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My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

I went as far as the local corner shop for an icecream, on level 2 , feeling pretty awful today,

blimey well done lem hope you have cold drink in hand now. Nice walk thanks - hot - but only 50 mins

hope you had a helpful appt with GP hurryup

(((hugs))) snowy

ua that sounds like a challenging situation - sounds like you handled it well and you seem none the worse for it which is v impressive.

Found the jewellery in loft I was searching for, so that and walk in sun have picked me up a bit. Anxiety still fairly strong but managing to stay sane!!

evening all
ciq glad you found jewelery
lem I am V impressed with your walk
ua that does sound tricky. hope it didnt upset you too much
snowy hope you enjoyed your ice cream
hurryup hope gp was helpful
ed how did you get on at Drs?

I have had a busy couple of days! I've done some much needed decluttering round the house and have got rid of about 12 black bags of "stuff" so far
DD1 and 2 room now done and littlies rooms done...DS1 can sort his own out (or not!!) Dining room sorted and half of kitchen.
And have bought a new bed fo Ddog1
Back at paid work tomorrow but then off Fri/sat/sun/mon and tues yay!
Hoping to get a bit more blitzing done on Friday but want to chill a bit Mon and Tues a sit's my bday on Sunday!

am now feeling V tired though...hoping Ill sleep though as have been having rubbish nights sleep lately...
Hayfever also shocking again today...I look a total wreck - eyes are now totally red and swelling up!

right...need to take dd3 to cubs...back later

Wow bobbly that's fantastic decluttering! Fancy doing another house?! Great to hear you have a long weekend lined up too.

I know what you mean about the hayfever - mine has seriously kicked in today, but I have enjoyed the sun and warmth. Have you got antihistamines etc?

Bought gold polish and cake-making ingredients this pm, so will be polishing tonight and baking tomorrow! Also need to buy myself some nail varnish to complete outfit! Praying for an extraordinary weather event to turn currently predicted solid rain all day Saturday into calm sunny spells

hope everyone's doing ok this eve x

Just a quickie.

Drs ok. Bloods all fine. Just one of those things.

Dr has changed my ads to venaflaxine (sp) because of continued shakyness and I'm not moving forward

I havr a petechie bruise on my arm that has come up since so I don't think this is the end of the story. I also shaved my legs this morning and my legs are covered in an itchy razor rash which I've never had before.

No nap today. Spent afternoon with the friend I upset a couple of months ago. Seem to have sorted out our differences.

Tired now. Watching the apprentice and then bed

Hello everyone - just popping by to say Hi, to the regulars and the newcomers. Forgive me, because as usual I can't remember what everyone has said, but I did remember Lem the thing about your adult daughter, and how distressed you were as you weren't able to "reach" her (emotionally I mean of course) when she was/is? having a bad time with her partner. I have sons aged 40 and 46 and I learned long ago that it is so so hard when our kids are grown, to be able to support them when they are in need. There is an old saying "when they are little they make your arms ache, and when they're grown they make your heart ache" and I in my experience is this is certainly true.

Also remember Hoochy you had an interview - for an agency? sorry can't recall the exact details.

hurryup so sorry that you are in this predicament. This is a good place for support re mental health issues, but you might find it helpful to post in "step parents too" - and maybe "relationships" - one step at a time though. Sounds like you might have made a mistake with the new partner and full time care of his kids is a tough call (I am a step parent but thank god they are both grown with families of their own) but the years when I was step mother were such a struggle and they didn't live here full time.

Snowy I do worry about you. You say so little and seem so low. Have they got the meds right for the depression-side of your mental illness.......when is your CPN back?

My ageing brain cells can't remember anything else. I am ok and CPN is visiting tomorrow. Don't want the psych to come (he is due in a couple of weeks) because he is wanting to lower my dose of imipramine because he thinks the dose (200mg per day) is too high, as it's "age related" (meaning to high for over 65s but don't know why!) and up the mirtazapine that seems to be effective, but I don't want any more tinkering with meds cus I know how much trial and error is involved.

My CPN is back next week. Not sure I want to see her.

I'm watching the apprentice too, bit warm today.

Hi Ed just wondered what ADs you're switching from - hope the venwhatsit helps.

Hi Nana nice to hear from you - glad you're OK. Hope you have a helpful meeting with your CPN.

Have polished little cross and it looks lovely :)

DH met with ex boss who gave him some good advice about how to charge for consultancy/mentoring so am feeling happier about potential income. Phew. Now just need to sort village hall for sat and I will be well on the way...

yum ua

Switching from fluoxetine.

Must take todays.

But I have to wean...off...overlap and stuff so could have a rocky couple of weeks.

