Daughter accused of being racist

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oopylou19861234

Hello i am not sure if this is the right place to post but here goes.... i need advice please.
Yes yesterday I had a phone call from my daughter's stating that there had been an incident of a raciel nature full stop when I enquired what had happened I was told that during a game on the playground my 7 year old daughter had referred to a boy as the Black Boy this was used in descriptive nature not as an insult but nevertheless she was pulled out of class for the rest of the day but up for racial insults which is going on her permanent record and is being referred to the board as a serious matter I am very confused over this matter as I don't think it's true or correct that my daughter has been branded a racist by the school what can i do?

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If it wasn't descriptive, and I have seen open racism in children this age :( then that's an entirely different matter.

My colleague accused me of being racist for saying "the white one" when talking about our librarians. She is white. The other is not. It's not racist to use skin colour as a description.

Was there any other way of distinguishing her? Mary? The lady in the blue dress?

In my part of London, it’s really only middle-class white people who tie themselves up in angsty knots to avoid using skin colour as part of a description (iirc, there’s a comedy sketch dealing with this, but I can’t remember who by off the top of my head.)

Everyone else does it without thinking, especially when it’s the easiest way to narrow down the field, like in the game Guess Who?

Maybe people could reflect on a situation at the start of a school where all the kids are in uniform and teacher has not made name badges. What is a child to do when identifying another child? We often tell them it is rude to point so there is little else besides physical features. In a class of 30 in a London school, a child might have to refer to the “short blond white girl” in order to identify them uniquely. The intent is purely identification base on facts. But we risk allowing the dominance of a perception of that statement as simultaneously sizeist, blondist (id as stupid), racist and sexist.

I do not know if such circumstances apply here, but It exemplifies the risks of muddling the simple intent of identification with a darker perception of -isms are well illustrated by this example.

Clearly getting full names learnt ASAP is better. If the child had instead said “dwarf thick whitey bitch” you’d have a case for further investigation.