down and then feeling quite calm during the feed (we are talking seven years ago now though). Give the meds time to work - i think it takes about a month to six weeks before you start to see any real changes in the anxiety/depression. I got worse before I got better, but the citalopram works for me. I overslept this morning and we were late for school - before i would have been screaming at DD to hurry up etc and getting in a real state, today i was sharp and hurried her up but i realised when i was walking home from school that i didn't shout. That is definately due to the drug! It helpe that DD managed to sort herself out and co-operate for once!

I can't say that i am feeling better today really - but the "I HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THIS SHIT" feeling I have turned around - i think i am very much at a stage where i either roll over and let this thing destroy me or i start to fight back. I am hoping to make a bloody good fight of it, I have had enough, i want a life - and fuck it, im going to bloody well have one!! Fuck you depression!!! I have to do something, even if its just wash up, every day now, its not going to beat me.

Snowy, when i watched the BBC program i thought about you - you are so brave, this is a bastard bloody illness that i wish people understood more, most of all the medics, sometimes i feel they just don't know what to do, hopefully as psychiatry progresses there will be more specific treatments available and a blood test that someone can take - just like looking at liver function etc. So person a has an iron deficiency, lets give them some iron and folic acid. In psychiatry they need to be at a stage where they know enough about neurotransmitters to be able to assess people to see where the deficiencies are. Lately it all seems to be about seratonin, but there other hormones which regulate mood and anxiety, it all seems a bit vague. It will take someone far cleverer than me to work it out, but hopefully, one day, they will.

Waves to everyone - basset, bobbly, CiQ, Ed, vicar, nana, silvery, glabella, hoochy, zombie - (where is she?), notso - everyone!

TheSilveryPussycat · 26/06/2013 10:24

LEM when I was depressed, I too would sometimes find anger firing me up! You go, girl

As to the psychiatry, I think it is such a complex web of stuff from the past interacting with brain chemistry that your scenario may be a little simplistic. OTOH I have had great success with NLP, which uses the brain to change itself iyswim.

Have to laugh - yesterday I was part of a team that did a housekeeping inspection at one of our psychiatric hospitals. I was running my finger over things to check for dust - good thing they don't inspect my house in return, I would never pass Confused

EdwiniasRevenge · 26/06/2013 10:45

Wave and hugs.

I need to turn a corner too.

I wonder if we could help each other???

ColouringInQueen · 26/06/2013 11:01

lem go for it! I am liking your new motto!

lonely hope vicars advice re sertraline helps today, take care.

spc Smile re dust - my house would def fail too!

ed have you thought/ been advised about any other tactics to go alongside your new meds? I have just started the mind over mood cbt book which seems good.

I am feeling a bit fragile today and tired. After school yesterday dd said she wanted her own room, shes 8 and has bunks with ds (which he loves). I completely understand she wants her own space but it also makes me feel sad as its another growing up step. And also I had hoped for a bit of downtime after fhc. I am better at coping with the day to day stuff now (tho house not v clean) but stuff over and above that feels too much. Trying to be kind to myself this morning and allow myself to feel sad for a bit. Then will get up - and hoover!

Take care all x

LEMisdisappointed · 26/06/2013 11:43

Ed im up for the challenge definitely

SnowyMouse · 26/06/2013 14:06

I think I would be braver if I had been a voluntary patient, i.e. choosing to go into hospital Hmm, rather than being sectioned (where if you refuse to go in they make you). I've only been restrained once (when I tried to walk out of an outpatient appointment).

LEMisdisappointed · 26/06/2013 14:57

Being mentally ill does not automatically mean you don't know what is best for you. You are making things work for you snowy its tough but you are still fighting THATS what I call brave!

Garden mowed and weeded can actually have a cuppa out there now had bath and wait for it. ...........level 3!!! Now its gonna rain!!

SnowyMouse · 26/06/2013 16:11

That sounds like a rewarding day LEM Smile I hope it doesn't rain for you.

