What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Sounding positive Drinks x

That sounds like a positive update. I know the journey will remain rough and they'll be set backs but atm it sounds like she can and will accept help.

All good news *Drinks
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So much better to know exactly what there is to know. Keeping you in my thoughts.

2nd drugs test past. She tells me she's 22 days clean of cocaine. She still smokes weed though, buts that's not what they are testing for. Tbh I am more concerned about the coke as it makes her into a violent monster. She now spends her money on getting her nails, hair and brows done.

that's fantastic news. 22 days, that's a real stretch of time to begin to get it out of her system and be clean. The personal grooming interest is really a big deal too - I bet she feels and looks good. Good steps forward.

Yay for managing over 3 weeks.

Also agree taking an interest in appearance is a great sign

Update . 3rd test negative. Nails done again.
The on off gf , her dad phoned, is in prison. It's thanks to people giving me help on this thread , that I've been able to help them. May be this is a new career? It's hard when you don't know what to expect and I've given them a piece of mind.
But that's mainly thanks to you guys.

Glad things are going well x

Wahoo for 3rd rest and continuing to care about her appearance.

You have been an absolute rock for DD - she's VERY lucky to have you

Ok three clean is a pattern. A great pattern. I suspect this is the life changer here. I really hope it is.

You have made this happen. You are key in this outcome. Kudos. And big fat hugs. I'm so happy for you.

She's been seen by the mental health team today, they are going for borderline personality disorder and reviewing meds her gp put her on. Hopefully this is a step in the right direction

Great to hear your updates Drinks glad to hear your daughter is ok 💐

Monthly update. It's a bit boring to be honest which is good!
No dramas, she's still complying, passed another 2 drugs tests so I'm treating her to a hair do!
Down side we are forever chasing the mental health team. It's as if she's been forgotten already. So no therapy or meds, she sees her gp monthly and is due next week so will get them to chase it up. Life is good atm long may it last.

Glad things have settled down. Great idea for a treat.

Long may it last indeed. From your lips...

I know post is almost full but my disabled son was sent to prison on remind today.
Broke restraining order and is there for two weeks before court again.
Not read whole thread but thanks for sharing.
He was stupid, would t listen to any advice and broke the law but I cannot put into words what I am feeling.
😔

Hugs @tinytemper66

Oh tiny , it's soul destroying. Unfortunately he's going to learn his lesson the hard way. That's how minidrinks learnt her lesson. I have an update but need to do a maths exam first.

Right update.
She's a liar. A gaslighting shite bag
I've chucked her out, she didn't want to live here anyway🤷🏻‍♀️
Things came to a head this weekend when she came home high as a kite. Blames everyone else for what happened, not going into detail but 5 hrs in a&e later....
Managed to phone her today , not seen her since Sunday night, she's moving out and wants to go into a hostel. Said fine. So phoned her support worker and said I've had enough. I've gone above and beyond for that girl and get nothing back. She's not gone probation, the drug tests were a lie. Good job I didn't spend ££ for a hair do. She hasn't signed on or followed up her doctors appointments as she apparently cannot get out of bed before 11:30am 😳
Ive had fags go missing and no longer have money in my purse.
I'm packing her stuff tomorrow. Going to redecorate her room and have it as my own little space of solitude. Absolute fuckwit.

Oh and if I've passed my maths exam it's a fucking miracle. I don't care how many fucking trees you can plant in a hectare if land or how fast someone can type

Oh Drinks i am so sorry to read these. Truly. Little shit indeed. Hugs for you. 💐

Is it bad that in 10 mins I'm picking wall paper 🤣

no, it is really healthy! You are done. You can only focus your life on this for so long, then your brain (and probably your body) will force you to reboot. I think. You deserve to be thinking about something nice for a change.

Sorry to read this. Like you I have done all I can to support my son but I cannot do more. He has to try and move on and focus on the future.
He is being well looked after as he is being classed as a very vulnerable prisoner. I have had phone calls from the chaplain and the nurse reassuring me he is ok and well looked after.

Your postings have given me the courage to write on her about this personal matter xx

Oh Drinks, I am so sorry but maybe not living with you will give her the wake up she needs. You have been amazing during all of this which has been so emotional for you.

Well done on the maths exam x