Help me leave my abusive husband

[sad9999]

Fed up if being called a fat cow fed up him controlling the money and fed up of his refusals to help and up of him encouraging the kids to swear at me and call me a fucking ciunt. He undermines me constantly the kids side they won't leave withme. How can I leave them.

currently in my car. not sure I will sleep. just want to cuddle my children

@sad9999 OP are you ok????

Not OK but will be just need to get some sleep and get through the night

Phone women's aid get help you are and have been a victim of abuse you need a safe place and serious advice. Go and explain he has financial control of your money please phone now and get safe.

stil here still no sleep watching videos of him swearing and ranting

Can you not get into a hotel for the night
Sleeping in the car doesn't seem very nice
U need a good sleep

💐

Big event on so all hotel full

Please tell your hr at work they can help you. And let you have time off for solicitor.
See a solicitor today.
Don't watch videos of him except to remind you why you leaving.

Your kids are teens and fine you will see them soon.

Are you ok?

Found a very good solicitor but she is fully booked for the next 2 weeks

Are you ok?
Can you contact women’s aid today?
Sending you strength hugs

This is very sad to read op! I hope you find a way out soon and have happy life

Op - please see this as an opportunity. You need to find somewhere to stay temporarily. Your sister offered, can you take her up on it?
Contact women's aid - get some advice on what to do about getting some things from the house.

Contact the bank about the account that you don't have access to. Speak to the police about financial abuse - I don't know what their powers are, but if he starts to move money they will have a record of your report and the date so can look back if necessary.

Your kids have unfortunately grown up thinking that it's acceptable to abuse you because they've copied their dad. You've done a good thing by leaving because you're not prepared to put up with it. They will hopefully come around in time. But you're not doing them any favours by staying.

Good luck

Hi OP, well done for getting away, you won't be feeling the best but you can get through this and the start of a lovely life, free from abusers.
Women's Aid can help you, Free phone 08082000247
And could you Google Solicitors in nearby towns, to see if one is free?
Open a new Bank account and change your wage payment details with your employer.
You have a lot of friends here, willing you to succeed with your freedom.

Call womens aid. Also do you have support in rl?

So tired. Will stick with recommended solicitor apparently she is good with difficult men

You can stick with recommended solicitor but it's still worth ringing women's aid for practical advice now.

You have proof of his abuse( video) keep it and show w a please look around for another solicitor you need to act quickly sending strength and his you have made the first run to your safe future please don't lose faith you keep that video and write everything you can remember. And also he has taught the kids to abuse you, it's all proof of what you have gone through. Keep safe

I have left them and fine to my sisters

Well done for walking away the abusive existence you had sad.
You are worth much more than that!
Glad you're safe at your sisters now!

Thank you.

Hope you're ok

Still at my sister's I wants me to come back and stop being silly