Am googling 'stomach vacuum'. Bit disturbed by some of the pictures!
Have just seen supposedly upset friend who, as suspected, is not at all upset. Other 'friend' is stirring. Why do people do this? These two people would not know each other if it wasn't for me. I helped set up an arrangement between them; one had empty stables and fields and the other needed to find somewhere to keep 5 horses. The one who owns the horses is a friend who teaches my daughter to ride, the one with the stables is a friend who has a daughter the same age as mine
Friend who owns the horses said my daughter could take one of her ponies out for a ride whenever she liked. About 10 days ago my daughter wanted to ride the pony so I phoned friend who owns him to check this was ok; she was out but her mum reassured me it was fine. Phoned the friend who owns the land to check it was ok for us to come round and to see if her daughter wanted to join in but they were out. So we went round and my daughter rode for about 20 mins.
Friend who owns the land said the one who owns the pony was really annoyed that we'd taken him out. I was absolutely baffled! Land owning friend said she had not heard the other friend say my daughter could ride him whenever we liked (it was said in front of her and she'd said, "No!!!" at the time). She also told me she did not want me to go to her land without checking with her first - this bit I am happy to take on board.
Anyway, friend who owns the pony says the other woman's daughter is trying to claim ownership of the pony and that's why she doesn't want us around. My daughter's quite a good rider as she has been riding quite a difficult pony for 2 years now. Her daughter has had 3 years of lessons on and off at various riding schools but is still on the lead rein because she's quite nervous.
Pony owning friend wants my daughter to exercise her pony as she needs a young, experienced rider to put him through his paces. She's very happy for the other girl to learn on him too.
I feel so upset about all of this. I've always had a good arrangement with the friend who owns the ponies. We can't afford to do riding without arrangements like this. Other 'friend' had all the land and stables and wanted to get a pony but had no experience of looking after them. She's always been envious of the arrangement I had. I thought this set up would be ideal and our daughters would enjoy riding together but she just wants to freeze us out.
Anyway, this is not Jillian Michaels related so I shouldn't be posting this here. Only tenuous link it has to JM is that the misery of all of this means I haven't yet fitted in a session today. Need to stop dwelling on it and get on with it. 