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to throw up after dinner to save on calories?

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wildswans · 03/09/2012 21:14

I am not bulimic, I weigh around 10 stone which for my height of 5' 2" is slightly tubby, but i am ok with that. However, I quite often deliberately make myself sick after a rich meal just to get rid of the calories. I consider it a 'win, win' situation - I have a lovely meal but don't need to worry about the effects on the waist line. I have just been out to a lovely Thai meal with my DH and DC and the contents have been flushed away!

AIBU or do lots of you actually do the same?

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Jinsei · 03/09/2012 22:15

OP, if it's the non-issue that you are suggesting it is, may I ask what made you start the thread? Is there perhaps a little part of you that is uncomfortable about what you're doing?

Also, how do you know your dd doesn't know? My friend was astounded when I confronted her about her bulimia years ago, didn't think anyone else could possibly have noticed, but it had been obvious to me for a while before I found the courage to talk to her about it. I don't think you should be too confident that your dd knows nothing. :(

planetpotty · 03/09/2012 22:16

OP I'm surprised at some of the comments you have received - I think it may be down to the fact that you come across as rather blasé about this, perhaps looking at it that way you can see how this really is not right and not something everyone does.

Please even if you think we are all being totally ridiculous visit your GP and just talk them through the being sick after meals. Saying you are in control is exactly what someone who is bulimic would say - IME.

Good luck OP Smile

RabbitsMakeBrownEggs · 03/09/2012 22:16

This is a frighteningly emotive subject OP, and the fact that you are so very blasé about it is beginning to upset me, so I am afraid I am going to wish you well (I hope you consider stopping because otherwise you are on a slippery slope health-wise) and hide this thread.

I think you really need to consider just how SERIOUS doing something like this is - to other people, especially your daughter, and to yourself.

DoMeDon · 03/09/2012 22:17

Well this is not RL and people are telling you it's not common. Does that not impact your view at all?

Noqontrol · 03/09/2012 22:18

But if you think its such a normal thing to do, why aren't you honest with your rl friends and family? Surely the fact you keep it hidden tells you theres a problem?

MigratingCoconuts · 03/09/2012 22:18

Could you please consider the possibility that most people do not do this?

What then?

tak1ngchances · 03/09/2012 22:18

Snap jinsei

dontcallmehon · 03/09/2012 22:19

Thetermaganttoaster, much of your post resonated with me. I would spend £70 on food and eat it in one go :( I lived in a shared house as a student and the toilet was downstairs, next to the kitchen, which made it difficult for me to purge discreetly. So I kept a plastic box with a lid to vomit into [shame and disgust :(]. I emptied it at night. I am telling you this OP, as I want you to know where this could lead. I started off like you.

I am now totally free of bulimia. I never thought it would happen, I would still binge or purge sporadically for a long time when I was in recovery. It can be done. But EDs are no joke :( I am sorry to share that horrible story:(

shesariver · 03/09/2012 22:20

Nobody knows, of course they don't

Why ever not if its so normal? Hmm

Goofymum · 03/09/2012 22:21

If no-one knows then you know what you're doing is wrong. Were you posting on here in the hope that many people would agree so you could justify it to yourself? I hope you'll see from these responses that you need to get some help or at least start looking at internet sites to get more info on eating disorders.

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wildswans · 03/09/2012 22:22

What is it about MN - 10% of you are really kind and understanding and the rest of you are so narrow minded and judgmental and so f***g perfect - or are you really. does it make you feel better to pour scorn on me and accuse me of being a bad mother?

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Noqontrol · 03/09/2012 22:24

No scorn here, just concern that you think its normal. Why are you so defensive?

MigratingCoconuts · 03/09/2012 22:24

No one has scorned you!

There's a lot of concern for you, but no scorn. honestly.

leelteloo · 03/09/2012 22:24

Wildswans the brave posters, who are sharing their very personal experiences are not scaremongering: they are offering insight and should be respected.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 03/09/2012 22:25

I don't think you are a bad mother, and I am not judging you (other than saying you were flippant and I thought you were on a windup). Fuck me I am far from perfect. But this is potentially very worrying for you. It sounds like a bloody horrible slope that yiu could end up going down.

Socknickingpixie · 03/09/2012 22:25

to the informative list upthread may i please add...

indents and sores on fingers
damage to throat and gag reflex
broken red veins on face
flaking nails
sores around nose/mouth like glue sniffers get
inability to stop being sick after eating

and in very long term cases risk of a ruptured esopagus.

as to your dd not knowing, not a chance in hell does anybody who lives in the same house not know. or anyone who ever has to work on your drains they know as well.

how on earth do you explain the double loo flush or the very distinctive smell in the bathroom that you wont notice as your used to it but others will? or even either the smell on you or the compensation smell? or the waterey eyes after a bathroom visit?

i see no scaremongering op but i do see a person who is kidding themselves

AnnaLiza · 03/09/2012 22:26

Eh? You've lost me there.
No-one is accusing you of being a bad mother!!! I think you're in denial but then everyone is probably wrong and you're right.
Good luck OP. I hope you are in fact right.

shesariver · 03/09/2012 22:26

What is it about MN - 10% of you are really kind and understanding and the rest of you are so narrow minded and judgmental and so f*g perfect - or are you really.

Dont be so ridiculous, of course I'm not perfect...but I'm not in denial that I've got an eating disorder.... where's all the rage coming from, some posts touched a nerve perhaps?

Anonymumous · 03/09/2012 22:26

Does it make you feel better to think that people who don't agree with you are narrow-minded and judgemental?

Jinsei · 03/09/2012 22:26

Nobody is accusing you of being a bad mother, OP, and nobody is pouring scorn, but many of us are concerned that you are in denial about what's going on here. We want to help, not attack, but pretending that it's normal to do what you're doing would not actually help you at all. You need to be honest with yourself - what you're doing isn't good for you.:(

Yummymummyyobe1 · 03/09/2012 22:27

wildswans I don't think people are being judgmental this is one of those threads that brings up strong feelings because these things frighten people as ED's are often very hidden and when they are discussed especially in the news it is often because there has been a tragic loss.

dontcallmehon · 03/09/2012 22:29

Wild swans, I have shared something I have never shared with anyone in RL. I am not being scornful. I have been at the all you can eat buffet, feeling smug about my secret. I have also been in the depths of despair.

Anytime you do this, you could bring on a heart attack, or most likely the more minor, but common symptoms, such as burst blood vessels, swollen salivary glands, sore throat. If you truly are in control, why would you do this?

StrawberryMojito · 03/09/2012 22:30

Why do you think so many people do it? I assure you it's not common amongst healthy adults. Not being nasty, just saying.

FunnysInLaJardin · 03/09/2012 22:30

you are bulimic OP. And while the thought has crossed my mind I would never do it

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wildswans · 03/09/2012 22:32

How can being sick bring on a heart attack, that's ridiculous.

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