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Andes up - who needs a rock to lean on? Rock on over here!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 19/03/2013 15:27

in honour of ed and her mountain ranges.....Smile

welcome to thread 3 - this is a support thread for anyone needing a hand to hold while they get through depression or any other mental health problems - long term or temporary. All are welcome.

linky to old thread

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EggwiniasRevenge · 09/04/2013 08:44

Ow ow ow.

My neck was loads better...then I slipped down the stairs.
I have a friction burn on my arm. I have pulled my other shoulder (same side as neck injury) but that seems alright an hour later.
My bottom is agony. I have previously damaged my coxyx falling down the stairs and think I have done the same. It is agony to sit down. Hurts to walk. Thought I would be able to lay down but it hurts. It hurts to clench my bottom it even hurts to pass wind.

I do not need this today :(

Sorry for the winge.

In other news I know I don't drink anywhere near enough. 'Can't' drink pure water makes me gag. I probably only drink 500ml-1litre of fluid on a typical day. Mostly squash and some fizzy pop.

Ow ow ow ow...

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 09:34

is anyone around to talk??? I think I'm having another meltdown & feel really scarred :(

TheSilveryPussycat · 09/04/2013 09:42

Hi pfl I'm here. Something trigger this?

Egg you poor thing Sad

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 09:47

I think arguments with my family did - I've been feeling strange for a couple days now. just lying on bed thinking about getting dressed & leaving! I keep seeing my family but everyone's face has turned into dinosaur's... weird stuff.... I think my head is overwhelmed.

TheSilveryPussycat · 09/04/2013 10:11

I know how you feel - although without the dinasaurs! What members of your family? - have just been to stay with DF and had blow up (not unusual with him but I can't seem to get used to it and I am now 60) - although we smoothed it over I got quite depressed and angry after coming home, and had it all going round and round in my head on a loop.

Lucyellensmum95 · 09/04/2013 11:15

Bloody families - i have fallen out with my mother too, WTF is it with people? PFL, are you on any medication? Do you have anyone with you? Could you maybe go to the doctors? If you are scared.

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 11:49

I've taken my usual AD the anti psychotic I take at night. yeah my lovely family is with me! they all seem to have forgotten y'day & r acting completely normal. I've hardly slept a wink all night. now my dad is doing my head in about some paperwork!!! I couldn't give a beep about any paperwork. I just want to be left alone to die in peace :(

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 11:56

Lucy Dr's r useless when it comes to mental health and medication or even referrals - well mine is anyway. plus time for ringing in for an appt for today has gone.even if I had gone I don't know how much help it would have been. I just feel soooooo crappy.

EggwiniasRevenge · 09/04/2013 12:32

Hang in there pain.

If you are used to mental health problems you will know that the bad days will pass to be followed by some better days. Head down and hide if you need to but come out after a rest.

In other news...I am worried about vicar. Given our twinned tendencies and the fact that she is (I think) at the stables today...I hope she comes home without any injuries...

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 14:05

yeah I know ur right eggwiniasrevenge but it seems atm it's only bad days & no sight of good days :(

MrsHelsBels74 · 09/04/2013 15:13

Please someone tell me it gets easier. I just don't want to do this anymore. DS1 is being a typical 3yo & I just can't help but get annoyed at him & it's not his fault. I'm turning into a shouty parent & I hate it. Really feel ill today. Having 5 mins peace & quiet upstairs but can still hear all the noise, can't bear it.

PainForLife · 09/04/2013 15:42

mrshelsbels74 I really understand what you mean as that's exactly what I've been doing all day. I've been trying to ignore my daughter(3) all day she hasn't given me 5 mins peace. my mum has tried to keep her in another room but I can still hear them. in a flat there isn't any place you can't hear each other in :(

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ThatVikRinA22 · 09/04/2013 16:58

Hi everyone
egg im ok - didnt go to stables. Am still very much on level 1 here - but last year i also fell down stairs and broke my coccyx - you have my utmost sympathy - i know how incredibly painful it is. Rest in whatever position is comfortable - for me i was to get a pillow on the sofa and rest on my side. lots of pain killers and lots of rest. Im going to go to stables on sunday now - cant really leave house tomorrow as i am expecting the call about the job. Thursday DD wants to go shopping for shoes for her prom, Friday im seeing a friend so its going to have to be sunday now before i get back to stables. I have been rubbish at eating today too - so far ive had a bowl of rice crispies.
about to have tea though....spag bol that dh has done.

pain im really sorry you are having such a horrible and frightening time - how are you feeling now? Are you seeing your family normally again now? If things are still feeling really odd i would definitely get in touch with a sympathetic GP, or even call the crisis team if you have their number and have dealt with them before? Sounds like you could do with a bit extra support just now. Remember that your family love you and your mum is there to help you. Your DD loves you, and you are just not well at the moment. You should really look for additional support. Have you talked to your mum about things? are you able to do that?

