A teacher smacked my child

[Xmumof3xo]

I really need some advice I’m in the uk
My son is 7 he has a diagnosis on dyspraxia, he’s going for a ADHD and autism assessment..
So today I picked him up from school, he was quite upset, he has said his class teacher has smacked him on his hand twice, quite hard and it has really upset him, he was messing with some building cubes and the teacher became angry at him and did a “cross face”.
I have rang the school, I am really angry about this.
The school office said “I don’t see that happening”, I made it very clear as to why he would lie my son is a big believer in god and he doesn’t like lying, the head teacher came on the phone and said she’s going launch a investigation.
After everything that has happened with this school, the constant shouting at him, making him stand in the corridor door and the constant belittling I have no faith in them.
I have done a EHCP as the school has refused it 4 times, I have already changed his school as he’s constantly being bullied, he came home with horrific injuries in his old school and now the teachers are bullying him. Please help me, I am close to homeschooling him but he has made it clear he loves going to his friends and loves his routine, who else can I go to, I’m so scared of making his life harder at school but this can’t go on anymore, I am fuming, I’ve had so many meetings about the behaviour of his teachers, they say he’s “too sensitive”. Everything calmed down until today, but this time she has physically hurt my child and I ain’t letting it slip, he is not going school tomorrow until I am happy about the outcome of this “investigation”

I don’t see many people insisting the child is lying rather they are disputing the op’s claim that her child never lies. All children lie, but that doesn’t mean this is a lie. Both things can be true.

"I’m reading through the responses from today. So many people missing the fact the OP said her child has a brain age of 1."

I think that must have been a typo, she may have meant to type '10'. No one year old would be recounting that story.

I hope she went into the school and spoke to the teacher. Something happened.

Op - how did you get on with the school yesterday? Any follow up?

Keep looking. There are literally 100’s of cases in the last few years.

Here’s one that did

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/69f34f8f4b0f7395324fbb6c/TRATMPO_REDACTED__Eckles__Helena_SoS_Decision.pdf

I teach in an Irish Catholic school and this kind of nonsense would never be said in any school here. Have you visited Ireland in the last 30 years? We've long since moved on from the country we were when the church had power.

I cannot believe that some people on this thread are saying that it definitely didn't happen! I have worked in a school and you would be surprised what does happen and what gets covered up as people simply don't believe children with the only reason being that they are children! I would get him out of that school and push for the EHCP then hopefully you can find him a more suitable setting.

Yes kids lie and exaggerate, but also teachers do bad things. An ex teacher of mine is currently doing 20 years and my college age son told me that his new teacher has been sacked in his first week for an extremely offensive remark. I can think of other examples.

Absolutely.

Where is the OP?

Yes the teacher could have smacked the child…. however my feeling is that the OP has done herself no favours on here by adding so many implausible details.

Probably because those who have experience working with the public, or parents, or in schools, are used to spotting the signs of someone frothing at the mouth to go "all guns blazing" for something that is unlikely, or possible but misunderstood.

If the OP sounded like a reasonable person with an account more like, "my DC came out of school really upset, he said his teacher had smacked his hand. His friend saw it happen and told me too. DC has SEN and is usually really honest. What do I do with this, I know I need to report but how do I go about it?" ... The responses would be VERY different.

anoldermum · Today 08:33
Where is the OP?

Oh look there she is, balancing on a high-wire whilst on a unicycle, juggling with chainsaws...... just for your entertainment anoldermum 😉

Yet here you are checking the thread. People have given thoughtful advice and raised important questions, mainly concerned for the welfare of a child.

Not everyone is driven by the same motivation as you.

MissyMooPoo2 I have been active on this thread before my last post.

I do not expect an op to come back to entertain me.

Hth

Very true

Neither do I, but I do wonder where they have gone - not for my entertainment, whether juggling with chainsaws or not, but because I, and probably others, would like an update following her further discussions here and with the school. Isn't that what Mumsnet is for?

You do know that kids with SEN can have spikey profiles? My son is 14 with a academic age of year 1. Mentally he isnt 14. But he has a IQ of 120, but still under the children with disabilities team as he presents as having a learning disability. Non verbal at 7. Illiterate at 11. Yet at times he can show some remarkable insight.

Some of his non verbal peers can communicate functionally via talkers. It's not always linear. Plus that's not criteria for getting a EHCP. My dd has a IQ borderline upper normal. Very capable all round. She has a ehcp.

My son was telling the truth!! The teacher admitted it! So for all of you calling me vindictive, and that my son is a liar, there you go! She lost her patience with him messing with blocks and not paying attention. My son will not be returning to school. Also my account is different, as so many of you reported.

My account was banned. I have posted a update

We will be able to read the press reports of a teacher being arrested and charged with assault and subsequently struck off for hitting a child with SEND, then?

Yes, as soon as I receive everything it will be posted.

In light of this situation possibly becoming a criminal investigation op, it may be prudent to have this thread taken down.

It may help to engage a solicitor on the behalf of your son for legal help and representation. Make sure that you follow protocol and advice in a calm manner.

That sounds really traumatic for your son, but the 4 year old girl who perpetrated this sounds very very troubled - you are asking for allowances for your son’s behaviour (“messing with some cubes”) because you think he has ADHD yet you think the behaviour of the girl was “just excused”. The head is right to investigate, you should avoid prejudicing this by gossiping about it but I think that ship already sailed. It’s clear that you have your own view about what your son is entitled to and you aren’t in a frame of mind to listen to other views or formulations. I hope you find a way through as home schooling when it’s not a positive choice is not ideal.

If this update (or any of the story) is even true, coming back to crow that you were right all along reflects terribly on you.