36 years and my husband left us for a 24 year old

[MydaughterandI]

I'm in pieces, I just don't want to carry on. Last week was supposed to be the nicest time for all of us, our 18 years old daughter starting university. Instead he left us without saying a word. we now know that he's been having an affair with a 24 year girl for the past year. He's 59 himself.
I just feel rubbish, humiliated. I'm missing him so much.
My daughter and I are missing eachother. But now are apart, until I sell this house.
What a mess. How can someone live their family like that?

She also says he’s her husband. Marriage is a financial arrangement. There is no his or hers.

OP, don't assume the house is yours, even if you owned it when you met and you pay all the mortgage.

Please get legal and financial advice on your situation now.

This thread is 13 pages of half of us telling the other half facts about marital assets on repeat, and nothing from the OP.

Not only that...you've forgotten the confusion about whether a 36 year old can have an 18 year old child and whether it bears any relevance at all to the thread!

God, yes!

You've had a terrible shock but it's time to pull yourself together and get practical. You can do the emotions later. Get all financial documents together, consult a solicitor, accept he's not on your team or side and you are now moving forward as a single woman. You love who you thought he was. He's not that man so stop saying you love him and you can't go on. That's self indulgent nonsense which you don't have the energy spare for right now. Get all the information you need and be strong.

Has the marriage been bad for a while or is it a total shock?