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is there a post natal depression/anxiety thread?

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MamaLaMoo · 30/11/2011 16:47

looking for this, will create if not, thanks.

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pinkyp · 08/01/2012 23:50

[whispers] can I join...?

lovebeinganana · 08/01/2012 23:54

Thanks I will mention breathing to her tomorrow. She's just got up to appologise for being silly, hopefully I have reassured her she is not silly these fears are real but hopefuly will eventually go away allthough I did add that all mums worry, I think mums become aware of their mortality when they become a mum, I only became scared of heights after having children and as I've just explained to dd that is my subconcious having the same fears as she does, something I never realised before.

At least now she is able to go out a few months ago she couldn't allthough she did make herself, which I think is fantastic, she is determined to "get better" her words and I feel she has the right attitude my only hope is that it doesn't keep re-occuring.

BellaBoo85 · 08/01/2012 23:59

Hi pinky how are you??

lovebeinganana her fears are real - they're just magnified a hundred times because of how she feels.
I'm sure she will get through them, like you say, a few months ago she couldn't even go out, now she can.

lovebeinganana · 09/01/2012 00:06

BellaBoo I can't thank you enough for listening it's been a great help and I am once again feeling positive about helping her through this and I know that together we will come out the other side,
Thanks again

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sassie23 · 09/01/2012 08:41

Morning got appoint at 920 thank god despite taking valium last night only worked for about an hour fell asleep then woke up and has the most terrible panic attack of my life I have to get off these drugs Sad will report back x

sassie23 · 09/01/2012 10:44

Well feel a lot calmer now sitting waiting for script gp says I've has a severe reaction which although not uncommon is awful to experience she is not wrong there !! Se was very sympathetic and has changed me to a sedative type ads not sure of the name met something and given me stronger diazepam to get menthrough the withdrawal stage seeing me again on Friday and says I can call anytime she is a lovely woman who I think really cares hoping to rest today my family are looking after my boys til DH home so glad of their support

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BellaBoo85 · 09/01/2012 12:14

Sassie that's really good that you've got new meds. Hope they're better for you. And you've got the day to yourself so make sure you get plenty of rest.

Loopy hope you're ok. Sounds like you've had a morning like me Sad HV just been so a little better now. Just feeling very all over and not sure what to do with myself.

sassie23 · 09/01/2012 13:05

Loopy really think you ought to go see your gp and reasses how long has it been now? Maybe you need an increase in dosage seeing as you have tolerated them well my gp says sertraline is a great drug if it works for the person which sadly it didn't for me talk to these people they are there to make us well

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sassie23 · 11/01/2012 08:47

I'm not too bad today last night was my second night on mirtazapine 30mg ad took last Valium yesterday at 5 pm. The mirt really puts me to sleep not so much that I cant wake up but it's a different type of drug to the SSRI in that's a sedating ads. I was worried about the drowsiness but tbh I don't feel too bad this morning. My family have been fantatic so I don't have to worry about the kids but I'm so happy I'm not behaving like I was at the weekend that was awful scary panicky jumpy person I didn't recognise. I'd like to hear if anyone else has taken mirtazapine and how it affected them sounds like the main side effects are weight gain and drowsiness and I could do with putting on a stone but don't want to get fat an more depressed Blush hope you're ok loopy you going to doc tomorrow ? Xx

BellaBoo85 · 11/01/2012 21:10

I kind of just need to talk if that's ok...I'm not sure what's wrong with me. My mood has completely dropped (not that it's been particularly brilliant) but I don't know what made it happen. I sort of felt it go from kind of bad to worse than bad if that makes sense. Sorry probably rambling a bit. Just kind of stuck and a little scared of what's happened. Sad

Sorry to moan just needed to vent xx

sassie23 · 11/01/2012 21:31

Hey bella how long have you been feeling like this? Has it dropped suddenly what kind o day have you had ? Apologies for my spelling just taken my meds and they tens to make me sleepy before bed Wink

BellaBoo85 · 11/01/2012 21:50

Hey it's ok thankyou for replying. It happened today. I was at my friends house and all of a sudden my mood just changed. I don't really know how to describe it but I kind of felt angry and upset and scared all at the same time. I could feel tears behind my eyes and maybe if I'd been on my own I would of cried it out and would be ok now.
I just can't seem to lift myself out of it. I'm not sure what to do, I'm so worn out from it all. I feel like I need a really good sleep to recharge but that's not going to happen. So I'm not sure what I can do to help myself.
I sometimes think there's just no point xx

sassie23 · 11/01/2012 22:02

Sounds like you need rest girl and lots of it? Is your LO sleeping through yet? Maybe you could talk to your gp about a short course of sleeping aids or even nytol. Could your OH take over for a couple of nights through my experience ive realised lack of sleep is the killer my anxiety is worse at night thinking my LO is going to wake sore or sick ( which he rarely does so is completely irrational) but my meds are sedating ads cos the SSRI clearly did not agree with me so I get the benefit of sleep !! Relaxation app helped me too but then I realised things had gone too far. Got bit sad tonight because I m on meds for first time in my life but you know what I'm going to get better and that's it and do will you SmileSmileSmile xxx

BellaBoo85 · 11/01/2012 22:12

No does she eck! She's a pain in the butt!!
I have some sleeping pills from the doctor just can't take them. OH knows I don't sleep but doesn't really seem concerned. As long as he gets a good nights sleep that's all that matters.
He does get up with the baby but will go back to sleep straight away whereas I lay awake for hours.
You sound really strong sassie...it feels never ending to me. Like I'm never going to get through it xx

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sassie23 · 12/01/2012 08:22

Bella please take the sleeping pills tonight and give yourself a break. I known don't know your OH and how he will react but talk to him and tell him how much you need the rest it will help a bit to lift your
Mood. Sleep deprivation is a cruel and dangerous thing but you need to try to help yourself. I don't want to seem harsh but you need to be a bit selfish for yourself sometimes. Loopy you sound ole you have a great HV inknow my LO us 13 months bow but since all this started I haven't had one single phonecall from mine she is worse than useless grrrr makes me angryAngry there cold be others girls under her care who aren't strong enouh to ask the gp for help. I'm feeling a lot stronger because I really want to get back to normal I miss life being fun most of all. DH is taking me away at the end of the month and I just want it to be us together happy like before all this crap Sad

BellaBoo85 · 12/01/2012 11:06

Thankyou guys! It just feels like it's never going to end. I'm not really sure what else to say. Just thanks x

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BellaBoo85 · 12/01/2012 20:21

I'm glad that you've had a calmer day today Smile
My HV is really good too. I nearly called her today but didn't know what to say really. I think I might need to tomorrow cos nothings changed and somehow gotta get through the weekend.

Am I posting too much?? If I am please let me know. I don't want to take over your thread xx

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BellaBoo85 · 12/01/2012 22:26

Well thanks ~ just don't want to take over!
That's kind of how I feel ~ I don't know why I want to ring her but I'm not sure what else I could do if I don't. Confused
I'm not very good at explaining things you see and I'm quite conscious of what I say. There's a lot of things I've never said because I'm so scared of what might happen if I do. I mean if I say something that's just that little bit too much what happens then??
My HV is so easy to talk to I just don't want to say something that's 'too much'
I nearly did the other day but stopped myself in time Hmm x