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Cockroach cafe Summer 2025

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BestIsWest · 23/06/2025 08:03

Welcome in to the Cockroach Café Bad Daughters’ Room, the rugs and cushions all fresh and clean for the new season.
Good daughters, find your way to the small room behind the stairs. Sorry it’s not as equipped as here, but it doesn’t get much use.
Come in when you want to share good news, or to rant, or just to hang out with others who understand what you're going through. The way MN works, hopefully this thread won’t appear in any featured lists, and the only people wandering in will be those who understand what it’s all about.
If you have a BIG question, it might be worth giving it its own thread, so as not to swamp this one.
For newbies: why cockroach? Previous long term resident of "Elderly Parents" Yolo's DM attended a 'small animal event' in a nursing home, and was presented with a "small animal with a hard back" the name of which species she couldn't remember. Her ever helpful DB suggested cockroach, and it has become a toast on here. My recent enquiries suggested more people wanted to keep the well known name than wanted to change it to something more savoury, so for the moment it stays.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 18/10/2025 01:26

Dormit · 18/10/2025 00:46

Is anybody watching Riot Women! ? I watched the first episode tonight and a little of the second and found it very poignant. Sally Wainwright nails things so realistically and this seems to be another gem.

I've been meaning to put it on. Thanks for reminding me.

BishyBarnyBee · 21/10/2025 10:03

Yes, absolutely! We are in the aftermath of losing both MIL and FIL to dementia and cancer over a 4 year period and just looked at each other with wry and sad smiles at some of the detail.

Seasaltsquall · 04/11/2025 10:51

Just need to rant. Every day, my head is talking at me that I should be seeing to, calling or taking an interest in my DM. I can’t do it. Well I can, but only for a short period of time. I can’t stand her. There I’ve said it. No bad childhood, just emotionally retarded. Authoritarian. I’m aware others have had much worse. I adored my DF, now he’s gone it is clear he was the ‘family fun buffer’ - it feels like we’re falling apart. Had many years of caring for Ddad - to my mother’s high expectations and I hate her for it.

Choconuttolata · 04/11/2025 10:58

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time @Seasaltsquall, it is okay to back away if you need to. Do come on over to the new thread to rant away some more x

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