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My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

Well done lem and Ed. Hope your afternoons going ok. I'm sat watching dd swimming lesson. It is soooooo hot and humid in here - almost sauna like. Recipe for bad hair and bright red face!

Hi to everyone, hope your days going ok. I got out for a walk this morn. Out to school this eve to a talk which should be interesting. No counselling tomorrow as have dd and ds sports days - so a full day of it!

evening all.
lem sorry today was a bad day for you. Hoping you can get an early night and feel brighter tomorrow.

ed hope you had good furry therapy

snowy hi

silverypussycat I like the idea of counting savings towards money earned...I got very good at bargain hunting when I didnt work (had no choice as we were seriously skint!!)

CIQ good luck with sports day marathon tomorrow!

waves to everyone else!

well I woke up feeling much more positive today...it can be so hard not knowing how I'm going to feel when I wake up...sometimes there is just no rhyme and reason to how I feel day to day...

have managed to do basic house stuff, good day at work, and good session of dog training with 8 month old delinquent doggy this evening!!
going to have earlyish night and finish my book....

be back tomorrow

Sounds like lots well done bobbly

How was the talk, CiQ?

How was the play LEM?

What has everyone else been up to?

I hope it's not too scorching tomorrow.

Evening all.

Shite day here.

So so so sleepy.

I have a slight fever.

I have a few more unusual bruises.

I opened one of my letters today. I am over my credit limit on my credit card hence the reason it has been stopped.

I am so stupid.

I am in bed now. Need to sleep. Bloods tomorrow.

I did manage to vacuum though and put some washing away.

Snowy - play was good recorders agogo! Dd did wee how are you today? Scorching?? I wish - weather is grim here.

Ed you are not stupid! Well done on housework vi only managed half hearted effort of bathroom

Ciq I am going to try for a walk tomorrow

bobbly glad you had good day

silvery you are right I have to forget about work for a bit longer I am not ready

firstly
lem - please be assured that kids are genius at subtley making us feel shite....
we havent had a holiday for 2 years. It irks me because im earning more now than at any other point in my life and we are still up shit creek financially.....i sometimes think thats why i resent work.

ed you are not stupid. im in a similar boat. spending money makes me feel better temporarily.....i have spent hundreds that i dont really have on rats.
and riding.
but these things have got me through, and so im trying to remember it can be resolved. and it can. it will. eventually. soon one of my loans finishes. then i might get sorted. it will take a while....

i am very very sleep again lately, i slept until noon today. house was a tip and i managed to get some of it sorted but not all and ive piles of washing both to iron and to wash....im going to rename the spare room mount washmore.....

i sorted the kitchen, DD did her room and bathroom, hall stairs and landing.

i went for the new ratties tonight, they are sweeties but dd doesnt like them because they are just normal rats, top eared, and ratty coloured....but they are sweet boys. Dudley is currently being a bit of a bully boy and throwing his weight about....im hoping they will settle down together. I thought he would appreciate company....

it was a long drive and my evening has gone.

No plans for tomorrow - going to have an easy day. looking forward to it, tv to catch up on, hoping the ratty boys can all go back in the big cage if they are getting along.

i need to start stripping DS room out....it feels funny without him here. He has moved into a shared house tonight.
he is homesick but ok.
DH keeps reminding me that this is how it should be and that ive done my job right.....but he is vulnerable and i worry about him. And i feel a bit guilty because i didnt really want him home....though i didnt really think he would move 300 miles either....

Thanks Vicar - that is kind, for me, money is the route of my anxiety and i actually hate spending it, it makes me so nervous, food shopping is bad enough but clothes and shoes, stuff for me, forget it, i just cant. but i will quite happily fork out £££s for DDs riding and anything she wants. I will also waste money on coffee because sitting in costa packet coffee with a cappuccino makes me feel normal. Ridiculous.

Its a lovely day here, i am going to try and get out with the dogs and maybe do some gardening, all i really want to do is go back to bed!

I can empathise with wanting to go back to bed Ed, hope you have a nice walk and garen. Sounds like a very productive day vicar.

Hi everyone, ed sorry you feeling so bad just now, hope you get some answers soon.

