Watching 8 month old at wedding on baby monitor?

[SpudMama321]

Hi all. Looking for advice. We are due to attend a wedding this weekend and our babysitter has pulled out. We are staying in onsite accommodation, but in a different building to the wedding itself which is a 3-5 minute walk away. She usually goes down between 7-8pm and sleeps through.

My question is - do you think one of us needs to stay with her all evening. Or, assuming the WiFi works well, do you think we can watch her on the baby monitor (which is a ring camera with an app on our phone) and go back to the wedding? I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding (her opinion is we shouldn't do this because it's not in the building itself, I think) but I'm not sure I necessarily agree if we have the ring camera and a constant live stream. A 3-5 minute walk is a 2 minute jog for my husband. I am so torn! Will I just get a gut instinct when we arrive whether it's okay or not?

I hope this just a wind up post or you shouldn't be a mother.

If this is real, you shouldn’t have children.

Not many OP’s make me think WATF!!!!!

This one has though?!

You can’t actually seriously be considering leaving your 8 month old daughter alone at night in a building that is a 5 minute walk away?!

OP that walking time is a quarter of a mile away. You can’t seriously be thinking that’s ok. Also without the distance I’d still be worried you wouldn’t hear the monitor over the DJ nor are you going to be looking at it constantly when you’re chatting, on the dancefloor etc. It’s not comparable to say having dinner downstairs in the restaurant of a small hotel with the monitor propped up on the table while baby sleeps above and you could be there in under a minute.

Try putting her down in the pram- one of you takes her for a quiet walk around the grounds at bedtime then wheel her back in and park in a corner. Or what about finding a local sitter either via the venue or on Bubble that could sit in the room after you do bedtime? But failing those options then one of you will have to go back with her unfortunately. Such is being a parent.

OP- I am shocked you are even asking this. It would not occur to responsible parents to entertain the idea of leaving a child like this. I shudder to think of the possible consequences eg choking, apart from the obvious risks.

What kind of parent would even ask this question?

Why can’t she stay up with you?

I was very routine based when mine were young but holidays and special occasions, the routines went out the window.

I can just imagine the DM story -

‘Police were called as wedding guests kicked off, after being told by staff they were not allowed to leave their baby alone in room, while they partied in another building.’

Are you not aware of Madeleine McCann OP? This is a bonkers idea.

Jesus, no I wouldn’t. Put her in a pram, take it in turns, offer to pay a bored teen relative.. anything but leave a young baby alone in a hotel room

Absolutely not - no wedding is worth risking your baby’s safety and wellbeing for. Not even your bestie’s wedding or a close family member’s.

Either take her asleep in the pram or you swap shifts between you to attend the wedding and stay with baby. Or try and find another babysitter.

Absolutely not, this is not acceptable. I'm pretty relaxed by MN standards but you just don't do this.

You're baby is paramount and this is just one of the many situations in your parenting life where you inconvenience your life and put their safety first.

OP please learn and grow up, fast.

I can't believe you even have to ask

Do you read the news?

No, I'd get someone else to sit with her or one of you needs to. My mum used to very kindly come with us and help sometimes and we would pay for everything for her. One time we paid for someone from a local childcare agency to send someone to just literally sit in the room.

This cannot be real. You'd put your attendance at a wedding above the safety of your baby?

8 month old? Take a lie flat pushchair. She will sleep when tired.

I hope this is a joke.

I’m lost for words that you’re even considering this. I think the hotel would be justified in reporting you to social services.

I cannot believe you are even thinking of doing this. Let alone asking on here. This is seriously neglect. A baby should never be left alone unless it's in a different room to the house you are in and you can get there in a few seconds. Seriously question what other parenting choices you make after reading this!

I hope your gut tells you that it is not OK to leave an unsupervised child 5 minutes away from you.

WTF is wrong with you!

Shame on you for even thinking this would be ok. Give your head a wobble and start acting like a responsible parent.

I'm usually pretty relaxed about things but I wouldn't do this.

You don't know the staff, who will have access to the rooms. Or if there was a fire, they wouldn't allow you to go into the building. It's a small risk but not one worth taking in this instance I think. You'd never forgive yourself if something did happen.

EDITED: Just wanted to add, because there are a lot of very judgemental replies..! The fact that you are asking this question means you're a responsible and thoughtful parent. 30 years ago most people would have been fine with this after all!

Jesus Christ where is your gut instinct NOW. This is child neglect. And hard to believe you can’t find a babysitter by the weekend. Or let your baby stay in their pram with you.

Seriously ask yourself why this is so important you will neglect your baby over it. Would you go to the shops a 5 min walk away and leave your baby alone in the house? Because this is far worse.

No! Absolutely not. Baby in pram, a late night for all. Yes it mucks up your routine and schedule but temporarily. Or one of you stays in the room with the baby and take it in turns to go back to the party. Life with kids!

This has to be a wind up!! No sensible person would EVER consider doing that!! If I was working at the hotel (and I used to work on Reception of a hotel) and found out that a guest was doing that, I'd call the police immediately. That's neglect, point blank. Would a 2 min jog for your husband be enough if the baby stopped breathing!? No! You should be ashamed of yourself for even considering it!