Hello again!
I've not updated here for a while but a lot of things have changed.
Firstly, I've submitted divorce proceedings against my wife, paid the £550 and so am hopefully moving on....although there is a spanner in the works, see further comments below.
Secondly, after dipping my toe into online dating, seeing a couple of women, getting scared, closing my accounts, I've met a lovely woman who ive started seeing properly. She is a couple of years younger than me with no kids, but we get on really well and are happy in each other's company (sorry if that's too soppy for some of you!!). I thought everything was finally going to work out ok.....
....that is until my ex reared her ugly head again. Noooo!
The childcare has worked that we share youngest 50% and then eldest has tea at ex's house on the nights youngest stays over. Oldest is almost 16 and generally stays with me, however is a typical teenager and spends most of their time in bed or online. As such, I've taken youngest to the seaside and left oldest at home by themself. Absolutely no issues with ex, ive shared photos etc, no issues whatsoever.
However, one night when I was out on a date my eldest wanted to come back to mine. Ex dropped them off but as I wasn't in she wanted to know where I was. I told her the truth, that I was seeing someone.
From that point on, my life has been made a misery. She is now stating she wants full custody, says she should have the house and all sorts of other nonsense.
Last night she started screaming abuse at me in front of youngest, saying I was a disgusting disgrace, picking tarts and slappers up to go balls deep etc etc. Youngest was visibly upset so i tried to walk away but she kept on and on. Now I've had a barrage of texts saying I'm a terrible dad and only she can care for kids. I've told my solicitor to prepare for the worst, but I'm hoping it will blow over.
I'm really upset by it as I've done nothing wrong. I've not been sleeping around or anything like that, my kids have come first and I've also been helping ex with her finances. Now she turns round and wants to destroy my life all over again.
It's so hypocritical, as she has introduced youngest to her toyboy, has booked a holiday with toyboy and his son in school term, but not thought about her own children and she does virtually no washing for kids or school stuff. I'm at 2 parties with youngest this weekend as ex is "too busy", I'm taking oldest to get stuff sorted for work experience as ex forgot and I keep asking her to read and do spellings with youngest but she just "doesn't have time!".
She has also told me that I'm spending more time with my "tart" than she does with her "partner" and "it's not normal to see each other so often". She also maintains she's "very happy, in fact the happiest she's been in years", with toyboy.
What on earth is going on in her head? Or am I the one in the wrong here?
I just want my life back!
On a final positive note, I passed an assessment to be a police special constable, just the medical and fitness test to go and then it's on to full training! God knows what my ex will think of that when she finds out I'll be a voluntary police man! Haha
Take care x