Husband gets me to pay

[TeenGirl2024]

Anyone else struggle with every time they go grocery shopping with their husband he doesn't offer to pay and just expects you to pay then doesn't offer to even send half of the money for the stuff or if he does then he "forgets" and never does it??

It's not just that, it's anytime we buy anything or do anything. Last month he was struggling a bit with finances so i paid all of the rent and he said he would do the same this month, yet asked me to pay half?

I wouldn't normally mind a whole lot but i'm on SMP at the minute so it's not like i've got a lot of money to go around. i'm struggling and it's stressing me out because i don't actually have the money and keep putting myself into debt because he doesn't want to touch his savings and apparently doesn't have the money???

Im not married but my OH does behave like this sometimes. Just be blunt, when you're shopping say "right so I got the last lot, you're paying for this one."

If he doesn't get the hint after long then you need to sit him down and have a very direct conversation about finances and how you are not here to subside him. Particularly on SMP. That's ridiculous!

You're married, you really should be able to have an open conversation about finances. I don't agree with others that you need a joint bank account, but you definitely need to set some boundaries as he's being a CF.

you need to tell him now that he needs to pay the rent this month as you have no savings left and reduced income. don't accept excuses. let the rent be due and don't cave and pay it.

he needs to learn to be an adult. yes he's had it tough and not got a great relationship with money if his dad was a gambler. are you sure he's not gambling?

why get married if you can't talk about the big stuff like finances etc.