Lockdown (almost) over and frugalling continues!

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New thread. All welcome

Gosh girlie let us be your stress relief and yes softly softly for now.

We are hoping to sell next spring to snug and the mountain of stuff we have is over whelming. With the tip and chazza being shut I've not bothered so far. Paint remains un touched but I might throw money at that and get someone in

Em Google boobs or bust. You just need a tape measure.

Forgot £38 b&m on garden stuff.
Top to bottomed the house as couldn't let cleaner back to the filth it was

I've been buying storage boxes on Amazon too because I can't be bothered queueing at Ikea. Or driving there. Hoping dh will go to the tip tomorrow. Website says there's a 2 hour wait but actually he would probably enjoy 2 hours listening to the radio with no interruptions! Cupboard under the kitchen sink is next on my hit list.

I also need bras. One is threadbare, one gives me neck ache as it has weird straps. I have 2 more that fit but one is strapless so not really an every day one.

Started making a cake as I have eggs to use. Remembered I had no scales. Quick switch to an American recipe so hopefully it will come out ok

If anyone is near me and needs boxes you're welcome to them. Turns out ex was hoarding cardboard boxes.

Thanks for the new thread em.

Darling welcome.

Wolf, I know how you feel about not being able to get on with decorating, lots of ex's furniture here still too.

Girlie, I would be worried too, agree with others, take a softly softly approach .

I have also been sorting out bits that I can and got some nice boxes from wilkos that I can stack in the airing cupboard for things that don't get used often.

NSD today, was meant to go out and get dd2 some new trainers/canvas shoes as they are all too small, but I have been battling a migraine since yesterday afternoon and she wasn't to bothered about not going.
Will have to go tomorrow though.

@Wolfcub

If anyone is near me and needs boxes you're welcome to them. Turns out ex was hoarding cardboard boxes.

Oh my word why!!

Thanks life

Annoyingly I don’t have a tape measure (unless you count the builders one....!) but I’ll see if Dm has one!!!!

I'm not near you wolf but I could do with the boxes.

Pleased you got sorted with child care happier. It's very stressful when it breaks down.

Our junior school is definitely going back 7 September. Waiting on secondary now. Hopefully the same

@ememem84

Thanks life

Annoyingly I don’t have a tape measure (unless you count the builders one....!) but I’ll see if Dm has one!!!!

Could you use a piece of string (or similar) and a ruler?

snuggly I’ll work something out!!!

Just given both dc chicken curry and rice. Dd is almost 11m and ferociously independant and insistant in feeding herself. Mess. Mess. Mess. But happy.

Wolf we have a box collection too. Apparently if we have to sell anything????! Bits of the collection are so old that the item has long gone to the electrical socket in the sky.

I have done me things today - except Aldi (which was soooooo busy) £137 later. DH and Ds are still working towards their Bronze Duke of Housework award. The bookshelf has been assembled and filled - lots of junk from the old one has been ditched. DH is additionally working towards the Sherlock Award - he is inordinately proud of the box for all the batteries. Apparently because they are all in one place he won't need to hunt for them..... who knew.

girlie that sounds like a worry, definitely agree with others who have said softly softly.
wolf your ex is such an arse, he shouldn't get to pick & choose his time with ds.
life good news on primary school, fingers crossed for high school too

£125 on food shop today which is better than a lot of weeks have been. Had plumber/heating engineer round today to look at replacing our combi boiler. Now waiting for his quote. The existing one has lasted 15 years so has served us well.
Frugal win is my new sewing storage. Some friends were getting rid of Kallax shelving which I have transferred all my kit into it. No cost.
Made a lovely sourdough loaf this morning. Feel like I'm getting the hang of it now.
Ds has picked up some work doing one to one cricket coaching with some juniors. He seems to be taking it seriously and is going to plan sessions properly.
Went to our local market town today. It's all small shops there which seem to be really well organised. I splashed out on a new top which I love (£39).
HM pizza for tea tonight

Dh is stressed. I know this because he’s barely spoken today m, came to bed at 4am and he’s been engrossed in his phone. But is on the defensive. So I don’t actually know what’s wrong.

