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ExH threatening to call police

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RBush22 · 20/12/2024 19:04

I am due to move out with my 2 children next week, 1 hour drive away to my mum's house. I have made this known to exH since September, we went to mediation in October only for it to stall as mediator backed my plan and his was totally unreasonable. I then got a solicitor who has written him 2 letters explaining my move and trying to get him to agree - he/his solicitor has disagreed to everything giving no reasons as to why. My solicitor has told me I am not "relocating" so I don't need his permission.

He never applied for a prohibited steps order (PSO) and the latest letter from his solicitor today is that if I do move with the children, exH will phone the police immediately and he will apply to the court urgently (to get them returned).

I am still shaking - is this just fear mongering? Has this happened to anyone?

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Reugny · 29/12/2024 10:45

RBush22 · 29/12/2024 07:19

Just current issue - was perhaps too naive to ignore all the other controlling behaviour. Though it will all obviously be put before the family judges/courts in future.
anyone know how long a child arrangements order takes??

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Ideally you don't seek one you make he get it. It can take anything from 9 months to years as it depends on the case and the court you are allocated to.

Judges in family courts are very varied. Do not rely on them to take his behaviour towards you into account.

Even if they do they are only interested in the children having regular contact with him. So like previous posters have suggested keeping offering him dates to see the children in a public place in writing preferably email. He will keep saying "No" and give every excuse without offering an alternative. You actually want him to do that.

The parents I know about mainly had disagreements on handovers but also on minor aspects of contact as one wanted contact with the other parent. In the end the difficult party was told they were being unreasonable by their solicitor or a barrister as they had no need to have contact with the other parent, so had to agree to one of the offers made.

trackerc · 29/12/2024 18:07

Hoping you had a settled & stress free day OP

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RBush22 · 29/12/2024 20:58

Reugny · 29/12/2024 10:45

Ideally you don't seek one you make he get it. It can take anything from 9 months to years as it depends on the case and the court you are allocated to.

Judges in family courts are very varied. Do not rely on them to take his behaviour towards you into account.

Even if they do they are only interested in the children having regular contact with him. So like previous posters have suggested keeping offering him dates to see the children in a public place in writing preferably email. He will keep saying "No" and give every excuse without offering an alternative. You actually want him to do that.

The parents I know about mainly had disagreements on handovers but also on minor aspects of contact as one wanted contact with the other parent. In the end the difficult party was told they were being unreasonable by their solicitor or a barrister as they had no need to have contact with the other parent, so had to agree to one of the offers made.

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Wow, that's a long time. So to see the kids he has to agree to my terms until a court order? So if I ask for public place meet-ups for 1 year, he would have to agree to that, and then a court could suddenly then order 50/50? How strange and unsettling for the children

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