Further support for those starting the divorce process

[NotJanine]

New thread so we can carry on supporting each other

That sounds really hard. Hopefully, he'll accept it once he knows you really mean it.

Perhaps you need to use 'grey rock' with him and keep repeating your position calmly. Have you got all the financial records?

Hello all. First post so I hope it's ok to dive in here.

I'm struggling to stay patient at the moment. Had the dreaded conversation about divorce in July, saw a mediator for MIAMs in August and were both asked to fill in the financial disclosure forms. I returned mine within 3 weeks. The mediator has not chased for stbx's at all and it's now nearly three months. Property valuations were done in September and I'm pretty certain he's not still waiting for pension info.

I do realise I'm way ahead of him in the thought process, but I really don't think the conversation came as a total surprise. I think he's dragging his feet because he's sitting pretty at the moment and will almost certainly be worse off when we divorce.

Trouble is, I feel the clock is ticking for me as I was recently diagnosed with a progressive condition which will eventually affect my mobility and ability to work. I want to move on and get sorted asap! Another complicating factor (and possible reason for the go-slow) is dc3 is almost 17 (yr 12) so won't be included in calculations if he manages to delay things enough.
Gah. Feeling very frustrated. Sorry for the rant. :(

Update from me, still in house and half divorced. Finance nearly sorted we go back to mediation next week, our situation is simple really. We didn't sell the house over the summer but we have offers now. Planning to attempt Xmas together with kids, anyone done this? Read my original posts in the spring tonight. I feel I'm a different person now. Certainly I feel stbxh is like another kid, apart from his ability to file paperwork. How are you all?