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Is 4 kids too many?

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Mumsie2024 · 14/02/2025 23:52

Hi, would like to know your thoughts?
is 4 kids a step too far? Currently have 3 kids and thinking I’d like a 4th but not sure if it’s hormones!
What's the verdict?

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LameBorzoi · 17/02/2025 21:32

pearbottomjeans · 17/02/2025 16:29

What if someone has 3 or 4 they can support through uni, help buy houses, take on multiple holidays a year, facilitate playing all the instruments, buy them each a car…. Is that OK then? Or should the parents still only have 2 and give each child double what they would had there been 4 kids? What about parents who only have 1 kid but can’t afford to send them to uni and don’t even own their own house let alone helping their only child get on the ladder? Who’s more worthy and doing it right? Exactly, there is no right.

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There is no right, however;

I'm a decade or so further down the road from where OP is. I would have actually liked to have more kids, but couldn't, for medical reasons.

From where I'm standing now, things like university and adulthood are starting to feel much nearer. And I can see how much harder it is going to be for my kids than it was for my generation. I am kind of glad that I didn't spread myself too thin.

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