Watching 8 month old at wedding on baby monitor?

[SpudMama321]

Hi all. Looking for advice. We are due to attend a wedding this weekend and our babysitter has pulled out. We are staying in onsite accommodation, but in a different building to the wedding itself which is a 3-5 minute walk away. She usually goes down between 7-8pm and sleeps through.

My question is - do you think one of us needs to stay with her all evening. Or, assuming the WiFi works well, do you think we can watch her on the baby monitor (which is a ring camera with an app on our phone) and go back to the wedding? I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding (her opinion is we shouldn't do this because it's not in the building itself, I think) but I'm not sure I necessarily agree if we have the ring camera and a constant live stream. A 3-5 minute walk is a 2 minute jog for my husband. I am so torn! Will I just get a gut instinct when we arrive whether it's okay or not?

Local nanny agencies will have babysitters for weddings. I would never consider what you are. My first thought was what if there was a fire.

If I was at the same wedding and discovered you did this, I would report you to social services and the police immediately. Can you guarantee that none of the other guests wouldn't do this?

Why can't you bring a trusted person to stay at the hotel or nearby to mind the baby?

If there was a fire in the building, you wouldn't be allowed in to get the baby.

And there is no way you can pay attention to the monitor while participating in the wedding.

The idea of walking out of a hotel room, leaving a baby and going somewhere five minutes away makes my blood run cold. I physically could not do it.

30 years ago most people would have been fine with this after all!

No they really wouldn't. They'd put the baby to sleep in the pram and stay at the wedding.

What happens if there is a fire adjacent to where your baby is? I'd not consider doing this tbh.

How would the monitor let you know there was a fire elsewhere in the building?
How would the monitor tell you the fire alarm was going off?
By the time you realised - and got back to the room you wouldn't be let in.

It's rare that MN flabbergasts me but this is my flabber gasted for today

This.

Maddie McCann. Did she wander off or was she abducted from the unlocked apartment. I mean seriously it's dumb to leave a very young child unattended.

Absolutely not and I consider myself to be an incredibly laid back parent.

If the baby isn't invited then obviously one of you needs to stay in the hotel room.

Wow, are you serious??!!

You are stark raving mad (I’m being kind here) for this even to be a thought crossing your mind. There’s relaxed parenting and there is neglect.

Do not leave your baby alone and do not drink alcohol while looking after your baby.

FFS I really hope this is a wind up.

Anything can happen in 2 minutes.

Your baby is 8 months old.

Unusually, I am lost for words........... 😡🤦‍♀️

I cannot believe that this question is being asked. Of course you cannot leave a child of this age alone in a room. I’m hoping that the question is being asked so that the responses can be used to evidence that this is wholly inappropriate and illegal, otherwise I’d recommend parenting classes, most councils offer them to those in need.

not sure why you even bothered posting this.......I mean even if you were crazy enough to think it was a good idea, the venue has said no.

Absolutely not. I can't believe you would even consider it. And I wouldn't be surprised if the hotel reports you if you even tried it now that you made them aware that's its a possibility you will do it

Nope, definitely not. Just bring her with you. We’ve done this many times. They manage til 9/10pm with a bit of a snooze and then we leave.

MIL tried to convince me to leave my eldest at her great-granddad’s house asleep with the monitor and come next door for Christmas Eve dinner at hers when she was a similar age. Why we couldn’t have just had dinner downstairs in the massive kitchen or actual formal dining room, I do not know. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think it was just to be difficult.

Instead, Dh and I ended up eating plated up food alone in the kitchen downstairs with dd on the monitor. It’s a good thing we did. She chose that night to have a massive allergic reaction. Her entire face swelled up and she started projectile vomiting everywhere. If I’d been 5 minutes away wining and dining instead of literally at the bottom of the stairs, I think there is a good chance she could have aspirated on it.

I wouldn’t leave my 7yr old in that situation either.
i assume it’s wind up post though.

I’m rarely truly shocked but this has floored me.

I think you’re right.

Absolutely never ever do that.

Of course you absolutely cannot do this! As another point, a lot of hotels conduct random security checks on hotel rooms nowadays so you could easily be found out and they would probably ring the police if they found an abandoned baby.

This can't be real . Definitely dont do that.

Have you forgotten about Madeleine McCann?!
You think a 3-5 minute walk wouldn't be long enough for someone to come in and take your child and get away?
Or what if the baby chokes? Has a seizure?
I really hope this is rage bait because I don't want to believe someone is that stupid as to think this is a good idea!

Jesus Christ. Is this a serious question? 2 words. Madeleine McCann. In fact 3 words. Fire.
Are you saying that one.of you is going to constantly watch a live stream and not enjoy themselves getting rat arsed which seems to be important here. I can't think of any other reason why you'd leave your child alone to enjoy a wedding.

30 years ago most people would have been fine with this after all!

My kids are 36 and 38 and I know no-one who would have done this. I did some lax parenting by today's standards, but never this.