Same for you mrshels - Is there any way you can go for a walk with your DS just to get you out of the house? just a trip to the park or something? that way he gets to run about and get rid of his energy and you get a bit of fresh air and a change of scenery....again what support have you got? are family able to help or just lend an ear? a friend?

im sorry everyone seems to be having a hard time.

i seem to just be unable to get going today - i feel like everything is just on hold until tomorrow - i need to know if i got the job. i will be so sad if i dont get it....i am keeping everything crossed. Either way i need to contact HR tomorrow.
i hope the NHS dont keep me lingering on wondering all day.....i need this job.

hang on in there everyone. Today will pass. Tomorrow is a new day.
hugs and strength to all. x

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PainForLife · 09/04/2013 17:49

vicar glad to hear ur ok. wish u lots of luck for the job :)

yes thankfully I'm seeing family normally.
DD may love me but she has been driving me nuts all day. I have not been able to shut down for even 5 mins. now she has resorted to banging all the doors! noise is absolutely killing me.

I think I just need a 2 min time out for a cigarette but I can't do that until my dad comes home & takes over for me :(

EggwiniasRevenge · 09/04/2013 18:38

Guess what I am having for tea vicar???

Avondale · 09/04/2013 18:41
EggwiniasRevenge · 09/04/2013 19:33

Offers avondale a cuppa, a duvet and a warm welcome.

Drop by whenever you want.

HellesBelles396 · 09/04/2013 20:14

bruised coccyx hideous - I still get pain 16 years on!

pfl could your mum take dd out for a bit or could you go out for a bit? even just to the nearest communal area/park for some fresh air?

silvery, how are you doing now?

EggwiniasRevenge · 09/04/2013 23:13

Evening all.

Here's hoping for good news tomorrow vicar

Dtd1 cooked bolognese for tea and made a pretty good job of it.
I actually cleared all of the washing up away afterwards...standing still appears to be more comfortable than sitting or laying.
I've made my costume for pack holiday (another standing up job)
I've done a bit more pack holiday prep
Dtds made biscuits to test a recipe for me...and have left my tidy kitchen in a tip.

Should have a finance meeting tomorrow but I am going to ring and try and do it by phone given I can't sit with both legs in front of me to drive.

I need to summon up courage to ring tutor. I have a letter giving friFriday as deadline. ...so need to do that. ...but have no idea what to say.

Right I need to sleep. Friend is coming tomorrow to try and help with pack holiday prep. My whole house is a tip...I currently have cardboard flamingos all over my lounge floors and sofas...

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ThatVikRinA22 · 10/04/2013 00:59

firstly a welcome to avondale - pull up a duvet and get comfy. (running joke on this thread is that a few of us are useless at getting out of bed.....!)

egg we are truly twins! im going to be extra careful but given i have done the whole coccyx thing i hope im on safe ground!

im intrigued at flamingos......the mind boggles! sounds fun though - and very colourful! (are they pink flamingos??? i do hope so)

i have consumed way too much wine. (a bottle of red.....no bloody wonder my reflux is terrible....i need a job. when i have no reason to get up i drink too much)
i have sat and watched 4 hours of game of thrones.....

so i should really get to bed.

i wish everyone a better day tomorrow. i will either be laughing or crying - i will let you know.
good luck vibes appreciated.....though i guess the decision was made today.

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HellesBelles396 · 10/04/2013 06:59

forgot to say: egg drinking at least 1.5l per day keeps your immune system and brain working the way they should. not pop or coffee though.

EggwiniasRevenge · 10/04/2013 07:31

Morning...I need matchsticks.

Baaaaad nights sleep. Woke every time I needed to turn over....

Oh and this is the second time ive 'done' my coccyx....

PainForLife · 10/04/2013 11:16

morning egg sorry ur haven such a rough morning. I had to take a sleeping pill last night as even at 3am I was still awake! well I woke up again at 8am but at least I managed to get 5 hours.just try & rest as much as u can, I can imagine it must be painful :(

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ThatVikRinA22 · 10/04/2013 11:47

oh egg....i will be vigilant on my stairs then....given that we seem to be twinned at the minute! i hope you feel better soon - it is horrible. i have a coccyx cushion somewhere....let me know if you want it sending though i have to say it was a bit of a disappointment....i got it for driving but cant say it made much difference. its just a square piece of thin foam with a hole cut out at the back....

im sat biting my nails waiting anxiously for news. Ive checked emails and there is no thanks but no thanks there so im still praying.....they said they would let me know one way or the other today.

im still level 1 here but am going to go and busy myself with getting dressed and doing my hair.....im going to walk the dog when DH gets in. Not sure that warrants bonus points for make up though....

i need this job. i wish they would phone...i wonder if they are still deciding or just putting off telling those who havent got it....

best go and do something or i wont have any nails left.

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EggwiniasRevenge · 10/04/2013 13:13

I just feel so rubbish that I am starting to feel a bit more head clarity...but my body is letting me down.

At least I have an excuse to be in bed...