Childminder lives with rapist

[OneBluePoster]

I know a childminder who works from her house, and has her rapist son living with her. He isnt charged, but has admitted to multiple rapes and there is evidence of him admitting this. What do you even do with this information, is this a safety concern?

When you register as a childminder they check who lives with you. I'm guessing she has lied about where he lives. You need to report this.

Why hasn't he been charged if there is evidence of him admitting multiple rapes? Have he been reported to the police and are they investigating?

he isnt charged so it wouldnt show up. the girl doesnt want to report him, but it is known he is a rapist, and his mum is aware

He isn't a rapist if he hasn't been convicted.
I mean, he might be, but you can't do anything about it if he hasn't even been charged.

this is horrific, I have no idea who you should report this to but you must do something! Even if he didn’t live there it’s a safeguarding concern.

Unfortunately if he has a clear DBS then he can live there

Is he a risk to young children or "just" women?

Who is the girl concerned, the alleged victim?
Do you know her personally?
Are there multiple victims?

Rumours like this can ruin lives, and all this is is a rumour. You don’t have to do anything. People that are claiming to have been raped by this person have a responsibility to report it but if they don’t, then this is just meaningless nasty gossip.

its not a rumour when he has admitted it. i do know the girl personally. i dont think he is a risk to young children, i wouldn’t know that information. i know he had naked pictures of teenage girls but not young children of childminding age

How old are the teenagers? Report him anyway.

If you know he has sexual pics of teenaged girls on his phone , report that to the police.

Given where he lives they should
Take it seriously. Childminders can look after kids until 13 so they are potentially at risk.

Please don't leave it to chance. If he's innocent he's got nothing to worry about.

And remove your child. The childminder makes bad choices and shows poor judgement.

When advised about reporting the pictures, was told that as they had no faces in it and no clear victim it would be pointless and police wouldnt be able to proceed

Advised by who?

Advised by who? Officially report to police regardless.

Just report what you know to the police and let them investigate. This kind of thing needs to be dealt with through the appropriate legal channels.

Of course it is. Do you think people never lie, or exaggerate or say things with sarcasm or say they don’t things they haven’t just to get their accusers to temporarily shut up?

How old is he?

Report the allegations to Ofsted. They take this shit seriously. Our friend's childminder got shut down because her 16 y/o son was vaping at school and she didn't tell Ofsted.

this view of thinking is so insanely warped. he wasnt trying to shut her up at all that was not the situation. he has admitted to it many times, never once to shut her up. but sure keep thinking everyone who doesnt want to go through the trauma of reporting a rape is lying!

Way more information is needed.

Who did he allegedly admit to being a rapist to?

If you have genuine concerns, with evidence, you should report it to the Police.

Didn't you start a thread about this a few weeks ago?
Under a different name?
It sounds really familiar.

You haven’t given the circumstances of his confession or what he said so what do you expect?

I don’t think that everyone who doesn’t want to report is lying, but I don’t automatically believe they are telling the truth either. I would hope that someone who genuinely believes there are children at risk if they don’t report would do it though.

no, this is very recent, ive never been on mumsnet before. should i look on that thread for advice?

It was deleted.

gotten mixed reactions, but what im hearing is that because he is not charged, there is nothing that can be done, and i know the girl will not report it. it is not my place to report someone elses rape to the police and as someone who has reported before, i wouldnt force anyone into it. if it was a child he had raped obviously i would report that, to be clear, but she is a legal adult and it is her choice. i cannot report the naked pictures, as i don’t have evidence of this on my phone (i didnt want illicit pictures of minors on my phone as that would also be illegal). but before anybody says oh its just a rumour! no i have seen the pictures with my own eyes on his phone, which i am 90% certain he wouldve deleted by now knowing that people knew he had them. i did confront him over the pictures when i saw them and was told by him that he was going to delete them as i mentioned the police and he got scared. this was also when i was advised by multiple people that there would be nothing the police could do about the pictures as they had no face in and no determinable victim, whether this is true or not i dont know, but it was the advice i followed at that time, stupidly. overall, i just wanted to check to see peoples thoughts, thank you for your responses