Chatting

[Rosewilliam]

Hello, I'm a single mum (going through divorce) just wondering if there are any others like me out there that just want to chat in the evening after the kids have gone to bed. I feel very lonely.
Please come and say hi.

[Itsnotme123]

Hi yellowshirt I don’t think reason much matters, you have to have a reason, so any of the 5 will do. Just crack on and sign the petition.

[westernchampion]

Hi bonkerz, I've not been on here for a while will have to check back later, but my advice would be leave it.

[Yellowshirt]

Hi all.
Can people tell me what they would do if they disagree with the reasons on a divorce petition?
I want the divorce so I'm not disputing that fact as I want her out of my life but I'm just a little confused about the best way to respond. Am I better just signing it as I'm desperate to move on as I'm really really struggling with life in general at the moment.
Please help.
Thanks

[Bonkerz]

Hi all.
So into the 3rd month now of separation. Each has taken youngest 2 DCs to wales. I'm keeping busy.
Quick question. Back in July I accused him of having an affair. He said definitely not.
Fast forward to now and I've had his phone bills through and itemised texts show one number that's used a lot more than others right up till jan 2019. You guessed it it's her number.
Do I confront? He has denied twice now that he's seeing this woman.
Or do I leave it.

[Jellybaby82565]

Has anyone been through a divorce and could advise me?
Court date has been set for July for the financial settlement.
Anyone know how long it could take after this if both parties agree on what the court says? Does the court date happen and then there is a waiting period to find out what was decided?
Just want to know when it will be over
Thanks everyone

[Rosewilliam]

Hello all. I'm so pleased this is still going on. I think there is a need for chats in the evening when so many people are alone out there. I'm have now started Counselling to try and sort my head out. She said she will help me enjoy my own company and find what I want in life!

[RZNW]

@westernchampion check your inbox!

[lostin2019]

Can I join you? Been so lonely since my boyfriend left me three weeks ago. Really miss having someone to talk to :(

[Bonkerz]

I had 2 bottles of wine last night and no headache but I'm very aware I'm using alcohol as a crutch at weekends. As long as I'm aware I think it's allowed for a few months while I adjust to the change. I don't drink in the week.
I am very lucky I have an amazing group if friends around me who are holding me up.
Do you guys have friends?

[Itsnotme123]

I have friends, or at least I thought I did. None of them come and see me unless I practically beg them to. They say they too busy. I know if it was the other way round I would make time.

Knock I think if you just force yourself out the door for a run you would feel so much better. Every day I have to force myself to do things otherwise I would slump into an unhealthy state which is all too easy, and I would feel bad for it.

[DiaryofWimpyMumm]

Hi there I was divorced last year after being apart for 6 years. I live with my 2 dc one 14 one 18. Life is good but it does get a little lonely sometimes

[Knockerefc]

I got all ready to go out for a run this morning trainers and everything then just sat on the sofa and said sod It! I think it's the toughest thing I've been through ever and I'm really struggling. How does everyone else cope?

[Knockerefc]

Bonkerz two bottles of wine and I'd be a right mess! I loved a beer at weekends but now I've gone boring.
I don't have mates anyway to be honest but I also realised last night I like my own company.
Is drinking on your own sad though???

[Bonkerz]

I had 2 bottles of wine last night and no headache but I'm very aware I'm using alcohol as a crutch at weekends. As long as I'm aware I think it's allowed for a few months while I adjust to the change. I don't drink in the week.
I am very lucky I have an amazing group if friends around me who are holding me up.
Do you guys have friends?

[Itsnotme123]

My ex knew he didn’t want to be with him, but he just acted normal, helped son when he needed it and was just cool.

[Knockerefc]

Bonkerz is going to have a sore head tomorrow!

[Knockerefc]

I'm so worried about losing my 13 year old daughter though. It petrifies me

[Knockerefc]

Karaoke and dancing equals lots of laughs but I would never sing in my life.
I did dry January but I may just carry it on now. I love a beer to but I just don't whether drinking 5 or 6 by myself is wrong.

[Itsnotme123]

And 13 is a strange age. I wonder if in a few years time they will change their minds and want to see their father. One of my sons didn’t like his dad and would avoid him all the time, but he will spend some time with him now under duress which is a step forward.

[Itsnotme123]

Oh wow knock, your wife sounds bad. Sounds like you’re well rid. And I can sympathise with you about her controlling family. My MIL seemed to delight in controlling our lives. Ex couldn’t see it at all, and looking back on it, she was the one that drove me away.

Karaoke and dancing badly sounds a lot of fun Bonkerz haahaa

[Knockerefc]

I don't think my job helped as I didn't see much of my then wife and daughter but that's not really an excuse for the debt she took out in my name, the beating I received and the 5 year affair she had with a work colleague. So I'll never blame my job when my wife is a liar.
I'm only 37 though and in just Wang rid of her and her horrible controlling family

[Bonkerz]

Itsnotme123: welcome.

I'm going out tonight with a friend. A meal and some gins and we will prob end up doing kareoke and dancing badly! Thankfully my 18 year old son has agreed to collect me later! It's nice having a teen with a car!

[Bonkerz]

Knock, try not to take it personally from your dd. My dd is 13 and is struggling with visiting her dad. My 7 year old adores his dad but it means that weekends are arranged doing things he likes as it's what exh likes too and this makes dd feel like she doesn't want to go at weekends.
In reality she's 13! She uses all her energy all week at school and for her weekends need to be relaxed and calm to help her recharge. Weekends with her dad don't allow this.

[Itsnotme123]

Knock I have a push bike too but the saddle makes my bum sore, guess I could change it. I live in a city, and it’s just so dangerous to cycle here. I’m taking up walking big time haahaa.

My kids are in their 30s now, and live away, but move around, and one lives abroad. They keep in touch with me, but I was so sad when they left home. Funny to think back, I wasn’t sure I wanted kids in the first place.

Long distant truck driving is an unsociable job, did you find it quite disruptive to family life ?

[Knockerefc]

Itsnotme123 I'm in a similar sort of position. I have no friends and a push bike. I've just made contact with family again after many years and I have a 13 year old daughter who I've learned this week I just need to leave her a lone to grow up because she has very little interest in seeing me. It's basically destroying me so when again this week she was negative about staying with me this weekend I did say I would have to move back into the house but I've been advised it solves nothing and I risk an occupation order and losing this flat.
So I also spend most day and nights by myself as I'm also a long distance truck driver.