#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Morning all.

Welcome mojitos. I know nothing about IUI or PCOS I'm afraid. Even if your consultant has a rubbish bedside manner make sure you get your questions answered. I guess if he is clinically good that is most important. Not ideal if he a rubbish communicator though.

Snork I can't believe you got 22 eggs! Feeling slightly jealous. If I get a quarter of your number I will be pleased, half and I would be extatic!

Ever and Stork can't believe you had to send period blood to your clinic - very random but all in a good cause.

Was feeling very down yesterday but now much more cheerful and positive. Off to drink some full fat milk and some smoothy will maca powder in it - not my favourite but bought it now and if it will help I will drink it.

Hi guys,
Just need to let off a bit of steam with something that's bugged me today, don't know if it's my hormones or I'm just being over sensitive. But I have this one friend who I just wish I hadn't told I was going through ivf! She keeps messaging me all the time with "when's your next scan" "what's going on?"
Today she asked if I was free today (we're not close friends and she lives a good drive away) but I said I had lots to do and seeing family for lunch but will have some time off after egg collection so she asked "when's scan, what time and which hospital" I feel like she's just going to turn up and stalk me lol.
So I just replied. "Really sorry this is what I didn't want people asking what's going on all time, I will tell you when I have some news, thanks for understanding". Does that sound terrible?
I don't mind talking about it when I'm talking about it and it's in conversation m, it's just that's the first thing she says to me and is very blunt, not how are you etc.
Ahhh. Ok rant over sorry guys lol xx

Ah Paws, you've done well, better push back now. It's YOUR journey. I was ok as the few people who knew understood that I was the one who would get in touch when I had some news so they were not constantly texting. But it's difficult also because none of them had gone through fertility treatment so I was finding support from this thread far more beneficial.

I had one friend who was being a bit difficult with my decision of becoming a single mum (mostly jealously driven I think) and it was like every time she asked for news I wasn't sure if she was happy that it didn't work or not... Obviously now that I'm nearly 6 months pregnant she's on board!

Hope everyone is having a relaxing bank holiday weekend!

Aw paws I empathise on both counts, both with feeling the drugs and over involved friends!! I have spent the last 6 weeks avoiding people so I can have some privacy around it all.... If I could start again I wouldn't tell as many people about my plans - initially I was really open about everything but as I've got closer to actually doing it I've found the transition to being more vague really hard to manage. People mean well but it feels like an extra pressure. I think your text is great though - might steal the wording for myself! It's OK to want to keep it private - most people's TTC journeys are, after all.

As for the drugs, ugh, I know what you mean! I found the last few days of stims really tough. I lived in loose dresses and too big leggings! Oh and wore a sports bra day and night - my boobs and nips were SO sore! Get lots of rest and keep your fluids up. I do feel a bit better now I'm a couple of days post egg collection - was very sore around the middle to start with but it's getting better all the time. You can do this!! You're so nearly there. Just be very kind to yourself. Here anytime if you want some support or to compare notes!

Oh I also threw up in the car on the way home from my EC but think that was a combo of the sedation and my dad's driving! I've been told to drink lucozade sport to prevent OHSS so I've been taking it really easy and sipping away on that :)

Thanks for all your kind words about my crop of eggs! It's definitely quality not quantity that matters though as of my 22, 12 have fertilised... hoping that should give me a few decent embies! The clinic are calling tomorrow to say whether it will be a 3 day or 5 day transfer - will either be Monday or Wednesday. Still can't quite believe it's actually happening!

Thank you ladies for good luck wishes. Baseline scan on Friday was all good, am back on the Gonal F. Several follicles all growing nicely!

With Gonal F though comes the side effects: once again I have the spotty chin of a teenager, the ability to get out of bed of a teenager, and (surprise!) delightful trapped wind/constipation which has had me doubled up for the past two days! Joy! Dried apricots, all bran & dulcolax are my friends!

Am I right to pick up that during this period should be drinking lots of milk & actimel too?

Pickle, how wonderful to see the pics of little picklet! Congratulations! X

Hi lovelymojitos, congrats on starting and welcome! Such an exciting time! I'm 37 too, & just starting my second round of medicated iui. Doc said it was worth going straight for that as a better chance. And with a private fertility clinic I think weight isn't an issue - they didn't weigh me at any point. NHS is different: there they were v strict about being under 30 BMI (which is where I hover) - but we'd been misinformed about entitlements anyway so ended up going private. Am sure it will be fine for you.