Sigh. Just leaving him to his mood I think.

Anyway. Nice day with the dc. I’m in bed now. Nice dinner a super splashy bath and some tv before bed for the dc. Have a nice cup of tea and am about to either read some book or watch some wardrobe organisation videos on YouTube.

@Unescorted , thank you , Mum & Bob had home made sausage, egg & chips and cheesecake & cream for lunch
They don't do badly even if l do say so !
Mum has been with Bob for 15 weeks now and in that time my Sister has been to see her once for 15 mins and my brother not at all. My Dh my Dd1 & myself go everyday to care for them . It's 16 miles away from us and just 6 miles away for my sister & brother. My sister has been going regularly to Hay on Wye and she literally passes Bob's door twice when she goes & returns, she went yesterday and my Dh was taking Bob out in his car (because he hasn't driven for 4 months and we wanted to make sure he was ok ) when they passed my sister and her husband on the way to Hay . She didn't even pop in for 5 mins to see Mum This is her 88 yr old mother who lost her Dh a year ago after 67 yrs of marriage. We are normally at Bob's by the time of their travelling, it was just chance that we saw her. I am aghast at her doing this. I can't even begin to understand it. l don't know how she can be like this . This would never have come to light if DH hadn't sat by Bob to check his driving. I am absolutely astonished at her coldness. I almost have to pinch myslef.

Families eh! That's not great of your b and s Mrs.

What did he say when you asked em? Leave him to it.

That's good for DS North. Good for him.

Ex is now making out like he's doing me a massive favour by having ds when I don't want him to rather than when I do. Le sigh. I am sitting in my texting fingers so that I don't say what I actually think

Thank you Life I should have put a warning Massive vent coming!
Wolf You are doing the right thing , don't say anything , once you start you might never stop

Mrs I wouldn't blame you on the vent.
Wolf be careful with the text... if you send him one that sounds even remotely like "I don't want DS" when taken out of context could be used against you at a later date. It is hard and we all know that everyone needs a break, but your Ex is top of the pile of Dickheadish Ex's. Look for a form of words that says "Ex you need to put time in with DS because your selective absence is causing him harm. Picking and choosing makes DS feel unloved and unwanted & that exacerbates his behaviour. Is that what your intention is?".

Unescorted I meant ex having ds when he wants, and when I don't want him to,to as a way to pretend to help me rather than when I need him to to actually help me. Not that I don't want ds

I know that is what you are saying - I didn't meant to imply any different. I am on your side in this. My worry is that he will take it out of context and play it to his advantage. So if you send one saying "Pull your weight dickhead" which is an understandable response he will twist it to say "why does your mother want so badly for me to take you?". So any communication has to be in a form that if it is read by anyone else in isolation it cannot be used to say something else entirely. Does that make sense?

Thank you Unescorted

Morning. I have had a dreadful night. Dd2 kept waking me up (she was in the bed with me) and every time I woke up it took ages to get comfortable and go back to sleep. I watched it get light then must have dozed off and ds got up at 6. Sunday is dh turn for a live-in and I didn't have the heart to ask to stay in bed, he always let's me have my sleep in on a Saturday, even if he's had a rough night with the dcs. . I'm going to be like a zombie all day.

Any chance of a nap later snuggly?

wolf your ex is so unreasonable.
Only wants to be Disney dad and not do the hard graft! I’d be forcing the issue on him removing the furniture too. You don’t owe him any favours whatsoever!

Do your brother and sister get on with your mum mrs?

Yesterday I bought a new printer as our stopped working before lockdown- £130.

We’re going to look at 💍 today. The DC will have to come too (no willing babysitter) so we’re expecting DP will have to take them off for a wander while I look especially whilst we have to limit people in shops? I doubt we will buy one today but get ideas and work out my ring size.

Hope DH is in a better mood today em. Would a walk down the beach or something to blow the cobwebs away help get him to talk about whatever it is, and away from the phone? You sound much happier now though