Lem hope your feeling a bit better today :( you are not a waste of space, I find all of you ladies very brave and this is what this thread is for, support when we are not feeling our best.

Vicar it's nice to hear your feeling better about work, hope you get moved to the other team, they seem much more professional, I enjoy all your updates but I think as you are on sertraline too I always look out for you, it motivated me and I have started my meds today, feel a little spaced and tired but not too bad as yet.

Nana I have bobbed in and out of this thread so pleased to meet you, a dvt is a deep vein thrombosis, (blood clot) and luckily I didn't have one but thank you for your concern, hope you are well today.

Bobbly hello, nice to meet you. I can be shouty too, my 2 seem to ignore it now so I don't think it works for us, hopefully my meds will help and I can be a bit calmer.

Ciq hope you enjoyed the school talk.

Hello to spc, snowy, ua, helles, Bassett and zombies.

Hi everyone,

Bobbly great to hear you had such a good day yesterday, hope today is good too. Thanks re: sports day - halfway through now, was v cute watching DS first ever school sports day but glad to be home for a bit.

Hi snowy, notso at risk of outing myself, talk was v interesting, by Sue Palmer, author of this book. Talking about speed of change, and need to take stock of how we approach all the mod tech and marketing sophistication re: our kids. Plus research showing rates of language delay in kids is rising every year. Not enough one to one with parents, communication, play... very thought provoking and v nice to have some of my own thoughts and tactics justified - eg screen time limits much to DCs annoyance...

Hi Lem how's today going?

Hello too to vicar, ed, ua and anyone I've missed.

Feeling stressed today - some of last nights talk was thought-provoking which for my head means a bit stressful , Doc appt - which was OK but basically, keep doing what you're doing. 2 sports days, DS having friend over after school and DH out this eve so I have to do bedtime routine (Not my fav by a long way). Have 45 mins now before I go back to school... saus and chips for tea I think.

take care all.

No walk, its gonna rain so i made a double egg sarnie instead

Im doing ok today, have done kitchen and tidied and hoovered living room, one lot of washing on the line. Run out of "go" now though.

Worried about DD1 - she didn't go home last night, stayed at her workmates house after work. I phoned her this morning and she is upset with me - saying i am sticking up for her DP!! Err, no, i apologised for calling him a c* (not to his face) and told her I liked him. I don't know what to do, apart from step back - there is a very big part of me that thinks that actually yes, the time has come to LTB but Im not sure she is doing it for the right reasons. I think she has got in with a bit of a rum crowd at workk (young girls out for a good time - nothing wrong with that but DD has DP to consider and their outgoings etc) and im worried that she is being bouyed by them. There are things that make me think that she will be better off witout her DP and others that think hes a great lad and she should try and get things sorted (there is fault on both sides i think - not least, DD spending money like it is water). I think this is why i was upset about the birthday, as i see it as a symptom. I will be gutted if she leaves as i saw it as stability for her, but if its no good its no good :( She said she doesn't want to come home. Doesn't know what she wants to do, will go home (to dp) either tomorrow or tonight (she works late shifts so easier to stay at her friends). I have just told her i wont anymore q's but am there if she needs me - its tearing me apart not being able to do more, shes my daughter FFS :( :( I never have felt like a good mum to her, now i feel like she doesn't need/want me.

Sorry, i feel like im hijacking this thread - i just needed to vent it and the response in AIBU or god forbid relationships are too strong for me just now.

CiQ you sound like a brilliant mum, just the sort of mum i wish i could be, so hands on with your kids, even when times are hard. You should be proud of yourself. Glad you enjoyed sports day.

Nana, hope you are doing good - Also, zombie (not seen you for a bit, wonder if you have picked up this new thread? i might have to go on a zombie hunt)

Vicar, i hope you are enjoying a restful week and keeping that phone switched off.

How are you today Ed?

Keep going with the good days bobbly

i think you are lovely, just wanted to say that.

Thanks for the kind words nosto.

Huggs to anyone i have fortgotten basset, hoochy, UA, glabella (where are you?)

