Lockdown (almost) over and frugalling continues!

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New thread. All welcome

Shiny stuff though love.

Did you reply wolf? Say what you want to say here or on Skype and send the measured reply.
I got what you were saying unescorted. Its getting the point over with out giving him among to use in future.

Lots of tea snug. And hope tonight is better.

Got national Trust tickets for 2pm. Will take snacks.

for you girlie too. That sounds so tricky with DD

How is dh this morning.

Lonely (and other regulars) we have a Skype chat with a few of us as well. Started during lockdown. Pm your email address if you want to join

Life have a lovely day & enjoy looking at rings l think it's so romantic 😍💍💐
You will not believe this but my Mum puts my B & S on a pedestal. I am the skivvy , always have been. I am shouted down by Mum and told to "Shut up' by her if l dare to say anything about them. Like them not coming to see her. It's always been the same. Mums has always been incredibly lazy and very controlling and l have always done everything for her and my Dad.
Wolf l hope you are feeling ok today 😍💐
Have a great day everyone , it's raining here and has done all night. So at least the heat has gone but the world seems so much happier when the sun shines 😃

Morning everyone. em thanks for new thread.

I am officially on my summer holidays and the weather is shit here 😟 it’s making me quite depressed. I can’t even get excited about spending the money we will save by not going away as I always have at the back of my mind the worry that dh will lose his job as it is reliant on the tourism industry being up and running. Still next week we will hopefully get to go to our caravan so we will at least have a change of scene.

I have totally lost the place with what we are (not much) and are not allowed to do at the moment. I’m in Scotland so moving at a different pace to the rest of UK. I took my dm to the supermarket for the first time since Lockdown and she was so excited to be out. I would rather she stayed in where I know she’s safe but I can see that she is starting to decline mentally from the lack of stimulation so I’m glad we went. She wore a mask. I still don’t and won’t until they make it compulsory. Having to wear one all day at work is hideous so I don’t want to wear one any more than I have to. I’m so annoyed with myself as I forgot to use my nhs discount- would have saved me £10 🤦‍♀️

Mrs I think your sister seems to have absolved herself of all responsibility for your dm and is quite happy letting you and your family take the burden of care alone. Your dm is very lucky to have you.

Wolf you do well to keep your shit together when it comes to exh. It can’t be easy

Snuggly could you maybe grab another hours sleep once dh is up?

Just given some feedback on the Mumsnet app via email .I can't get on with it very well. 🙄 I wonder if it is me though 😁

Girlie that’s a worry with dd. My teenage ds has been very careful with food as he isn’t getting to train and doesn’t want to put on weight. He was doing intermittent fasting and we had a bit of a fight one day as I told him he was looking too thin. Anyway he stopped of his own accord which I am delighted about but I could sense the more I questioned him the more he was digging his heels in and I’m not sure what I would have done if he hadn't. It’s such a difficult path to tread

Duchess thank you they love cottage pie it's easy to eat for them . I think they have trouble with their teeth (dentures) a lot and find it hard to eat some of the food l have given them 😁😋

My parents took the bus to get a key cut this week, even though I offered to do it. This week she wants to get the bus to the supermarket to see how long the queue is... I’m still to do the big shop the previous day though, and I expect to continue doing it. I get she is fed up like your mum born. Now it really is the balance between keeping safe and having good mental health.

life something like this?!

www.hettich.co.uk/rings/202ct-three-stone-radiant-cut-diamond-ring?cat=2016

This is a shop local to me and is where dh bought my engagement ring. Mine did not cost that though.

Dh is not in a better mood. Came to bed at 3. He’s massively annoyed and stressed. But won’t say why. I’ve explained I’m only trying to help and if I know what’s wrong I can help him. Apparently I’m making it all about me by asking him how i Can help.

Ooooh pretty em. DP suggested he was meant to spend 10% of his annual salary. I was like no way, that’s such a waste of money! He’s not a high earner either. I can’t justify £0000s.

Mrs you're doing a great job by the sound of it, your mum is very lucky. Long standing family dynamics are hard & you really have to try to let go of the resentment. Hopefully venting on here helps.
Welcome darling. I don't think I've anything to add to the great advice already given.
snuggly hope you get a rest later.
Em you do sound much happier, hope dh brightens up.
born the release from lockdown for those isolating or shielding is going to be hard. My mum was invited to an afternoon tea by a member of her craft group on Thursday. She accepted, but was really anxious and tearful on Thursday morning. Anyway she contacted the host and told her she was worried, but went anyway. She had a lift, but sat in the back and opened the window and then had a wonderful time. Everything had been set up at distance and she took her own cutlery, plates etc. I'm going to carry on doing her shopping for a while yet but try to gradually get her venturing out.
love enjoy your ring shopping.
wolf well done on your restraint

The weather is dreadful here and is forecast to stay that way for a good while. Not a great time for dh & I to have days off, tidying & sorting it is going to be then!

