Watching 8 month old at wedding on baby monitor?

[SpudMama321]

Hi all. Looking for advice. We are due to attend a wedding this weekend and our babysitter has pulled out. We are staying in onsite accommodation, but in a different building to the wedding itself which is a 3-5 minute walk away. She usually goes down between 7-8pm and sleeps through.

My question is - do you think one of us needs to stay with her all evening. Or, assuming the WiFi works well, do you think we can watch her on the baby monitor (which is a ring camera with an app on our phone) and go back to the wedding? I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding (her opinion is we shouldn't do this because it's not in the building itself, I think) but I'm not sure I necessarily agree if we have the ring camera and a constant live stream. A 3-5 minute walk is a 2 minute jog for my husband. I am so torn! Will I just get a gut instinct when we arrive whether it's okay or not?

No, absolutely not!

3-5 minutes for me would get me to the pub at the end of my road. If anyone suggested I leave a baby at home and go the pub you'd be absolutely horrified. What makes you think being in a different part of a hotel is any better than the pub scenario.

I’m not normally judgy … but I am judging this question HARD.

I can’t quite believe you even considered this, and even worse considered it long enough to call the venue, be told no and STILL write it all out and post on here.

You can't be serious? You need reporting to child protective services is this really the type of parent you attend to be you absolute monster. The baby is 8 months old lunatic anything could happen to him/her. Selfish awful parents. Shouldn't have had kids.

How is this an ethical dilemma. Surely a parenting issue. Misses point.

This is so wild 😂😂 at that age, on special occasions such as holidays (we didn’t take her to a wedding but would have done the same) we would put her down in the room, let her get into a deep sleep and then transfer her back to the pram with a ventilated black out cover on & take her with us. Would also add some noise cancelling headphones for a wedding too. There’s no way I’d leave either of my DDs in a separate building other than to run something to the car.

Absolutely not. Get them to sleep and take with you in their pram / pushchair. I wouldn’t even leave them in their room alone in the same building. My guide is if I read the story on the front page of a newspaper (after something had gone wrong) would I think the parents were idiots? If the answer is yes, I don’t do it. Please don’t leave them alone.

What a stupid thing to even ask. Madeline McCann!!!! Jesus how stupid are you. People have had social services called for a lot less and if it was me working at the hotel and I found out best know they’d be called. Bloody hell!!

This. All my kids are in their 30's now and back then, they came with us, in their pushchairs. It's totally irresponsible to leave a baby alone this distance away

Don't normally post that much but you seem to be genuinely considering this. Please don't. Take her with you in buggy. ANYTHING could happen - she could get twisted in blankets, she could fall, she could choke, she might become unwell and vomit and choke on her vomit and suffocate, she could be bitten by a spider and cry and you wouldn't here, there could be a fire...and rationalising things away won't work hear. Yes they are all unlikely but not impossible and in all those scenarios a 2 minute jog is far too far away. You're not looking after her if you can only see her through a screen.

Exactly this!!

Of course you can't. Keep her with you at the wedding. She can sleep in a pram, or stay awake and be fussed over for an evening.

Wow! Just wow! Prob shouldn’t have had kids if you’re not prepared to sacrifice a few hours at a wedding to take care of them! No words tbh

Clearly never heard of the McCanns……

Christtttt

no. just no.

I agree - they will have made a note and will absolutely be checking to make sure you don’t do this, if you do then expect the police to be called (rightly!).

Surely this has to be a wind up?

Why are you even asking this?

This has got to be a joke surely! In no lifetime ever should you ever do this, or even consider it as a possibility

Get a babysitter to stay in the hotel with the baby, this is what my friend did before, she booked on Bubble and the babysitter had her he whole day: evening.

I would not leave my dog. Bloody hell what are your priorities!!

Yes exactly this!

I worry about being downstairs in my own house when baby is asleep even with a baby monitor.

You are considering leaving her in an unfamiliar, public place almost 5 mins away?! Just take her with you, it won't matter in the grand scheme of things that their sleep routine was disrupted, once when she was 8 months old. Far better to be safe than sorry.

Exactly

I’m the most chilled, laid back parent around but would not dream of this under any circumstances!

I can’t believe this is real.