Pub feels a bit empty - we should organise something

Thanks lem you're very kind. That sounds tough re: your DD. I can imagine its best to try and take a step back but I can also believe that's really difficult to do. A few "I'm here if you need me"s every now and then sounds great. I'm sure you have been a good mum - but when the stress and anxiety builds its almost impossible to remember/believe that - I know. Be kind to yourself x

Well my anxiety is a PITA this pm. I have done 2 sports days and have brought DS home with his friend - they are now jumping on trampoline. Anxiety is just constantly building. It's weird days like this, something triggers it and I just can't control it at all - in fact the opposite... Have to collect DD in 20 mins, trying not to think beyond that at the moment. Suspect it will be an evening of 30 minute chunks. God what a pain.

Think last nights talk + GP + busy day + no DH this eve is probably the cause... hope I am better tomorrow. Oh and that time of the month too (sorry TMI!). Ok end of moan...

Take care all x

Oh, oh, how lovely you all are.

Really agree with the small chunks of day, CiQ, sometimes I feel like I'm being swept along in a torrent of water, trying to reach the bank and just stop.

I feel happy and busy, but not quite myself somehow, as if the A/D's have taken something away.

LEM you are a good mum, it is so hard as they get older to judge it all, I am constantly failing, but as long as there is love there, we can't go badly wrong.

So terrified about the interview on Friday I feel most scared that they might offer me a job, as I just want to stop for a bit and have a breather. I know I need to earn the money, as I have been sponging off DH for two years, but I'm such a wimp, and want to be at home for a bit.

Love to you Snowy.

Waves to Notso, Ed, Bobbly, and anyone else I've forgotten

I feel like a nice evening down the pub beckons, with that cosy fire, and scampi and chips in the basket for me please

The pub is a great plan I'm struggling a lot at the moment

snowy, notso, lem can I buy you a drink?

Can I join?
I have PTSD and it's a real pain in the ass right now.

Nice to meet you all.

Lime and lemonade sounds nice please.

Hi everyone, just popping in to say hello, I haven't been her for ages. Have been struggling a bit with sleep and anxiety, but am ok.

Love to you allxxx

Welcome chipsahoy

Come on in and grab a chair Chips!! We are a friendly supportive bunch and its just a lifeline to come and vent, ask questions or just talk about our days, if its a bad day, a good day or a mediochre day, I find it comforting to hear about everyones day to day comings and goings. What is said on this thread stays on this thread and there is no judging so if you feel you want to share about your PTSD then please do, if not, thats ok too.

Hi Catmint - are you on meds at the moment - sorry brain like sieve xxx

Just in from garden - ds currently hating me because I said he had to go to bed after he came in half an hour. So he's come downstairs with a "bumped head" for cuddles!

My DD just rang, she still hasn't gone home I think this could really be it :( she sent him a text today to ask if he wanted her to go home and he hasn't replied. I can't help but think she is being unduly influenced by her friends. At least she rang though :)

I wonder how many times DS will come down for cuddles helles? kids are funny.

So, to the pub with me, thanks for the offer of a drink CiQ, im torn between a nice cold glass of lemonade with ice and lemon or a double JD and coke

Lime and lemonade it is snowy
Hi chips welcome, fancy a drink?
Hi catmint nice to see you again
Hoochy (((hugs))) just do the interview. Think of it as practice. Question them - find out what they're like - would you like to work for them? and then see how it goes.
Lem what'll it be?

I think I will have some for a change . Have finally sat down. DCs showed me up this eve. They were prob tired from sportsday and overexcited But. Refused to use cutlery to eat dinner. Lovely guest actually said to one of them that they weren't being very nice to their mummy . Then guests' DM arrived and we agreed they could have another turn on trampoline. 5 mins later DS screaming saying DD had jumped on his head, DD screaming no I didn't.... so had to get them all off trampoline... DS refused etc etc etc. Embarassed. Told them their guest had behaved better than they had. They are now bathed and in bed. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tempted to open a bottle of

Hi Helles drink?
Lem cross post. I vote for the JD but don't want to lead you astray!

Can I join pls? Am in desperate need of anyone that understands. I have anxiety and depression, been on citalopram for a while after separation and then new relationship was really stressful when moved in as we both have dc that live with us full time. Went on venlafaxine and had cbt but now falling apart big time :-(((