You’ve got this—really, you do. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that reacting too quickly could cost you the chance to uncover everything. Right now, your priority is gathering all the information because who knows what else he may have hidden?
Once you’ve steadied yourself- maybe go get some fresh air, focus on the practical steps. Where will you record everything—an email, a secure document? Write it all down in detail and email it to your solicitor as soon as possible. If necessary, consider deleting the email afterward.
This is shocking and overwhelming, but you need to push through. If it helps, think of it as simply collecting numbers and data rather than dwelling on what they mean emotionally. Get everything in one place first—processing it can come later when you’re ready.
Most importantly, do not put yourself in danger—physically, emotionally, or financially—by revealing what you know too soon. Keep your cards close and stay strategic.
You deserve justice. He has financially abused you for years, and you need to secure enough to protect yourself and your children. That will be much harder if you don’t stay calm and hold your nerve.
I also wonder if there’s some illegal, money laundering activity going on here. Some income on the side? Have you seen his payslips? Are you in the uk? Any chance he’s selling prescription drugs?
Stay strong—you are doing incredibly well.