Born yes it's so tricky, dd is so stubborn (no idea where she gets that from 😉) so if I say anything she's more likely to do the opposite to prove a point. She is still eating but not enough and tends to eat a days worth of calories in a small window of time iyswim.

She's just back from a run and refused my suggestion she had a banana...

Spent most of Ystd on the assignment, got about 600 words done, 800 words left to go (and the 1500 word reflection!) will be so glad to get it done and out the way!

Today we're going to take the dog out for a walk and maybe pop into my mums later on.

Unescorted I hadn't taken offence and know you are on my side it's wise advice, just thought you might have missed the extra to in my original post

Life I just said Thanks

Mrs that sounds incredibly tough for you. Make sure you are looking after yourself. We all see how much you do for your mum and we appreciate you for it

Love have a fabulous time ring shopping

Ds has also been up all night again Snuggly so I feel your pain. This is why I wanted ex to have him so I could get some sleep

Em go out for a while with the kids and leave him to it. If he wants to stew let him. You've offered to help. He's being aggro with you so he can sort it himself.

North I think there will be a lot of nervousness around. On the positive side re your days off you can get out and about with more confidence as everyone else will be inside

Well restrained wolf. Your are doing an ace job under very difficult circumstances.

Ah thanks em, for me
I agree go out and let him stew. You've tried and been rebutted.

Got lunch and tea prepped to use up fridge stuff and take a pic nic. Will need to buy more f&v tomorrow or Tuesday

Morning all! It's still morning, just.
I'm the only one up in my house, they're all pretty nocturnal here after 3 months of no timetable. Dp doesn't/can't sleep much so keeps an eye while I tell them to tone down so I can sleep.
It's a problem we'll fix in August.

I'm still trying to catch up on where everyone is with their lives, and am kicking myself for walking away.

Anyhoo here's a pic (if it uploads) of our new addition, we called him Erik. Clive (who's nearly 20 now) has almost forgiven me.

Should be a nsd as not going out.

Cute.

Don't worry lonely. You are back now, that's what counts.

Brief summary from me;

Still living the other side of the Pennines from you, still not moved house but definitely next year.
DD started secondary and loves it, dh still cycling mad and my garage is full of stuff. He still only has one ass for multiple bikes.
I got promoted at work so am even more time poor.
DD is all about the horses now, DS does springboard diving. Neither are cheap hobbies.

Lonely Erik is a handsome boy 😻 he looks like he’s going to be a big cat. My old boy was 18 when I brought a kitten into the house and it was the making of him as he loved the kitten food and kitten milk.

Girlie that sounds like intermittent fasting I think it’s very popular right now with the young ones 🙄 If she is eating a reasonable amount of calories in the window she’s “allowed” to eat I wonder if her period stopping is unrelated.

Can't remember exactly where you are lonely, but we're still in the same place, maybe 50 miles south of you. I'm still quilting & getting a bit better I think. Dd is y10, doing well & quilting, crafting & being quite creative. Ds is 18 should've done A levels, finally diagnosed with chronic fatigue which has been a real help to have the diagnosis but hard to cope with at the same time. His world still revolves around football & cricket. He's trying to decide what to do next, once results are in.

Wind is really getting up now, I had dh out last night staking the delphiniums, it was definitely worth it! In the middle of a big sort out now which is good.

Erik is so cute! I am still in the same place too. Dts are now 3 would you believe!

Aaaah Erik!!!!!

Lonely we sold the family home and I put a deposit on a three bed for myself & dc in feb and moved into a rental house near the sea then, thinking it'd be for three months max we are there 4 months now and no idea when purchase will go through, hoping to meet with solicitor this week.
Au pair of 5 years is finishing up 8th August and only told me a couple of days ago. Big shake up to our lives.

Money is easier to manage now that finances are fully separate and I've got full control of what leaves my bank account & we've got a legal separation which sets out maintenance & he pays it by standing order weekly.

Dc are now 10 and 6 & we've got a lovely setter cross dog too

Erik is gorgeous

Oh God thank you all so much you are so kind to me listneign to my venting
I do find it helps me to vent , even if no one replies it's like l address it in my head I realise this sounds nuts.
LONELY ERIK IS BEAUTFUL

Erik is beautiful Lonely.

Updates wise I sorted my decree nisi myself, then thrashed out a potential financial arrangement with ex (no longer in work and hasn't paid child support in nearly a year) but drowned myself in paperwork so hired a solicitor to do it for me. The arrangement was sent to ex to consult with a solicitor and sign hits before lockdown. As all solicitors have closed we're stalled there.

I've been shipping bags of his crap over to him with ds every week during lockdown. Reclaiming the space in the house is making me feel lighter.

Following your inspiration I've paid off all debts except the mortgage and loan and I have healthy savings

The house flooded a bit earlier in the year so it's been a challenging time and thank goodness for insurance!

Ds is having a tough time with lockdown and it's been a bit rocky but we keep powering through