TTC with a donor continued

[Waiting2BAMummy]

Almost at 1000 posts so started a new thread

@KLO0224
@bitheby
@Overlyanxious
@Busybee143
@TimeIhadaNameChange

Sorry if I missed anyone

I hate that @Overlyanxious, they just don’t seem to understand how important timing is. I get they’re doing us the favour but if your not prepared to be there when you’re needed (within reason, obviously) then why bother at all.

Hate this bit. I'm 8dpo. Been having tightenings since yesterday and am desperate to take them as a good sign but I know it's a fools errand. Too early to test and based on the last few cycles AF due in 3 days.

I went to an online adoption evening this week. It was really interesting and it has definitely given me a lot to consider. I want now to either be pregnant or in an adoption process so that I can knock all the travelling on the head and focus on the things I need to do to the house to make it suitable for children. And there are lots of things that need doing.

@bitheby I somehow missed your last message. How are you getting on now? Has AF turned up? Or is there good news? I’m keeping my fingers crossed.

Oh that’s good you are looking at adoption as well now. That’s my plan as well.

I’m feeling quite inpatient now as I’ve pretty much decided to go down the IVF route as I just want to try everything and get it all done with (still don’t feel convinced it’s going to happen for me) - but I said I would try a few more months this way first. I just feel like I need to be able to move on.

AF came yesterday. 27 day cycle which is back to what it should be for me but after four 24 day cycles, it was a bit cruel to be 3 days 'late' and nothing.

I'm stressed and exhausted. Spending a lot of time crying. I'm off work for a week.

The lab has totally messed up my recurrent miscarriage blood tests and I'm angry as hell about that. I've also had a holding email back from the NHS Trust that left me languishing on a waiting list for nearly two years to get a uterine polyp removed. I emailed them to complain about them taking away my last chance of conceiving my own child in a fit of despair so I don't suppose my complaint had any logic to it as it was raw emotion but they seem to be taking it seriously.

I don't think IVF is worth it for me but having ruled it out completely. Be aware that there is a desperate shortage of donor sperm and it could be months to get any so if you're serious, take steps to find donor sperm ASAP.

*haven't ruled it out

@bitheby I’m sorry AF turned up - but the longer cycle could be a step in the right direction.

I’m sorry to hear about your bloods being messed up. I assume that means you have to do them again. I’m glad the NHS is taking your complaint seriously.

I can understand why you are upset - you must be so fed up of all of this.

Yes I had heard about the donor sperm issue. Just another thing to stress about

Hello.

I'm in another TWW, about 5dpo.

And it turns out that I have glandular fever. The tests that the lab refused to run wasn't a recurrent miscarriage test but something my doctor had requested as I have had swollen glands and fatigue for weeks. So that explains the exhaustion and emotion as I've been trying to work full time and meet the donor and everything else whilst actually being quite unwell.

@bitheby that definitely explains how you’ve been feeling. Are you feeling any better now?

I’ve decided to stop TTC for a bit. Weirdly I’ve lost the strong feelings I had about wanting a child. I’m not sure why, and it’s probably just a blip but I think it’s best to not try whilst I feel like this.

I probably won’t be on mumsnet that much but will keep checking in to see how you’re doing.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you and @Waiting2BAMummy xx

How are you feeling @bitheby? Sorry to hear that you have glandular fever but maybe it’s comforting to have an explanation for how you’ve been feeling?

I’ve been kind of feeling the same @Overlyanxious, not that I don’t want a baby anymore but I feel like maybe it’s just not going to happen for me so I need to find a way to move on. I’ve also been so busy with my job and my donor was away with work so couldn’t help until August anyway. I think I’m going to try until the end of the year and if it doesn’t happen I need to find a way to move on. I’ve spent over 3 years putting my life on hold waiting for this and have spent so much money, it would, of course, be completely worth it if it happens but otherwise it’s all just been for nothing.

@Waiting2BAMummy I think it’s the same for me I just feel like it won’t happen and so I’ve started to give up and thinking about a life without a child. Although it’s only been a year for me I can’t really take the toll of TTC anymore. I used to be able to imagine having a baby but now I just can’t see it happening. We may try the adoption route - but need to have a think about that properly.

I’m sorry you’re feeling the same way. I really hope it happens for you before the end of the year.

I had a line on Saturday but I think it was a cruel indent but possibly another chemical. I had a day of hope and then was plunged back to suicidal when Sunday's test was BFN and then AF started late in the evening.

I don't want to give up. I don't feel ready to say that it's over and I'm trying to adopt. But I've lost any belief that it will happen.

Hi ladies, I've been following this thread, has posted on the previous one I think. I decided to go with a clinic in the end using a donor from overseas which will start next month.

I hope you all get what you wish for x

@bitheby I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s devastating having to go through this every month. Are you feeling any better now it’s been a few days.

I think the adopting idea is a good one. I just think ttc has such an impact on all our mental health. xx

Hi everyone, it's been a long time since I was here. I hope most people have had a BFP by now. Myself, working for the NHS during the pandemic I have had to put my TTC journey on hold since last March, but we are trying again this month, kicking of our 3rd try by using clomid for the first time. CD1 today and I start clomid tomorrow. Feeling very anxious but glad to be trying again. How is everyone xx

I can't believe the last time I posted on here was the 13th of March ( I think so anyway apologies if I'm posting this again). I had my baby on the 13th of April after an induction, it was a beautiful birth though painful at times.
Nell was 4lbs 7oz at birth and now at 12 weeks has just hit 9lbs, she's perfect in every way.
Hope you guys are all OK and your TTC journeys haven't been too rough xx

@Busybee143 congratulations on a healthy baby Nell xxx

Hi ladies, how are we all getting on?
I haven’t posted for a while, so hoping everyone is ok and maybe some good news to come back to?
It’s been a hard few months but I have been luckier than most! Thankfully my cycles returned quickly after the surgery for ectopic pregnancy so currently AF is here and this is the 3rd cycle since so we have the green light to try again!
Although this decision is difficult after the trauma of what happened. I don’t want to give up just yet!

Hi. Good to hear from you. Hope you're doing ok.

Technically I'm still going. I had a break last month because I'm holiday and I've just today found out that my donor will be away this cycle and potentially the next one too. Just deciding whether to try to find someone else or have a longer break.

It's still an emotional roller coaster to be honest.

Hello pls can I join? I have a ds from fet of donor egg embryo back in 2019. Currently in tww after 3rd fet- second in May was bfn and now 8dpo. Felt very very sick this afternoon but fine now. The wait is tough isn’t it?