Husband wants to separate - totally out of the blue

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As title says, DH wants to divorce. Been together 10 years and married for 8. We have a 5yo DD. Apart from being totally heartbroken I’m worried as I’ve stupidly been a SAHM with no job and therefore no money. What shall I do? I want to sit in bed and cry for a fortnight at the moment

OP your H is a coward. He's the same as mine. He wants to run away, course he does. Mine has done exactly the same. It's disgraceful.

I am trying to be my own best friend right now. It's so so hard but I'm trying my best. I'm making lots of mistakes but I think that's normal too.

I said earlier that he can end the relationship if he wants to, that is his right, and he’s not obliged to undergo counselling if he’s made up his mind. Counselling would be a waste of time and money, unless it’s with the aim of separating amicably ie more like mediation. I still think that.

But it’s not ok for him to bugger off on holiday for a week leaving you to hold the fort. Autism and ADHD do not explain that behaviour. He may be going alone (doubtful) but that doesn’t make it alright.

If he’s booked a holiday he’s probably been through the finances carefully too. He is ahead of you. You really need to see a solicitor this week if possible OP.