Age 50 female separating from DH ... anyone else in same position?

[midnightmoon8]

Hello, my DH (of 10 years) & I are separating (amicably) and he is moving out tomorrow. I'm 50 and we have no children. I have very mixed emotions about it all. Is anyone else in the same position so we can keep each other company on Mumsnet through our journey ahead over the next few weeks/months?

@VivaVegas All good here thank you. Loving life at the moment apart from Covid lockdown. 🤦‍♀️
Still on my own and totally enjoying every minute.
Still not divorced. If he wants a divorce he can file for it and pay for it. You may remember that getting shot of him cost me dearly 😡 Still a little bit bitter but absolutely no regrets.
How about you? Hope all is well. 😊

Good to hear it @Ivebeenbetter!
I'm doing ok, I was doing really well but lockdown has dragged me down a bit sadly. Too much time to overthink plus the stress of working, paycuts and homeschooling haven't helped. I used to have a good social life when the DC weren't with me but have found being on my own with nowhere to go quite hard. On a positive note I've put my time to good use and my garden looks amazing!
Stbeh moved the OW in just before lockdown and I find it hard knowing that my DC now spend time with her, not sure I'll ever get used to that, how do you??
Divorce nearly there but not quite, hopefully not much longer.
Before lockdown I had been seeing someone for about 4 months, however with not being able to see them for 3 months I think it may have run it's course, no bad feelings if it does, both recently out of long marriages and it's made me realise I'm not the awful old, ugly, unwanted person my bully of an ex still tells me that I am! Shame that lockdown put a damper on it but what will be will be!
Hers to a happy and healthy future 🍾🍾

Hi everyone, I've been separated 2 years and we're starting divorce proceedings. I'm really worried I'll be one of the single old women in poverty. exh has been main earner. i worked part time in professional career until 6 years ago. Now in v low paidp/t job as result of ptsd caused by ex's psychotic breakdowns, diagnosed ptsd as does ds12 (have asd dd15) Really worried once kids hit 18 i'll loose all dla and tax credits and v low income. ptsd makes it hard for me to work full time.

Obv need to speak to solicitor, but wondered if anyone else had been in similar boat?

Hi all.....is this thread still active?

I'm a 50yr old woman. Only married 3yrs (separated 3.5)..just applied for decree absolute. Consent Order was not sealed by Court, so now have 1st hearing.

Have 2 adult children (21&25)..daughter has severe ptsd, son sadly, unemployed since Jan.

I have so many mixed emotions....I owned my house prior to marriage, stbxh never paid anything towards mortgage, just c/tax and utilities. I'm scared I will have to sell my home, in order to give him any amount of money (I know he will be awarded).

I only have a few friends, they perceive me as strong, so since separation I have been isolated and suffering in silence on my own.

Would be nice to make new friends who have similar experiences x

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