SAHM or private school for DC(s)

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I have a 4 month old DD and I am starting to think about what I want to do in relation to going back to work and future school options (these decisions appear to linked as affordability starts to come into the equation).

We could comfortably afford for me to be a SAHM and send DD to a private school (well pre-school nursery first, but then through the private school system), this again would be ok for a second DC. The difficulty would be if we have more than 2 DCs, if we are lucky enough we would like 3 or 4.

If we were to have 3 DCs I would need to work at least 3 to 4 days a week to ensure that we could maintain our lifestyle (which is quite basic really, we are not extravagant people) and fund the school fees from earned income.

I am not too worried about my own future career, I feel I have achieved what I wanted to in terms of work before I had DD and if I don't have a professional career again in the future (if, for example I take 10+ years out of the workplace) this wouldn't concern me.

So my question, what would be more beneficially to my DD and future children, having a SAHM or going to private school?

Metabilis you must admit the "no SAHMs go running" was hilarious!
What about the groups of SAHMs that pass my windows running every single morning whilst I am on the boring conference calls with a large latte?

And on Xenia's post, well I must confuse the hell out of people then, as I have always been the same weight since I was 16 (well apart from pregnancies!) and I have done SAHM, WOHM, WAHM etc...however I was never a runner, so maybe that was because I stayed at home at one point....

@Metabilis3

stop it, my jaws are sore

This is the most ridiculous thread ever. You lot carry on being rude about WOHM clearly we are all ugly and unfit as well as appalling mothers. I've got better things to do.

Xenia, I must admit I would really usually get the hump with "even housewives" but I can't, you are very funny.

I didn't say that WOHM didn't run!
I merely said that I thought Xenia's comment was funny and that if you wanted to be slim - running is the answer.

Having said I was going off to do something more useful - yellow I don't live in your house. I only know the people I know (which includes my Womens running network group) and we all work. I said I didn't know any SAHMs that run. I didn't say no SAHMs in the world ever go running. Compare and contrast with the comments about WOHMs.

But now I really am going.

You're going running Metabilis3

Actually, by my own reasoning I may therefore run more now I WOH, as I'm more likely to be late for something important...

So while that's still only a teeny tiny possibility, where would be the fun in sitting on the fence eh?

I hereby decree, that by my own excellent criteria, WOHMs run more than SAHMs because they're more likely to be late for the school play.

Now I've sorted that one for you, you can all move on.

And thank me later.

Not sure I understand this link between being a WOHM and SAHM and weight. I have been roughly the same weight all my adult life apart from when pregnant. I had 10 years as an SAHM, followed by part time work.

Oh and i know no-one that runs, everyone knows it knackers the knees and gives you saggy boobs :) I do however swim half a mile each day very fast. Before work!

I know all sorts that run - you just have to be more disciplined if you are working full time to fit it in. I certainly found it easier when I wasn't working.

Ah, I see that this thread has reached its surreal phase.

I don't think theres a link. I was joining in with a stupid comment about running and what type of mum ran. TBH I thought it was a dry sarcastic humorous post, certainly not to be taken seriously a bit like xenias post which is still making me laugh.

Of course my post was trying to be funny too. Not my strong point obviously!

Hmm, the only runners I know are SAHMs, but the slimmest people I know are those who work outside the home. Personally, I work part time every day, am constantly late for everything, and never actually get time to eat...

I got that, morethan!

I'm a SAHM and I run. But i'm also fat.

I WAH and don't run even though I want to, because every single one of my relevant joints bar the right ankle has something wrong with it at the moment. I am carrying a little too much weight.

I'm going to bed but this was the link

www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/london-life/the-ftse-diet-7888000.html?origin=internalSearch

"Professional women are clearly taking recession belt-tightening literally. While the whole world is getting fatter, they refuse to let their waistlines thicken. A new report shows that career women are the only social group to have fewer obese people now than 15 years ago.

While men at the top are filling out, with more than 20 per cent of professional men now classed as obese (up five per cent since 1997), their female equivalents are ensuring they are in control not just of their careers but their health too. Only 14 per cent of women who work in areas such as business, law and medicine are obese, down one per cent since 1997. But high-flying careers surely don?t leave time for diets and hard-core exercise regimes, so just how are they doing it? Here we imagine how London?s female executives keep trim at the top.

Rush to meetings

Walking to all your appointments at Olympic speed not only makes you appear incredibly important but also burns calories.

Learn from IMF chief Christine Lagarde, whose pace left a BBC journalist struggling to keep up. ?Normally I walk a lot faster than that,? she said, ?because I work so hard and so long hours that I don?t have much time to exercise.?" etc etc

Arf at that tip - didn't need it, being 45 and ridiculously thin slim. And I do eat like a horse, but I keep off the weight by rushing around like a mad thing.

You were looking for someone who reported a post? Twas me. I took exception to Xenia being characterised as a woman-hater. From my perspective she looks like a champion of women's rights.

She would be a much better champion if she stuck to facts and didn't make such funny statements!

Oh stop it, this thread is better than tv tonight.

'Stop being a housewife, you lazy cow, your children will suffer and worse than that, your husband will cast you aside because you WILL DEFINITELY get fat as well.

And it's totally ok to say this about all SAHMs, because one of the dirty bastards dared to suggest to me that working out of the home might be a bad idea for some familes.

Jesus, who let these people breed?'

Does anyone remember the lovely rational debate we were having several lightyears days ago when this thread started.

Ps- in about ten minutes some poster is going to rock up and call me a cow for holding views like the above ^

Anyway put aside your differences and think very hard/pray/light a candle for expat's little daughter tonight who is very dangerously ill and needs us all to send healing thoughts towards Glasgow.

Sarcalogos - I'm confused as to what the 'sides' are - barking mad or completely nuts!! I'm a full-time worker, size 12 and don't run unless it's to stop one of the kids getting run over ... where does that leave me???
Seriously though, I think some people need to acknowledge that being a SAHM is an important role if you take it seriously, and must be given the same respect as those of us who chose (and some who don't choose) to go to work.
You can tell women all you like that they can have it all. And you can fool yourself into thinking you can. But someone misses out, and if you are not there at the school gates at the end of the day - then it's the kids. Some kids grow up respecting your decisions, and learn from your career and determination to become hard-working adults, some kids become resentful and bitter and end up with no self esteem - but let's face it, these things can happen either way. All these possibilities have so many variables that there just can't be a right and wrong.
All I know, personally, is if I could pay the mortgage and next 10 years school fees off tomorrow, I would sell the business and spend every quality moment I could with my boys because I know that all too soon they will be grown up and I will never get those years back.
That doesn't mean I am not happy with my situation, but it does get me down when I am desperately trying to clear my head to paint a zoo/construct the death star and all I can think of is the shitty phone call I had that day/proposal I have to write tomorrow etc...
Interestingly, the women I know whose mothers were SAHM have mostly become SAHM themselves (I have no idea/interest if they go running ).

My thoughts are with A as well, Duchesse,

I an a SAHM and I go running, but it has nothing to do with this thread, I just want it to reach 800 posts.

I am childminding now, after 5 years of not working at all, and I really enjoy it. I feel that my role is to support as best as I can mums and families who want to and/or need to earn two incomes. I don't judge them, I don't think they are better, or worst, it's my job to help them out. And I make a bit of money out of it. So go ladies, whatever you choose, it's fine with me!