Hope that switching over isn't too rocky x

good luck on the change of meds ed

im enjoying my days off. not doing much really but enjoying not doing much.

going to play with the ponies on friday. taking dd out for lunch tomorrow.

thinking about fostering now DS has vacated his room....not just yet, (not that daft and DH just reminded me that i have just had 5 months off sick, plus need to see how DS gets on)....but he is on board with it when i am. my home seems to attract waifs and strays anyway....going to see how the next 6 months pans out.

hope everyone else is managing ok. x

Hello, sounds like you've all sensibly gone to bed! Gp was helpful, dp had rung her to fill her in on how bad I've been as last night was planning to drive into path of a lorry. The good news is she thinks its just a temporary blip due to stress caused by upcoming court case so I have some zopiclone to help me sleep and diazepam for anxiety but she wanted me to give them to dp to dispense. Clearly she thinks Im not to be trusted, probably she's right though.

Vicar - how many ponies do you have? The horses are often my lifeline, either that or wine.

Ed - I am on venlafaxine, it literally turned me and my families life around after citalopram not doing much and escitalopram just making me worse. Fingers crossed for you.

I wish I'd gone to bed...

Just been reading up on venlafaxine and now I'm scared...dreading coming off it (I haven't even started it yet. ..) and I'm not the most reliable person at remembering to take my meds...I guess that is about to change.

But I need something to move me forwards. Fluoxetine has moved me forwards from where I was. Without a doubt. But it hasn't moved me far enough forwards. ...

Well lets see what the next few weeks bring....I'm weaning off fluox this week. Take both fluox and ven next week then drop the fluox altogether.. could need some hand holding...

Hand holding and hug to

L

Hugs to all. You are stronger than you acknowledge and accept.

Okay. I blame my phone.

Long time attendee on the the thread but in a quiet phase :)

I did bring the virtual village to a stressful situation and it was comforting. I am thinking of a small B&B, people welcome for short stays, rest and respite, possibly with a little spa for pampering. The little B&B magically transforms, tardis style, to accommodate all. It is a bit Harry Potter inside.

Love to all.

Go tiger, make that your motto for the day. PS tigers do loll around and nap as well :-)

Good to see you MAMA

The b&b is a wonderful idea. And when you stay your room provides exactly what you need to help at that time. Maybe a bark room with no windows and a big duvet to shut you away from the world temporarily. Maybe a light and airy room with beautiful views. A place of isolation but the stimulation to facilitate quiet contemplation. And of course there is always someone sitting by the log fire in the breakfast room willing to lend an ear to listen, shoulder to cry on or hand to hold.

Sleepy here

I'm back in bed already....need to tackle the kitchen later.

I love the idea of the B&B, i got talking to someone on the internet once who owns a B&B, i used to fantasise about going there - on my own and have this person look after me, from a respectful distance! Of coures, way too expensive!

Feeling sad today, DD1 still hasn't gone back home quite cross with her as yesterday i asked if she was trying to prove a point, she said, partly yes - well she needs to be careful playing this game, i can't give her more advice, she doesn't want it, shes listening to her friend and she doesn't have her best interests at heart :(

Also have decided to give up on working again - its just not me, I am gutted actually but every day i wake up and think, today, today i will look for a job, every day i set myself up for failure. I look at some of the mums at the school, dressed in their work clothes, nice cars, etc and its just not me - i barely reach level 2 for drop off, if i brush my hair is a fecking miracle. I just think its not my place to do that.

ed i will hold your hand through the transition - hopefully the new meds will help you. Dont be reading side effects, none of us would take anything if we did!

Ed ditto lem advice re: side effects. I've been reading good things about those ADs so try and focus on them helping you get better for now.

Hi lem (((hugs))) re DD. Random thought - send her a card with a simple "I'm always here for you, love you, take care" message?

I do think its a good idea to put the work thing on the back burner for now. Doesn't mean its forever. And take that bit of daily pressure/feeling of failure away which can't be helpful. I know exactly what you mean about mums at school looking professional and smart etc - I often feel the same. My counsellor says - but do you actually want to be like them? (I think - well a bit, but I don't want to be working f/t juggling childcare etc. Mine are growing up so fast.) It's not easy though. I think having my painting has been a lifeline - I have something to say when people ask so what do you do... and I am trying to see having the time off as a good thing (tho appreciate its hard when money is so tight). Got much planned today?

I need to make a big cake this morning. And have a load of other errands to run/little jobs to do. Weather is better than expected today, but still looking crap for Sat! (I am now addicted to Met office website

take care all

Ed - I was so reluctant to take them for the same reason but my gp pointed out that the option was staying on tablets that did nothing at all or getting better. The only side effects i has was constipation and dry mouth, both gone now. don't be scared about coming off them just get well first.

Oh, im so sorry everyone - i am really struggling. Waiting for Dr to call to give me prescription of meds, MH woman just called, told her i was OK I am not ok. I'm actually starting to scare myself.

What are you doing now lem?