#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 9

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

To add to the baby aspirin bit I was told to stop taking it after egg collection and to start again 4 days before OTD.

I love how varying the clinical instructions are!

Hello everyone, I've been lurking on these threads for a long time and I'm now in need of a bit of advice.

I'm 36, and thinking very seriously about donor conception and solo parenting. But I would like some fertility tests to know if it is a realistic option for me. For the past few years, I've had very variable periods, mostly light but occasionally heavy and cycle length has varied too, from 21 days to 75(!). GP thought I might have PCOS and a blood test showed a marker for this but I had an ultrasound and there were no cysts on my ovaries. I'm also wondering if I might be in peri-menopause but don't really have any other symptoms which would indicate this.

So basically I can't be certain if I'm ovulating, or how often. And I'm just wondering where I would start to try and find out more about whether I might have issues conceiving, either due to possible PCOS or anything else. Do I go to my GP? What tests do I ask for? Or would it be better to book a fertility test at a private clinic? What do they look for?

I know there are no guarantees or certainties, either with tests or the process of conception, but I just feel that if I am going to struggle to conceive I would rather know that and take it into account when making the final, huge, decision to have a child. I hope I've explained that OK, I've been thinking about all this for so long now I am starting to go round in circles.

Thank you to anyone who read and made sense of all that. And good luck and best wishes to you all, whatever stage of the journey you are at!

Thanks pez! I'd never heard of this before! Any other secrets I should know about? Magical foods? Advice welcome! Hopeful AF will arrive in next couple of days so I can begin my first cycle of medicated IUI. Xx

Welcome apples!!!
If you are likely to opt for donor conception I would recommend getting checked over by an FC. You could check ovulation yourself at home through the use of OPKS but if your cycles are not regular that may be tricky.

Ooops just missed my stop as I was so engrossed in MN!!!

wish I feel like you need my "patent pending" 2ww list!!!

"Keep feet and kidneys warm"

That's a new one on my kwick - what's that about?!

During the TWW it's important your blood flows freely throughout your body and it doesn't get diverted from your womb to focus on stomach for example (hence why ice cold drinks and ice creams are a no no) or extremities (hence why feet need to stay warm).

A low carbs high protein diet is also recommended during TWW. Proteins from nuts and pulses are preferred to red meat. You also need to avoid all food stuff that pregnant women shouldn't have, so no raw milk cheeses, uncooked meats/eggs or anything unpasteurised like cured meats.

The other one is no hot water bottle on your tummy or no hot bath even if you are bloated and really want it.

Also, yes, women fall pregnant all the time without following this advice but when one spends ££££ on fertility treatment it definitely cannot harm to try everything (that's my opinion )

Oh my life things just got real for us. AF arrived last night, baseline scan booked for tomorrow, medication arrived too... eeeekkkk! The medication is already confusing me lol, I'm sure I'll understand more tomorrow though.
kwick your list came just in time! Thanks!
pez I'm willing to try anything!
Cycle 1 here we come! Eeeeekkkkk!😊

Welcome apples & Ella
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Apples* you can get a fertility assessment at most clinics for under £500 for blood tests,scans, chat etc
Ella good luck to your sister, not heard of that clinic before
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Wish* I am so excited for you sweetie, what medication are you on? The nurse should run through all your meds tomorrow and explain how and when etc. Eeeekkkk how wonderful, you must be so squiggly with excitement. Between us we have been on quite a few different meds so we are always here to help :)

14.5 days to go

Thanks pickle! Yep, after she's gone through it all I'm sure it will be fine! There's definitely suprecur and menopur and something else! Xx

Ooh that's what I was on, I had suprecur daily and Menopur every other day and then to bring on ovulation-pregnyl for the first try & gonasi for the 2nd (as there was a shortage of pregnyl)

Hope all goes well

OTD and I'm out. Thank god today arrived at last! For me I always know one week in whether it's failed, and the second week is like being in bloody limbo!

Just need AF to properly arrive rather than the (tmi) flood of pinkish brown I'm getting at the moment....

Right, what's next?....

