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[Rosewilliam]

Hello, I'm a single mum (going through divorce) just wondering if there are any others like me out there that just want to chat in the evening after the kids have gone to bed. I feel very lonely.
Please come and say hi.

I sent DD off with her Dad a couple of hours ago so that me on my own until tomorrow lunch time. Have been for a bit of shopping and going to dye my hair soon and see how long I can stretch the cleaning out for. It's a long old Sunday when she's not here.

Still awaiting the return of my soon to be ex, he wanted to spend the day with our 9 yr old when he finally appears our poor pup will finally get a walk today and then I am determined to finish reading the book jog on and psyche myself up for another monday group run (i was rubbish last week! ps -running is therapy, highly recommend!

I'm dreading when that happens, for months the ex just has them when I'm at work which is twice a week. I'm going to have to plan those weekends with military precision. I'm taking my two swimming now but I'm sure I'm be back in here later.

I'm supervising DS1 making vegan cupcakes. It's messy!

I've just been for a 11 mile run and a little walking to. I find it extremely lonely though

@knockerfc have you had a look for some local running groups? I use runtogether to source ones near me, most suit all levels too.

I'd love to do some running but I just find it so uncomfortable, cycling is the next best thing for me. Just been for a swim with the little ones. I could have a nap now 😃

Well ex messaged last night and has booked to have kids every weekend in Feb which is better for them that the odd hours he's been doing so maybe me saying something worked.
He's taking you get two on holiday at half term. Was originally booked last year but I can't afford to take them so it's the first time he's had them for a week ever and the longest I've ever been away from them. Dd is 13 and dreading it. Ex is quite autistic and does what he likes. I can't remember the last time he did a food shop or cooked for them!!!!
I've bought paint etc and plan on decorating the hallway that week. I wanted to visit friends but can't afford hotel now as car had MOT last week which cost me £300.

@bonkerz have you looked on booking.com February is usually a good time to get a bargain.

Yeah I'm hoping that I can book something better value last minute just to break up the week.

Things just get worse. Ex stuff is still here. It's in bags and boxes but he has no new address.
Council have refused my application for council tax support (it's about £12 a month) because ex is still on electrol register for here. I can't take him off. He has to do it but they have spoken to HMRC about possible fraud!

I know just how you feel, my ex literally left everything. Part of my wants it gone the other doesn't. So I'm doing my best to pack it up so I don't have to see it all the time.

Sorry - went for a contrast MRI yesterday. Wiped out today. Sound like you all need hugs today.

Thanks frickssake, hope your ok too.

Having a bad mental health day today. Everything is hurting too. In bed after school run. Don't want to get out again.ill get over it.
How is everyone else today?

I was earlier, self inflicted for once but all sorted now sort of. Got my son home today as he's poorly so not doing much.

How old is he and what's the illness.

He's only 7, just got a stomach bug poor thing.

A random visitor called round last night and listened to me rant and made me smile. Kept busy so far today and been boxing up ex's crap and filling black bags. Also sorting some time away for half term when I'm without my babies.

I've started packing up my ex's stuff and storing it out of sight. She must be the messiest person I've ever known. Having a good rant is essential in my opinion. As is muttering expletives under my breath as she drives away. We'll all try to make you smile and lift your spirits on here anytime.😀

Bonkerz- my ex has ASD too. Did you get Cassandra syndrome too?
Western- oh no! Bless him. Does he feel any better yet?
Went to Yoga class today- ouch!

Yes he's much improved now thank you nearly back to his normal self 😁

Wow had never heard of Cassandra syndrome. Just had to google.

I don't think I suffer with that. Certainly some things ring true but im a strong person with amazing friends and I've made sure I have a life. Our marriage for the last 8 years atleast we have been completely separate anyway. Not a team. No intimacy or affection and I think I resented his selfishness.

It's difficult to know what came first if I'm honest. Anxiety and depression have been a problem for me for last 6 years really but it's my friends who have dragged me away from the darkness not my husband. I also found studying holistic therapies like reiki made me readjust my self worth etc.

Anyone about tonight, I need a good rant.