tdotb,"I would rather live with her like this than not at all" and she knows it, she can do or say anything and you will go no where, anything goes, and you will take it, without complaint. Im aorry tdotb but some people like to make others feel like crap, power is a drug, and at the moment you act like her puppy.
Now I may be shot by a few of the mns on here, but this is my opinion so please remember that.
In my opinion, you are probably bugging the hell out of her, not because you have done anything but because she is so angry and full of hate towards you, and half of that will be because you take it, over and over, no matter what she says and does, you are available 24-7 to absorb her frustrations. You are basically her whipping boy, and you will get whipped if you curl up in a ball, and dont stand up for yourself. She doesnt have to deal with a thing as long as you are there, not her anger or the fact she wants to sleep alone, its one thing to sleep alone another to live alone.
If you want to re kindle your marraige you are going to have to leave this disastorous relationship behind, stand up for yourself take charge of your life, tackle her issues of anger and control head on, and your issues of burying your head, and tell her thats it, enough, you want me and this life we have then work for it, it doesnt come for free. its called taking the bull by the horns cause tbh at this point she wont see you as a man but a pathetic little boy who takes it!!
Please stop ignoring what is right in front of you, you have the power to make this stop, use it.