Ohh Stork, I'm so sorry, I really thought it was your time but unfortunately these things are never fair...
It's good you're thinking of the next step, I would hate to see you give up.
Lots of hugs xx

So sorry Stork be kind to yourself xxx

☹️I'm so sorry stork

Sorry stork my lovely. It's crap. I hope AF comes on properly soon so this difficult hurdle is done,.
Did you get anywhere with info from ivi? Or had you been edging toward using one clinic over another. It's good you have started to put next building blocks into place. I hope you can find a way forward, I ve found that in a way there's even more choice with donor egg treatment esp as oe treatment in my case had been a bit one size fits all!!
Sorry again Hun xxx

Ladies, as always you brighten my day!

Ivi continue to be elusive! They do have a link with my current clinic and I've gotten pricing through them - €8k for egg donation. That's the most expensive yet, for the least communicative clinic! They are clearly a successful big clinical group with many many many egg donors and options, but I now tend to shy away from the big clinics as I prefer the customer service of the smaller ones.... everything ne else seems to be about €5k for both donors.

I think my options are ranked as follows 1) embryo donation uk 2) embryo donation overseas 3) double donation overseas.

So now it's save save save and also a lovely little break of 3-4 moths where I can eat slimming world food, exercise greatly and not give a hoot about my eggs, but rather focus on losing the ivf weight I've put on! I want to get my bmi back down to 27 if possible.

This weekend I will be attacking my garden, and sorting my garage, and possibly taking a trip to Nottingham to pick up an air walker.

I'm not going to be sad. Clearly there is an issue with my eggs and they were obviously not my babies. My path lies elsewhere, and i trust in God that he will reveal all in time (apols for the catholic overload!)!

Stork so sorry that it hasn't worked for you this time :(

Apples I've just had an initial consult to check fertility (not quite ready to start treatment yet). Turns out I have PCOS but was surprised because like you I've had a scan and no cysts. But apparently, according to my doctor, despite the name you don't have cysts with PCOS. It's more about have large follicles that don't release an egg. He didn't seem to think it a problematic barrier to fertility though. I recommend having an initial consult to put your mind at rest / find out what you might need to sort out in future.

How exciting wish!!!!

Thanks Pez - you are so good at explaining things

stork onward and upward eh?
What a fcuker... very disappointed for you. Absolutely love your spirit though - amazeballs!

What is an airwalker?

Am getting nervous about IVI now but I am going to stick with them a bit longer.

On my way home - going to do a bit of personal admin before I meet my cousin for a lovely dinner.

Hi all.

Sorry to hear your news stork but like the others I am amazed by your attitude - I hope to be like that if the time comes.

Today we've been for our very first baseline scan and tonight I'm going to do my first ever injections on this fertility journey. I really hope that or journey will be a short one, my wife is anxious already lol and we haven't even started! It's a trying and exciting time of life. I wish everyone else well! Xxx

Cheers guys!

kwick it's like an elliptical? A fold away piece of gym equipment which is easy on the joints! I don't have time nor inclination for the gym!
And absolutely stick with IVI! They are massive and successful, I just get uber annoyed about incommunicado clinics, it rankles me. That being said if I needed to use them because they were my best option then I'd just suck it up!

Oh wish I'm so excited for you - I can't remember is it you or your wife that is actually having the treatment?
How did the first lot of injections go?do you go back for another scan on day 8 & 10?

Stork totally a big bugbear of mine too, it isn't difficult to reply to enquiries and just plain rude I think.
Hope you find a clinic that does what you need, does your nice one you've just used not do it? Or are you now looking abroad?
My 6 weeks in between bfn and baseline scan went so quick and was lovely not thinking about what are my egg and the spermies doing? Is it all over already? Is that a symptom etc....unlike the tww!
So just enjoy your break off , save your pennies and be refreshed to start the new adventure :)

pickle it's me going through the treatment! My wife is super supportive, she prepped all the injections etc, very sweet. They went fine! I need to go back on day 5 (weds) for another scan, to see how it's all progressing, and I guess they'll tell me then when the next one will be. Question - pessaries, are they for after the actual IUI? I'm assuming so! Xx

Fold away you say stork? How small does it fold down to?

Exciting times wish!

Not sure what happened last night - slept straigh through from about 10.30 until 5am (which is unusual for me) but feel so tired... maybe cos I went to sleep about 20 mins after finishing dinner?
Went out for dinner with cousin - good food but I seriously went over syn allowance so am on rations rest of the weekend. Off for my Saturday am outdoor swim.