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can anyone help me?

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mosp · 20/05/2012 12:34

I want to cancel my skype and also facebook. I have googled. Sorry, I can't work out how to do it. I need to get rid of them both. Please, can anyone guide me what to do?

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PeanutButterCupCake · 20/05/2012 18:36

It's good that you acknowledge that you need to get it out Mosp.
If you don't feel you can talk here the you must speak to your GP, or a friend or the Samaritans.
Sometimes just sharing makes it less awful

Thanks
FamiliesShareGerms · 20/05/2012 18:40

Find an outlet to get it out. Talk to a professional (eg GP), someone who is trained and completely non-judgemental and you never need see again (eg Samaritans) or even just write a letter with everything in it then burn it so no-one will find it. It's very cathartic!!

You're not dirty, whatever you've done, promise.

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mosp · 20/05/2012 18:40

I don't know what I can do. :(

I wish this place was not public, although it needs to be. Oh, I don't know what I wish. I just wish I could erase yesterday and the run up to yesterday.

Too many people on here know who I am in rl.

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fuckarama · 20/05/2012 18:41

post in OTBT - it isn't google-able I don't think?

SarahStratton · 20/05/2012 18:42

It isn't, it doesn't show up at all.

GetTheeToANunnery · 20/05/2012 18:43

Oh mosp :( I have no advice but I do hope you feel better soon. Im sure you're not half as bad as you make out xx

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mosp · 20/05/2012 18:45

help me. I can't do this. can't focus

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iamme43 · 20/05/2012 18:50

What on earth did you do?

If it was not illegal please do not concern yourself over it.

NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 18:53

I am glad you came back, Mosp - I was worried.
I can't believe there is anything you can say that you have done that would shock me or many posters here.
But please do try to speak to someone who can offer professional help, they are not there to judge you but to try to help you.

Anyway, if it is any help at all then just think that yesterday is over and done with, so you can leave it it in the past. It is just finding a way of doing so.

Please do keep coming back and posting, MN cares! :)

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mosp · 20/05/2012 18:54

not what I did so much as what I allowed someone else to do to me because I felt guilty :(

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iamme43 · 20/05/2012 18:56

I really cannot advise anymore as I do not know what happened and how you can go forward.

You are obviously very upset but I am sure you can be strong and put it behind you and get on with looking after the kids, school and stuff and this will not seem so bad in the future.

perplexedpirate · 20/05/2012 18:56

If you didn't hurt or harm anyone, it can't be that bad.
I've done some pretty stupid things in my time, we all have. It absolutely does not make you dirty or deserving of punishment.

NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 18:58

So someone took advantage of you because you felt guilty. That is not something to be ashamed of, honestly.

Happy to listen if it helps. x

iowmum88 · 20/05/2012 19:05

Has someone hurt you?

iamme43 · 20/05/2012 19:08

Did you or the other person commit a criminal offense?

BustersOfDoom · 20/05/2012 19:25

I don't have the first clue who you are in real life but please post in OTBT so you can get the support you need. No one is going to judge you, everyone wants to help you deal with whatever it is that is causing you such distress.

RetroMom · 20/05/2012 19:33

It sounds like you were coerced into a situation which has left you feeling dirty, confused and out of control. Is that right?

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mosp · 20/05/2012 19:38

Yes :(

I said I don't like it but my feelings are worthless. And I was so so drunk. Drinking wine from the bottle so I could cope with what I had to do.

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JustFab · 20/05/2012 19:41

Is there 2 issues here?

Whatnamethistime · 20/05/2012 19:41

Mosp change IDs and go to OTBT it will be gone in 30 days.

Abuse victims often blame themselves and feel dirty and ashamed - even those who are only children themselves.

Someone doing something to you you didn't want them to do isnt your fault - it really isn't xxx

RetroMom · 20/05/2012 19:46

No Mosp, your feelings are not worthless, though whoever abused you did not take your feelings into account. Do not own that man's shame as your own. What he did was wrong. That you didn't fight him when he didn't take no for an answer does not make you dirty, though he has violated you. The guilt and shame is all his. You just need someone to talk to, to help you get your head round what has happened to you.

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mosp · 20/05/2012 19:51

I will go there. Won't be until later though as I need to give my girls some attention. Thank you. Will any of you be around in an hour or so?

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FamiliesShareGerms · 20/05/2012 19:53

Mops, whatever happened is not your fault. If you didn't want to do it, they forced you. Your feelings aren't worthless, the who did this to you is worthless.

Please find someone to talk to in real life, and make sure you and your children stay safe.

FamiliesShareGerms · 20/05/2012 19:54

I'll be here later, mosp

MrsSnaplegs · 20/05/2012 19:58

There will be a few of us around
Take care Smile