Watching 8 month old at wedding on baby monitor?

[SpudMama321]

Hi all. Looking for advice. We are due to attend a wedding this weekend and our babysitter has pulled out. We are staying in onsite accommodation, but in a different building to the wedding itself which is a 3-5 minute walk away. She usually goes down between 7-8pm and sleeps through.

My question is - do you think one of us needs to stay with her all evening. Or, assuming the WiFi works well, do you think we can watch her on the baby monitor (which is a ring camera with an app on our phone) and go back to the wedding? I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding (her opinion is we shouldn't do this because it's not in the building itself, I think) but I'm not sure I necessarily agree if we have the ring camera and a constant live stream. A 3-5 minute walk is a 2 minute jog for my husband. I am so torn! Will I just get a gut instinct when we arrive whether it's okay or not?

Absolutely not! My first thought was also Medeleine McCann!!! It would be neglect!!! My niece got married recently and she hired a nanny for the day to take care of her daughter and her friend's baby during the reception.
If it was me, one of us would party and the other have an early night!

Seriously?? Another building!

8 months! A lot can happen in a few minutes. What if they were sick and chocked, you might not hear, they might look fine on screen but really not be. You’d never get there in time.

I cannot believe you’d even consider this.

What if there is a fire…

No, no, no no, no, no!.
Don't EVER do that.
Do NOT leave your baby.
Either take her along and let everyone dote on her...which they will do..or take turns staying with her.

Are you being serious???
I have no words for you. 🤬

Wasn't the original title of this post Ethical Dilemma?

Honestly, I think this thread has been kept to make sure you and your husband understand the importance of staying with your baby.

If that means having to deal with a pile on, then I think it's been worth it for your little one.

Genuinely, talk to your HV about baby safety and leaving your child unattended in a different building and see what the professionals have to say if you are still in doubt.

No, for all the above reasons but what about if there’s an emergency like a fire? You can’t control other people’s actions but you can react if you are there.

Fucking hell, this can’t be real.

Not to mention the staff probably all know your intention to do this since you discussed with one of them. I’ll be surprised if it wasn’t gossiped about as it’s pretty out there. I can’t believe you considered doing this in the first place but then also made your intentions known to complete strangers.

It’s wouldn’t be such a bad thing if it stays up if it prevents someone else leaving their baby. I know someone who takes their dog for a walk and leaves their toddler and then very young baby because “Owlet”.

You are nuts

Please don’t do this OP.

Why is he missing the wedding at all? Why can’t you allow her to sleep in her pram for one night for an extra few hours, ok so she’ll be out of sorts but one night won’t matter, we’ve all had to do it at some stage for family weddings with babies/toddlers, just have her lie as flat as possible in ta comfortable pram maybe with a thicker blanket under her for extra comfort and keep her beside you, most babies sleep through the noise anyway, as I said it’s one night, you should both go. Is there no teenage or family guests who’d be bored after a while and you could pay to sit in the room with her while on their phones or watching tv and you could keep checks on and could call you if any issues? Have the monitor on then but leaving her alone isn’t a good idea she’s not in her own home so might be a little off and wake crying

OP I'm glad you made this thread because it looks like it has educated you to understand the dangers of leaving a child alone and prompted you to change your course of action to do the best for your child. Another thing I see most days on the school run and find mind boggling, is people leaving their babies and toddlers asleep in their cars, in the street while they walk through the school gates, across the playground and into the school to pick up their other children. One day a car hit a car that had a sleeping baby in it. The car shook, the alarm sounded, the baby was shaken and distressed. Children should always be within sight, or hearing, or both at all times. It's a must to take the child with you even if it means waking them. So if anyone does that, please think about it.

Sure, leave the baby there if you don’t give a stuff about it.

Otherwise, parent your baby and take it with you!

Geez…

This has to be a wind up

Surely this isn't real?

We wouldn’t leave our dog unattended in a situation like this.

Even without the fire etc, I can’t looking at my 10month old imagine that even if I noticed straight away, that I could leave them to cry for the 5mins it took for me to get home

Seen your reply, just bring the baby and a pram for the reception? Our baby doesn’t have a set routine we have to start at 5pm so they can stay out with us in the sea

Is this post for real?? Or a 'goading' post, perhaps?? What's more important - your baby, your baby's safety, your baby's life, or you dancing away at a wedding party? NO WAY would any decent parent leave their child alone, & even the hotel apparently agree - please DO NOT leave your baby (or any other children) alone under ANY circumstances at all, anywhere - it takes seconds for a child to be taken / choke / a fire to start, or even for your beloved baby to wake up & be afraid & alone - even the 'few minutes' it would take your partner to to 'jog back' is not acceptable once you eventually realised something could be wrong - have you learned nothing from the Maddie case? Sorry if this sounds crude, but you are total twats & rubbish parents if you think this is acceptable in any way at all. PLEASE don't leave your baby alone, in another building, or even in the same building. Or find / pay another babysitter, who won't leave them alone? Meant with kindness - to your baby.

Why not just put her in a pushchair and keep her near! Very unsafe and frankly I can’t believe you’d even ask a stupid question like this she’s a baby! Have you heard of madeleine McCann? This is bonkers that you think it’s ok 🫣

I can’t believe you would even consort this. It’s neglect.

Oh she wont be telling her HV anything - she knows that would immediately get her more attention than she wants.

If she told a HV this they would be required to report it under safeguarding. It is an offense under UK law to leave your child alone if it would bring them harm and this would certainly qualify. She would be prosecuted for neglect and so would her husband. I reckon her followup to say the child wouldn't be alone is complete BS because she has probably since done some googling- she couldn't get the validation that her bat 💩idea was OK here so she went to look at what the law states.

She deserves every bit of spite she has received on this thread. I hope if she has another stupid ideas she does tell her HV because that baby deserves better.

Agree with PPs. We always took our twins to parties and weddings. After all the cuddles and attention they'd be tired out, and would sleep in their pushchair happily for hours. We'd turn it to face the wall so they had no bright lights or distractions, and they'd sleep like logs!

If your DD wouldn't settle though, then sorry but one of you stays with her!