What to take to prison

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Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

I may sound harsh on this one but . Sod her. I have done everything in my power, as a parent, to help her. As she blames everyone in the world, apart from her self for her actions. I’m not going back to that dark place again. My sanity is fine. Apart from this, life is pretty good at the moment and I’m the happiest I’ve been for a long time.
She’s 20 in a couple of months , it’s for her to deal with. She knows where I am.

Think the final straw that broke it for me. Apart from the lies, the cocaine and her hitting me , was finding her in my place of Work and her screaming that I was a cunt, that it was all my fucking fault and that she fucking hates me. That’s when I knew it was her or me.
I have helped her through her DV . Supported her, dealt with her last jail sentence. No more. And the decision now feels easier than what it would of been a year ago. I’m now finding I can walk away. Doesn’t mean I like it , sorry sound like I’m contradicting myself , but I have my own goals and life to lead . In a way she has held me back from making life changing decisions of my own , because of the just in case thoughts. What ever happens , it’s a sad case of affairs and she’s wasting what should be the best years of her life.

How awful. Drugs are a bloody scourge.

I still wait for the 2am knock at the door though. To identify a body.

No drinks don't think that.

My dear, dear, darling drinks.

I know my posts are always me, me, me. But it's the only frame of reference I have. My offending and destructive behaviour continued until I was 35. And up until that point my parents were supporting me and propping me up. It as only when they finally withdrew their support, I found my own two feet and sorted myself out.

Not knocking my parents. Not knocking you. But pushing DD away at this point may actually the best thing you could ever do for her. And you need to look after yourself. For both your and her sake.

Be kind to yourself please

cat x

*was

I value your input cat. You have been there with me since the beginning . You have been a great support and thank you.

Nothing of value or sentimental that she would be heartbroken to lose. Expensive jewellery, cash, phone etc will be taken from her on reception and stored til she leaves (so safer to leave at home).
She should write down phone numbers of people she will want to ask to add to her pin to call from prison phones. Same re addresses to write to people.
Very basic clothes. designer etc more likely to be stolen and could potentially highlight her as someone who has money and therefore for bullies to be interested in (sorry to mention). Also, no smart clothing (e.g. suit) will be alllowed.
Comfy clothes, slippers, flip flops for showers maybe. Pyjamas and dressing gown. Basic toiletries. She will be able to buy toiletries weekly with any spending money she earns/ someone sends in for her. Pen and paper, few books.

They won't let her bring in anything electronic, sharps (scissors, razors etc), aerosols, her own cigarettes or lighters, bedding, valuables as mentioned above. They will probably allow some photos of loved ones but they have to be "appropriate"- e.g. No babies in baths, saucy pictures of partner etc!

I hope that helps and good luck.

Hello, so sorry, just read the most recent on thread- I'm new here and hadn't spotted it had been going on for a while!
Sorry to see the turns this has all been taking and I really hope that you are doing ok x

Hugs Drinks. Maybe it’s best for you to feel this way. It doesn’t make you a bad parent. You have done so much and been an outstanding parent 😘

Hi Op,
I saw that she is on kepra and just wondered about the timing of this starting and her out of control behaviour. It can. cause this- really extreme personality difficulties and violence. It may not be this for your daughter, as of course for many it doesn't and is effective at controlling seizures, but if the timing fits, please look into it- it is a real side effect and if it is contributing, she will obviously need other medication but in terms of aggression she will be much better.

Hiya. Her destructive behaviour started before the keppra. I have looked in to all of this. Epilepsy and behavioural issues. She went to see the neurologist recently and he’s onto the conclusion that not all of her seizures are now epileptic episodes , but drug and alcohol related. I found the letter from the hospital. He mentioned NEAD which is a definite possibility. Still heard nothing from her. The last eeg she had showed epileptic and non epileptic activity.

Glad you have considered it. I have seen horrific changes in young people that have caused significant trauma to the yp and those around them. I think there is some evidence that if someone has had mental health difficulties previously then you should be careful with keppra.
Either way, epilepsy can be frightening and disturbing and your dd sounds both frightened and disturbed.
Im glad you have had support on here. Nobody would want to be in either your or your daughters position. I really feel for both of you. Hold on to the fact that she is still an adolescent and now isn't forever for either of you.

Is there a chance she could have been arrested drinks?

Have you called the local police station? She could well be in custody

She’s finally text cat after a week. Short and sweet. She’s fine and at her gf house. She did add a X at the end. So she’s alive

Is it the same gf? The fuckwit one?

No fuckwit mark 2

Oh FFS. Unfortunately when people are in this destructive cycle they choose the wrong people to be around.

What day is court? And did she get to her alcohol group do you know?

c

Sending lots of . What a worrying mess.

She’s just rolled through the door 😱
Went to drug centre, got tested, came up positive for coke, codeine, and weed.