Sorry you're tired CIQ, did you manage to get the hoovering done?

bobblypop · 26/06/2013 17:32

lonely hope you've had a better day today and feel a bit less ill.
lem love the fighting talk. I also alternate between just taking to my bed and hiding under the duvet and then refusing to give in and being determined to fight it.well done on garden. that is a great achievement. My garden is such a mess...I hate it...keep looking at it thinking how useless I am.Every year I vow I will sort it out in time for summer...but it never happens Sad
I have 2 dogs. Bella is 4 and we got at her at 6 months old as a rescue dog. She is a mixed breed - possibly some staffie,collie,lab... and Flynn is a 9 month old border collie we got as a puppy. They are both lovely but both have their own issues! Flynn cant actually take part in the agility yet he just goes to watch to try not to get so overexcited around the other dogs LOL
spc my house would fail on many levels !!
snowy I too think you are very brave to have survived being sectioned.It must be a very frightening experience.
Ciq I know what you mean about over and above stuff. It only takes a tiny extra thing to tip me over the edge. Hope you're feeling less sad
ed how are you doing?

I was back at paid work today. Usual chaos trying to get everyone up and ready this morning - I really need to start getting up earlier. Although I have started waking at 4am again - at which point I feel OK, but then fall back to sleep and then feel like death when alarm goes off at 6.15Hmm
Work was OK. managed to make pasta bake for tea and have done 3 loads of washing so not bad. feeling a bit frazeled now though and dh not back till later .... need to try and stay calm...

right off to brush the dog!!

BBL Grin

ColouringInQueen · 26/06/2013 22:27

Hi all,

Yes snowy I did -thanks- hope your days been ok. Went for a walk with my dad which was nice but have been going downhill this eve. Massive sugar craving that I just didn't bother to resist. Self loathing back this eve.

Well done bobbly on work, dinner and washing. Hope you got to put your feet up this evening.

lem great stuff on the garden, hope you've managed to enjoy it this pm.

How's everyone else doing?

SnowyMouse · 26/06/2013 22:36

My carer is 2 hours late Hmm

ColouringInQueen · 26/06/2013 22:46

Hmm that doesn't sound too helpful. Have they been that late before or do you think they're simply not coming today?

SnowyMouse · 26/06/2013 22:47

They've just come, mix up apparently.

Good night all, sleep well

ColouringInQueen · 26/06/2013 22:55

Night snowy

ThatVikRinA22 · 27/06/2013 01:18

evening everyone - or morning actually.

i had my last counselling appt today - was good. Im different, and different is fine. People fear what they dont understand apparently - and im not understood. (i rescue (pet) rats ffs!)
i also talked about all my friends being widespread - both at work and in personal life - she says thats because i get on with a variety of people and thats a good thing a rare thing. she says its a very sad thing that there are not more people like me in the job, and that because im different is why i feel isolated. But she also noted the anxiety was gone. That i am more at ease with things.

i left feeling very up and very positive.

then i went to work and fell arse over tit - ive grazed my face and head, have a huge bump on my forehead and brusied and hurt my wrist! my face has carpet burns! i look horrendous.
only saving grace is that no one saw me!
i look like ive done a few rounds with tyson.....i am SO clumsy.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 27/06/2013 03:54

just popping in to say i hope geraldine finds us.....

village pub open. it never closes.... geraldine...were a welcoming bunch.....hope you find us.
xxx

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GeraldineAubergine · 27/06/2013 03:56

Haha make mine a g&t. Thanks very much, so nice to have a supportive ear. You've made me all weepy ;)

ThatVikRinA22 · 27/06/2013 04:02

G&T coming up.....
the people on here are lovely, welcoming and supportive. Stick around. Im not managing to post as often as i was in the early days due to work getting in the way of my mumsnetting!! but this is a safe space to say what you are thinking, feeling, going through.

ive found it so incredibly therapeutic. and the folk on here are truly amazing. you can say anything here.

do stay....

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ThatVikRinA22 · 27/06/2013 04:19

going to bed now but i know everyone will welcome you with open arms geraldine....

night night darling. hope to see you tomorrow....i normally log on before nights....

x

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mouses · 27/06/2013 10:20

hello, any room for me.

LEMisdisappointed · 27/06/2013 10:24

Ah, brilliant, you've found us mouse - sometimes its a bit quiet in the mornings, but yes, always room for new residents - the more the merrier, well we aren't always merry but we try!

Waves to geraldine, you are very welcome too.

I need to take my dogs out - then its sports day this afternoon - oh, somebody shoot me! i hate sports day, DD hates it too. Bumped into my friend, with her DS (skiving buggers!!) i wish i had done the same really but DD prefers being at school - what does tht say about me!!