Wow snork - 12 fertilised - everything crossed for you.

Thanks ladies, glad to know I'm not the only one going through these symptoms and feelings! I did think gosh perhaps I'm being paranoid, but it is literally her, I have told a few friends and family and they have been lovely, and will probably have to tell a few customers too when I get to their house why I'm taking it slow etc.
So she had replied saying no probs hope I'm ok, let's hope it sinks in lol. Know what you mean about the transition to being vague snork!
snork That's awesome news 12 have fertilised!!! Did they say they'll ring you tomorrow to tell you more? I've paid a bit extra for 24hour camera so hoping I get footage lol

Thanks pez glad your friend is ok now!

london yes I've had really bad wind!!!! I thought what the heck is going on lol. At a family lunch and tooting away lol.

What's the ohss snork? Not heard of Lucazade sport, will get some in! Rest up and lots of positive vibes heading your way xx

Paws I completely get that you don't want to be sharing every detail. While i've spoken to most of my friends about my plans I've only told one person the details of exactly what I'm doing when as I don't want to have to share until I have the desired news.I think your response was absolutely fine.

Wonky sorry you are feeling down. Just got to keep visualising the end result and try not to dwell too much on anything other than the next step. We're here if you need us :)

Snork I would also be delighted with 12 fertilised - excellent news!

paws absolutely understand your feelings about all the questions. The people I have told I have also said that I will let them know when something important happnes and thankfully they have all stuck by that

mojito welcome, I am also 37 and had a high amh (suspected pcoa but no definite diagnosis). From what I understand the difficulty with pcos is the potential that you don't ovulate so your clinic will likely recommend some kind of medication to ensure ovulation. I am on letrozole for this purpose but I know others have had more medication. I am about to start my 3rd IUI cycle so fingers crossed this is tbe one. Good luck

I'm quite an open person so most of my friends and family know what I'm planning...starting to realise that I want to be a bit more private about it now it's getting closer.
I work in quite a close knit place - they all know I'm single so bit anxious that if/when I get pregnant and start telling people the rumour mill will go out of control...! Might just leave them to deduce their own conclusions!!
Thanks bear and london for the welcome and info - good luck for your upcoming cycles! It must be such a weird feeling when you have the iui or embryo transfer that something so major could be happening inside you that you have very little control over! I think I will really struggle with that element of it.

You've hit the nail on the head lovely! All my life i've been able to work hard, prep for exams or a job interview, put my mind to something and I can do it. Now - this - it's all in the lap of the gods. That bit I find the hardest.

Eek second scan this morning fingers crossed 🤞

Welcome mojitos!!! Which I really like too... even the virgin ones but are full of sugar so an no-go area for me right now.
My first FC CRGH did not mention my BMI at all until I was 18 months in to treatment and had my second MC. Then I went to IVI (my new FC) who said they have a under 35 rule.
I have PCOS but have not seen how this has effected my treatment choice - maybe it has cleared up a bit.

Snork such good news!!!! Bet you are awake already waiting for the call!

Wonky what is Maca powder please?

Sounds perfectly reasonable Paws you do what you need to do including perhaps changing your friends!

london copious milk drinking from cd1 through to ovulation.

Snork I think I had a GA for both egg collections and felt fine after sorry about the 🤢

I am just a few pounds away from a BMI of 35... however had 2 nice meals this weekend and think I have scuppered my significant weightloss hope for tonight's SW weigh-in so close, yet so far

Best of luck paws!

Ooh bear your starting, have you managed to speak to the clinic about delaying if coincides with work thing?

London one of the nurses once said to me "you are a very organised person aren't you? Those like you tend to suffer more through this stage as too much is out of your control"
This ttc stage is so so difficult as you say there is nothing you can do, try and remain healthy and positive and believe that this process does work....we just have to get through some bumpy roads to get there and we are all the passengers to help you along that route x

Paws let us know how you get on :)

Snork very best of luck for the news today! When did they say they would call

Kwick soooooo nearly there my lovely!!! Fingers crossed for good weight loss xx

london and mojitos I definitely struggle with the lack of control and not knowing what is going on. In saying that I found my second cycle easier because I knew what to expect.

mojitos I am not telling people at work, the know I am single and will probably suspect but I don't think its really any of their business. If they ask I will just say that dad is not involved.

pickle cycle started today eek. Clinic said to phone on day 1 and we can discuss options. They said they could delay the letrozole to push ovulation out a bit. AF showed up today a week late so timing should be alright now. I need to phone up and arrange baseline on Wednesday so all being well IUI should fall on my week off

Wahooo #meanttobe bear

Hi all

I'm afraid I ducked out of threads for a bit - been finding it all a bit too much - but thought I'd pop back with an update.

