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Bullied...and then this happens!

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MarmaladeSun · 28/09/2006 07:42

Following on from my other thread about DD being bullied at school. She had been taunted, teased, hit, pinched, shoved, and had her possessions stolen. We tried the diplomatic appraoch as we live in the same village. No joy from the girl, no joy from parents, so we went to the school. They did act quickly by making sure the girls ween't in classes etc together but they still get the same bus home. Anyway, after having 'whore' shouted in her ear ALL day, DD snapped and hit this kid. So they called the police. DD was interviewed last night, and despite it being through severe provocation she was finger printed, DNA'd and had her mug shot taken! My poor 11 year old child - I could have cried for her. Now she has a warning and if anything else happens she's in the * basically. meanwhile this other kid is free to taunt, and bully as much as she likes! The police even admitted that DD was driven to it, but had to follow procedures. I'm so so upset over this. DH now wants me to file counter charges and have this little b*ch go through the same thing, and I have to say I think I will. Even knowing that DD was going to the police station last night, and being warned by teachers she still called DD an ugly whore over and over yesterday in one of their few lessons where they have to be together. I'm at my wits end.

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MarmaladeSun · 21/10/2006 22:02

Yep; very let down by the system in general.

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clerkKent · 23/10/2006 12:56

MarmaladeSun - I am the one who first used the term "crusading". I did not mean to imply anything negative by that - human rights would not advance without exceptionally brave/committed people like you who have the energy and resources to take on what is Wrong. Hideehi says "it is not worth fighting the system", and that is how most of us get by. My experience of bullying had such a bad effect that when we were able to get away from the bully, the absolute last thing on earth we could face was continuing the struggle for justice.

MarmaladeSun · 23/10/2006 17:03

Hi. You are right; it's not worth fighting the system - in the end I don't believe I will get anywhere but I have to try because not to would be to let my kids down. My daughter has seen the way every single person in authority, in a position to help her, has failed her. Had I done the same would have reinforced the message to her that she wasn't worth fighting for. the children aren't suffering because of my 'crusade' (I'm not being flippant, I just can't think of another word to use ) and I don't do it from a position of hatred, just a mistake that needs to be put right. I have always brought them up to stand up for what they believe in, and not to let anyone sway them if they know they are right. I am now just leading by example. Practising what I preach if you like. And I'm not saying that anyone who has been in a similar situation and NOT kept up the fight has done wrong; we each deal with things in a way which is right for us. All we can do is our best.

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MarmaladeSun · 23/10/2006 17:04

And the most important thing is, they are now happy.

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MarmaladeSun · 27/10/2006 17:12

KIMI will you e mail me please at my screen name (all lower case) @yahoo.co.uk. I have some info you might be interested in.

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kimi · 27/10/2006 18:19

Sorry MS just seen this of cores i will email you as soon as my emal is working again it keeps asking me for the bloody password that is already there. Will go and use DH pc if i cant fix this one

Ripeberry · 03/11/2006 22:04

I'm so happy for you and your DD and DS.
My DD is only 5 and i'm dreading the day she gets bullyed as i would probably rip the head of the bully!
All through my school life i was bullied from the age of 7 until 13 when i beat up the bully and pulled a handfull of hair out of her head, she never bothered me again.
Maybe i was lucky and she was just a coward as all bullies are, but the girl your DD had to deal with is just and evil b**ch.
I also believe in Karma and that girls mother will pay for it one day when her "darling" will turn on her.
These days there is too much inteferring. Even 25yrs ago kids got into scrappes and sorted it out for themselves.
Kids can't win, they are told to stand up for themselves but if they do they get into trouble.
One thing i'm going to do is get my DD into some kind of martial arts, so that she can defend herself mentally and physically.
Bullies are everywhere, it does not stop at school..unfortunately.
Adele.

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