My mother is dying and I'm racing to get to her - no point to this thread.

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That's it really.

We're abroad and she's in the NE England. She has had a massive stroke and I'm alone, racing to the airport to get a flight I might miss.

I want to see her before she goes. She's no conscious.

My sister is with her.

My heart is broken into one million piece. No need to respond - I'm just alone (husband back at resort with the kids) so just chatting I suppose. I've had an hour sleep overnight, I look like an actual muppet (crying eyes).

She is 73 and a fire cracker. She's remarkable. My heart is broken.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I’m glad it was peaceful. Lots of love to you and your family xxx

I'm sorry for your loss.

May peace be with all of you. x

I’m sorry for your loss

Sorry for your loss but glad you made it too her and got to spend some time with her before she passed, she would have known you were there next to her.

So sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss. You write about your mum beautifully. I'm glad you got to see her and that the end was peaceful

I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds as if you and your mum loved each other very much.

I’m so, so sorry

Those who die old with their relatives at their side know what it might be like for the ones they are leaving. In their time, they too may have raced to get to someone in time, sat by their bedside, held their hand.

My lovely DF, who lived on his own to a ripe old age, left a comprehensive list of all his bank accounts, utilities, etc. I think he had probably had this list, somewhere easy to find, for years, and just kept it up to date. It was so like him (what else could it be?) , and in the days that followed, the list was a tremendous help to us DC.

But for now, just do whatever it is you are all doing I don't usually recommend alcohol, however it does seem to help with the process of taking on board what has just happened..

Thinking of you all, may your mum rest in peace.

So sorry for your loss

Thanks everyone. So shattered now! Early night (the husband has arrived with the kids and I swear, they - kids - have absolutely wrecked my head since arriving!).

All distractions though.

Tomorrow the sadmin begins in earnest.

It's lovely reading your msgs x

My deepest condolences to you and your family, OP.

@SphincterSaysWhat, it sounds like your DM had the best possible passing that she could have.
As you've said, you now have to start picking up the pieces.
Give yourself time to do it and don't try to rush. It will all come together in time.
At a horrible thing to deal with - I know it was very sobering for me when my DM passed away. I always knew it was just around the corner (unlike you), but I could never quite get my head around believing that it was as imminent as it was.
I'm so sorry.

@SphincterSaysWhat so very sorry for the loss of your mum, she sounds like she burnt brightly with love. Having also done the panicked bedside dash I’m very glad you made it to be with her. We always regret the times we didn’t appreciate & the fact there are no more joint times to come but how lovely that you’d seen her the week before & she’d likely bid you all happiness for your holidays, as that would be what she wants for you all.

Such a shame when it’s sudden and the person is not elderly. She didn’t suffer & was kept comfortable in the company of those she loved. That’s a good way to go.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am so glad you made it back to be there. How lovely that your Mammy had you all with her in her final days xx

So sorry.

I love the way you wrote about your mum it is very touching.

The part too when you speak of going home as in to hers - it’s so true. My actual house is my house my home is mum’s house my childhood home. Glad you and your family all have each other. I think when you have a big loving family losing a precious part of it must strengthen the ranks and wrap you all up: grieving but able to redouble and hold strong, so much love for a person keeps them bright and treasured always even though they have gone.

hope the next few days are kind to you all

I'm so sorry - sending you hugs x

I'm so sorry for your loss, may she rest in peace in the Glory of Our Lord

Sincere condolences x

I'm so sorry your Mum died OP. It sounds like she waited for you and her sister to be with her. You and your sister and your Aunt still have each other.

My deepest condolences. It has been truly touching and moving to read your articulately written and emotional words about this time. I'm so glad your mum was surrounded by her loved ones, her dear children and sister. Cared for and kept company until the end. Wishing you and your family all the very best for the difficult times to come. I hope the logistics go smoothly and that you can grieve and heal well.

It's tough loosing a loved one, give yourself space to think, and make sure the kids pull their weight, they are old enough to understand and help you, at least by helping around the house.

We've just lost dp's dm. It's hard whatever their age