For those who are new to the threads since I last posted:

I'm Miri, 32 (as of yesterday) and my lovely DP is 33, nearly 34. I am infertile after I had uterine cancer 3 years ago so we have been TTC using DP and donor sperm.

We have been treated at Create in London (hi Pez!)

So far we had:
IUI #1: BFN
IUI #2: BFN
IUI #3: BFP but low beta HCG; turned out to be ectopic

IUIs 4, 5, and 6: all BFN.

Started mild IVF in May - had a brilliant cycle and ended up with 6 high grade embryos, but DP had signs of mild OHSS so we froze them all.

Had our first frozen embryo transfer in late July and... it was a BFP! DP is now 7+5, and due date is 11 April 2018. We had a scan last Wed (at exactly 7 weeks) and everything looks fine - saw and heard heartbeat, and the baby is a little fatty measuring about 3 days ahead of dates We're having an NHS scan at 9 weeks; our area does them automatically if you've had a previous pregnancy loss. Can't wait for that.

Congratulations pickle and Wish - April 2018 is looking exciting!

Eeeekkkkkkkkk Miri so pleased to hear your lovely news :) our little beans could end up on the same day, I'm 8 weeks today and due on the 9th April.
So so happy for you and your DP,been a long journey but yayyyyyyyyyyyyy xx

Hope so pickle 🤞🏻

Congrats miri another bfp for our thread 😀

Oh congratulations Miri - that's wonderful news!

Thanks for all your kind words ladies. Like you, Pickle, I'm organised & sorted & prepared & planned for everything. All this expensive throwing of dice is really phasing me!

Not helped by day 4 of excruciating trapped wind / constipation. Nearly cracked & took some painkillers this morning, but stopped myself thankfully - would write off this cycle. Any tips for pain relief when in the stims phase pre iui?

Paracetamol is absolutely fine London. Also peppermint tea or hot peppermint cordial is also very good for trapped wind

Looks like the stars are aligning bear!

Happy Birthday miri!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

london low dose paracetamol should be ok? But if you are constipated why not take something for that?
Get well soon

So scan showed this morning only 4 follicles a really good size, a couple or others not so good, so not many follicles but looking good and want to do egg collection Wednesday! Eeek! Frantically trying to move round work! Which I've managed fairly successfully, apart from one customer getting shirty with me so she can just fit round with when I'm back to work or bog off! Lol.
But I have a lady I clean her immaculate house for,(my main job is a dog groomer but this is an lovely job I didn't want to leave years ago as it's a bit of company for the lady every week) . they said no heavy lifting, but I push around the hoover and clean windows etc so not lifting do you think that'll be alright for Friday? 48hours after should be fine? What are your thoughts?
Were you guys who've had the collection sore/uncomfortable after?

It's really hard when it's out of your control isn't it, I was trying to plan work around things but it's suddenly all come together quickly. Me and mum have moved heavy furniture this morning so can just do light duties with my time off. The consultant said my profession after transfer have at least until pregnancy test off! Eek

Was trying to explain to my mum today about the 40weeks isn't 40weeks from transfer but last period and she got all confused lol. Plus she was trying my patience again today by saying she's worried about me and money grrr
(Staying calm having herbal tea and listening to music whilst trying to rearrange work lol)

Anyways sorry am rambling xx

Welcome back miri fabulous news!!! Exciting!
Good luck and fingers crossed everyone starting the journey too. X

london hope the constipation goes soon, are bananas good for that? Or do hey bung you up? Never remember which way round? Lol
I don't like taking drugs more than I have to, but did take the odd paracetamol through the first lot of injections because of the headaches! X

Paws I had to move around patients on 2 days and a couple started being arsey and I said I'm really sorry but I have to go to hospital for a procedure so I don't have a choice. That soon shut them up. I go above and beyond for them and am human too. Sure all will work out

I didn't have ivf but I refused to lift anything heavy since, I still have to lift some boxes BUT I put them straight on a wheelie chair and move it like that. Only you know your limits but be careful x