Chatting

[Rosewilliam]

Hello, I'm a single mum (going through divorce) just wondering if there are any others like me out there that just want to chat in the evening after the kids have gone to bed. I feel very lonely.
Please come and say hi.

[Ozziewozzie]

@knockerefc
Maybe I can help. I raised my eldest by myself. Once she hit 12 her relationship with her dad struggled a bit. Maybe I can offer some insight?

[Ozziewozzie]

Hi @dontpointatme
Join the club of 2018/19 or thereabouts. Who cares, we are all in a similar boat.
Can anyone suggest some great tv to make evenings more exciting?

[2018anewstart]

Afternoon everyone.. been out for a run 3 miles this morning. Am impressed with 12! Now doing anything to delay cleaning the house. @knock my daughter similar age fine with seeing her dad but really does not want overnight. He wants 50 50. He hasn't taken an active involvement in their life to date hence why they are reluctant to go. This is my daughters choice not mine. What I would say is try to keep everything as normal for your daughter so if you have always taken her swimming then of course you should continue to do so. Don't get involved in any arguments in front of her I know how hard it is. Rise above it and be the bigger person. The time you have with her just spend quality time with her and I am sure she will soon want to spend more time with you. At that age they make up their own minds. My daughter unfortunately can see the way her dad has treats me and still treats me is not right. and this is why she does not want to go. On the plus side they see him twice a week 1 day in weekend and one evening and they now spend more time with him than they ever did before. I would never stop them going if they wanted to see him more. This is about the children and not the adults hope things improve for you.

[westernchampion]

If I can't find anything on to watch tonight it'll be the series on the sas which I'm watching in all 4. Or comedy? I could recommend a few, depends what your tastes are.

[Ozziewozzie]

Ooh yes. My eldest 17 is wanting to join Royal Marines SBS. We've been watching the paratroopers version. I'll be honest, I still run him a bubble bath occasionally and wake him up with a coffee. God help
Him in the marines. I'm not sure they offer that service there!
I don't think he's even touched the iron, let alone used one. He's a really good young man though. Very proud.
I've just watched Luther. I love loads of things. A really mixed bunch of stuff. I don't often see things I don't like. I just feel as though I'm running out of stuff. These tv companies need to work a little faster!

[Frickssake]

Wow 12 miles! Wow 3 miles! I've not been out today. Just painting. Hungry now.
Hello to anyone Ive not said hello to
Ooh what car did you go see? Did you get it?

[dontpointatme]

I was going to try Luther but it looks too terrifying for me, living alone. Although I'll happily watch any old American murder/detective dramas that I find!
I wish I had the inclination to run (or just keep fit at all) but Pilates is as energetic as I go!

[Bonkerz]

I need to join this chat please. I feel like I'm boring my friends and I'm biting my tongue so much it's starting to cause stress.

ExH left in Nov. No real reason just after 17 years we'd grown apart. He's quite autistic and had become separated from me long before we split.

Tried to keep it nice over Christmas for DCs (18,17,13,7). New year I was really poorly so he cooked.
He's living at his mums.
I've sorted myself financially so he only pays the mortgage now and I pay everything else (£49 a month with only 2 years left).
He hasn't given me any money.

When we split he said he wanted full custody of younger 2. He hasn't mentioned it again.
He's been having the younger 2 overnight one night a week but has made no effort to see eldest at all.

This weekend he's had youngest for 5 hours. He's just dropped him home and I asked if he could make some more time for the kids to which he answered he can't.

I've been packing up his stuff and asking when he will be getting his own place and he says he's in no rush to move from his mums.

I'm struggling to be civil because I feel like I can't move on with his stuff here and no formal arrangement for the kids.

I can't afford a solicitor. Don't really want a divorce as can't afford it but I just want him to see kids more than 5 hours a week.

[Ozziewozzie]

@dontpointatme
Try it. It's really not that scary at all. I love the character of Alice. She brings a really light humour to it. You don't see anything detailed at all, only implied.
Desperate housewives was funny. I thought I'd hate it, but it was actually really good fun to watch. I loved Gabby. I found Suzan very annoying though!!

[westernchampion]

Hi @bonkerz welcome to the chat. Sounds like you and I have stuff in common except I'm a single dad. Hi @frickssake. Went to look at a Honda CRV, definitely want it. But not made a decision yet.

[Bonkerz]

Hi thanks for welcoming me.
I'm struggling not to wallow in self pity.
I feel like I'm trapped if I'm honest. I can't start a new life because he hasn't started a fresh yet.

[Ozziewozzie]

Hi @ Bonkerz
I know it can be hard ( understatement) Try to make your own plans for you and kids without relying on him. Anything he does do then could be a bonus as opposed to a relief. Do you have a friend who could give you a break and then you have her kids one time.
I know it's really hard to think things through clearly when you have children to take care of and little space for yourself. I can't be physically there for you but maybe we could watch crazy we girlfriend tonight as suggested. I'm really looking forward to it once I've got the rugrats in bed.
I can imagine your feeling overwhelmed right now and in desperate need of a proper break ( not the kind no where you catch up on laundry, shopping and housework). Pants, it's 5.40 and I haven't started tea yet! Naughty mummy I am

[dontpointatme]

@Ozziewozzie I was flicking through channels and landed on it on a particularly bad bit I think but it just put me off.

[Ozziewozzie]

Fair enough @dontpointatme
I know what you mean though, once you're spooked, you're spooked.

I'll keep a look out

[dontpointatme]

I've just had my roast chicken and settled down in front of the tv with Suits on Netflix. Definitely one of my favourite series.

[westernchampion]

@dontpointatme like the chicken and suits. I've seen bits of it but not watched an entire episode yet.

[dontpointatme]

Ooh you should, it's on season 8 now I think. I've got that then Phil and Kirstie's love it or list it, then maybe Madam Secretary, then bed. It's all rock and roll here for Saturday night!

[Timeofchange2019]

Hi I am now going to be a member of the single parent club too :-/ be great to chat. Husband ended it at the beginning of this month but we haven't been right for a while. Sat watching YouTube with my 8 yr old - save me!

[dontpointatme]

Hi @Timeofchange2019! Sorry to hear that, hope you're doing ok in general. YouTube is just the worst when it's dictated by an 8yo. Please tell me it's not watching someone else play computer games or opening toys

[westernchampion]

Welcome time if change, I'd like to sit down and watch something but my little ones keep distracting me.

[westernchampion]

@dontpointatme you are so right about the you tube channels the kids watch they get massive viewing figures as well.

[Timeofchange2019]

@dontpointofme usually yes but today it was a load of hollywood kids with a 'talking' pug?! Only on youtube...

Doing okay thanks in practical mode mainly plus my work has a counselling service which I am using and finding helpful :-)

[Frickssake]

Just quickly jumping on. Am at a George Michael tribute show!
Has anyone watched the Bridge ( think was on Netflix ) v gripping!
Big hello and welcome to anyone I've not 'spoken to' yet. Hope you're all having a nice Saturday night.
Let me know what you all end up watching. We could have our own recommended Netflix!
@western - what car have you got ATM? I've got a focus.

[dontpointatme]

They're bloody awful aren't they. My DSS watches them and they drive (drove) me insane. A talking pug huh, im not quite sure what to say to that 🤦🏼‍♀️

Practical is good time, I'm just kind of done with that stuff and it's kept me going for the last 5/6 weeks at least, and the counselling sounds great too. I'm still seeing the lady who was going to be our marriage counsellor but at £45 an hour I can't afford many more sessions!

[Knockerefc]

I'm watching black mirror on netflix