to throw up after dinner to save on calories?

[wildswans]

I am not bulimic, I weigh around 10 stone which for my height of 5' 2" is slightly tubby, but i am ok with that. However, I quite often deliberately make myself sick after a rich meal just to get rid of the calories. I consider it a 'win, win' situation - I have a lovely meal but don't need to worry about the effects on the waist line. I have just been out to a lovely Thai meal with my DH and DC and the contents have been flushed away!

AIBU or do lots of you actually do the same?

Most bulimics are slightly overweight. Doh!

But it is not a reasonable way to control your diet... You must see that!!

Christ though doesn't it terrify you that your teenage dd may do the same as you? Do you not think that she may have sussed what you do after a hefty meal.

I am sorry for doubting you, your opening post sounded very flippant. But how can you not worry about this? It really is not normal.

It would worry me terribly if my dd was anging around with kids who binged and purged like that.

and what did you say to your DD when she said that???

Christ re the laxatives. Bloody hell.

Oh god laxatives plentyof. One of my friends used to do that, she is now very overweight and extremely unhealthy.

It's not healthy at all. You need to address the whole of your diet if you think you need to be cutting down on calories, not bingeing and making yourself sick.

I am going to give the OP the benefit of the doubt (having had a quick look at posting history)

I would say, YABU

But, in fact, you are bulimic.

Sorry if it's not what you wanted to read.

I think the fact you see nothing wrong with it makes it even more worrying tbh. Ffs don't tell your dd you do this!

It is not normal to make your self sick to control weight.

And why are you asking us anyway if you think it's not bulimia and it's a win win situation

Actually you are not bulimic as bulimics are classified by binge/purge cycle. You are EDNOC, or eating disorders not otherwised classified. This pattern of behaviour can easily spiral into full blown bulimia. I have been bulimic for over 24 years and started off just throwing up dinner to get rid of calories all those years ago.

I am finally getting help to try to recover but have spent in the region of £50000 in this time literally flushed down the loo.

OP, I was bulimic for 10 years. I thought it was normal. I used to think as you did, even when the blood vessels under my eyes would pop. I thought I was being clever. I wasn't, I was miserable, moody and depressed. It wasn't a particularly effective method of weight control, as my blood sugar would plummet and I would crave food, after being sick. Thus the cycle would begin again.

It is never normal to make yourself sick.

How would you feel if your daughter did the same ?

Well if you's rather have Thai food than teeth, then thats the way to do it.

It is an eating disorder... definitely.

Throwing up food can potentially cause throat cancer, mouth cancer etc by the acids from the stomach (and teeth damage)....

This is incredibly silly behaviour, poses a risk to your health and may send the message to your DD that this is OK. It's not.

Stop, and if you can't stop of your own accord, see a dr.

OP, if I told you, you didn't actually throw up all of the calories you ate this evening (although at the time it probably seemed like you did!), how do you feel?

And I do think it is a ridiculous thing to post in AIBU!

What would laxatives do - surely you still absorb the fat before the laxative works

If you really think it is relatively normal, what do you think your DH would say if he knew? Or your best friend? Or your mum?

Is there someone you can talk to in rl about this?

I bloody hope this isn't a pisstake.

Purging after eating is not normal, sorry. I hope you told your teenager that?

Any kind of disordered behaviour around food and eating would be considered an ED. You need to seek help for an eating disorder or stop binging and purging.

Wildswans, think of it this way, is there any reason at all that your body would vomit when you are perfectly healthy?

What you've described is (to my amateur eye) textbook bulimia, the fact you don't see a problem with it leads me to personally conclude that your definition of not often wouldn't match mine. Seriously, not a good habit to have and one that you should definitely consider talking to someone about.

It's a fine line between 'occasionally' to waking up one day and realising that you have a serious problem.

How would you feel if your DD was doing this? Would you then think it was ok? Really?

You know it is an eating disorder, you must do. You have to know this is not normal. If it is rich food, eat less of it. Don't stuff it in your face then vom it up! It harms your throat and your teeth, just the act of making yourself sick.